Life does not always follow that simple fairy tale story. We all grow up thinking that we will find the magical love of our life and ride off into the sunset raising a family. That sounds nice but it is a bit too simple and confining for many adults. Many people desire a more interesting life with more sexual excitement like swingers. If you are wondering what would ever motivate someone to become a swinger, we are here to help explain what is so attractive about swinging that around 5% of adults consider themselves non-monogamous. No need to gossip about your married friend who are talking about starting to swing, or that sexy couple you saw on vacation and wondered if they are swingers. You can keep asking yourself so many questions. Here are some of the more common reasons people swing:
Do Not Want To Split Up
When you and your partner both have an urge to experience some other sexual partners, yet you still love each other, you can discuss it and choose to become swingers. This only happens between partners who are very open to each other, and they are not afraid of being honest with each other as they share their sexual feelings. You do not want to split, or cheat on each other, so you decide to become swingers and do it together. As such, you can talk and reasonably solve the sexy issue together as a team.
Sex Life Is Stale But Your Love Is Strong
When you and your partner just met, you were doing great exciting things together, including some hot sex. But as you stay in the relationship for a long time, that flame of passion begins to dim. This happens to many couples. If this happens and you still love each other, and you are best of friends, and care for each other but you both want sexual excitement, then the swinging lifestyle can be a good answer. You can go into swinging and get satisfied plus reinvigorate your passion at home.
Some people naturally have sexual fantasies to see other people enjoy sex. What better way to enjoy your voyeur fantasy then to join the swinging lifestyle when you can regularly see some of the hottest & most passionate intimate performances play out in front of you. Real life intimacy is much hotter than any porn that Hollywood produces. Many swingers only soft swap because they enjoy the sexy atmosphere more than the actual full swapping fun.
Promote Sexy Competition
It is true that some individuals like for their partners to get aroused by others. You never know how good you are at sex or how much better you can become until you start having sex with other people and comparing yourself. It is less about jealousy and more about a friendly competition to do your best and learn how to be even better. It is thrilling to become even better at sex and to amaze your partner back home as you practice your newly learned skills that you picked up from your swinger friends.
Some Like To Break The Rules
Some people feel good when they break society rules. Why does society have to control and dictate how we live our life? Why can’t we do what feels good when we want & how we want? Some people just love the taboo feeling of breaking out of society norms and being a little bit naughty together with their partner. Society rules may not agree with swinging, and when one enjoys feeling naughty about breaking this rule, they can become swingers.
Monogamy Isn’t a Match For Everyone
Some people cannot bear seeing their partners sad due to their cheating. Some people are just not meant to be monogamous. They crave a variety in their life. They don’t want to be intimately limited to only one person for the rest of their life. Eating the same meal every night for the rest of your life can get boring. This is how non-monogamous people when it comes to sex. They see variety as a more fun option. These people want to live as their true selves and enjoy consensual swinging, so that they can have the option of having sex with different people without hurting any of them.
Headed For A Divorce
Truth be told, some couples will swing if divorce is around the corner and they are desperate for a last chance solution. Swinging can help couples in many ways but it is not a good solution for people with a relationship on shaky ground. These couples are so desperate that they don’t realize they are making another mistake in a long line of relationship mistakes. It would be much better for these couples if they were honest and communicating with each other as they worked together to improve their relationship instead of seeking a sexy distraction to the fundamental flaws in their already broken relationship.
Swinger couples come from all over the world, and most of them do not wake up and magically find themselves swingers. They have an inner desire that grows over time. These sexually open people learn about the different options they can live their sexy lives and join the swinging lifestyle. We are all normal human beings. Some of us just choose to explore our sexuality differently than the simple, plain vanilla option. Vanilla isn’t bad but I think we can all agree that not everyone loves vanilla. Thankfully we each can live our life choosing among many different tasty flavors to find the flavor that works best for each of us.