Swinging is not just for old folks. There is a growing number of young swingers between 18- and 30-years old. The number of young swingers is a minority in the entire swinging community, but a quickly growing segment. More and more young adults are discovering the pleasure of consensual non-monogamy.
If you are under the age of 21, you are going to have a much harder time finding your place in the lifestyle. Many states don’t legally allow underage people at swinger clubs because alcohol is present. Sorry, we didn’t make the law. You can still find play partners online and meet them privately, but resorts and parties might not be on your menu for a few more years.
Many swingers of all ages will be open to playing with younger swingers because you are young and good looking. Duh! Some swingers will decline to play if there is a big age gap. This is partially because some swingers like to develop friendships and chat with their swinger friends, and larger age gaps can mean fewer common interests. Don’t take it personally, because plenty of other swingers will be eager to play with you.
While you’ll certainly be welcomed with open arms, it might be a little harder to find other young swingers. If you want to make younger connections, check out the swinger resorts and swinger cruises. Many of these resorts have a few weeks each year dedicated to hosting parties just for young swingers. These designated weeks feature music, activities and events specifically geared towards a younger crowd. Hedonism in Jamaica hosts two weeks each year and Desire in Mexico turns the entire month of August into a young swingers playground. There are many swinger cruises you can also check out. These swinger cruises about 2000 to 4000 swingers onboard. Roughly 15% of the cruisers are usually young swingers which means 300 to 600 young swingers all on one sexy boat!
If you want to find younger swingers at the local level, your best bet is to look at the swinger community site that is most popular in your area. In many areas, Kasidie is slightly more popular than SLS among younger swingers. You will probably want to create a free account to make sure there are enough young people in your area before upgrading to a paid account.
Once you register an account, reach out to the younger profiles. Many younger swingers will wait for others to make the first move. Proactively sending the first message will help boost your chances of finding sexy connections. Get your Kik ready. Younger swingers tend to quickly migrate their communications out of the swinger websites and onto Kik.
Be prepared for younger swingers to be flakier than middle-aged swingers. To help protect you from a wasted evening, choose to meet at swinger events. Even if they bail at the last second, you can still party hard.
Don’t worry if you don’t see many young swingers in your area. Young swingers tend to form private, unlisted Kik groups to avoid being contacted by swingers outside of their preferred age range. When you chat with young swingers on the swinging websites, ask them if they have heard of any Kik groups. Not every city in the US has these Kik groups, but you’ll never find out about your area if you don’t ask. You can also try dating apps like Feeld, which is like Tinder but for swingers.
When you attend a swinger event, you will find out that age is more of a number than a clear indicator. You may find some 30-year-olds who aren’t aging gracefully. You may also come across some 40- or 50-year-olds who look better than you because they have been taking incredible care of their body (with help from modern science). We suggest you keep an open mind. You don’t want to accidentally close the door to some hot play opportunities just because you are blindly chasing after a certain age range. Respect everyone you meet, regardless of their age, and then privately connect with your sexy matches.
Play styles among younger swingers tend to be a bit different. Young swingers tend to be more open to bisexual and bi-curious guys willing to dabble. We aren’t saying all young swingers are bisexual swingers, because many young swingers are not. But it’s not unusual to find young swinger guys who are at least heteroflexible and willing to just enjoy sexy pleasure. Unfortunately, there is a stigma against bisexual men in the lifestyle (more common among older swingers). That stigma is diminishing every year. We are all here for a good time. Life is too short and the sex is too enjoyable amongst other consensual adults.
Another big difference in the younger crowd is playtime management. Younger swingers usually like to focus more time on drinking and dancing. Sex can become an afterthought that pops up very late in the night – or early morning. If you go to a swinger club on a designated young swinger night, you might see many attendees just enjoying the non-stop party and decide to skip the sexy playtime all together. If there is sexy time, it might not even start until after 2AM. Of course every party and every person is different. We aren’t saying that this trend is good or bad. We want to help you to be informed so you can be prepared for a variety of different scenarios that you may encounter.
A third difference that is more prevalent among younger swingers is the higher chance of illegal drug use. There are many drugs that can make you feel good. But when you are swinging, especially with new people, we strongly encourage you to not add the risk of drug use. People on drugs rarely make the wisest decisions, and too often they wind up with regrets. It sucks having to deal with a naked guy losing his cool and trying to start a fight because he is coked out of his mind while the police are banging on the hotel door.
Trust us, mixing illegal drugs and swinging is generally not the best move. Some young swingers think that molly can make the sex great. A hot swinger orgy is great and doesn’t need anything extra. If you take molly, you have a good chance of annoying your non-molly playmates because they will wonder why you want to be constantly touched in weird ways.