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Where To Go Swinging

Let’s uncover the many options for those people that are interested in actually swinging with other real-life swingers in the flesh!  Don’t worry we’ll start slow and build up to the more intense events. There is no right or wrong way to enter the lifestyle.  You can pick & choose which options work best for your personal situation.  Enjoy and happy swinging!

Strip Clubs

If you’re ready to take a step towards the lifestyle but not yet ready to deal with other couples in person, you can try visiting a strip club together. Make sure you choose a classy strip club; believe it or not, strip clubs don’t have to be creepy and disgusting! Some are, but lots are sexy, fun, and reputable. There are websites dedicated to providing reviews of strip clubs; study them to choose the best one in your area.  Don’t expect sex with the dancers just be happy with the sexy experience.

Meet & Greet Events

Meet & Greets are social networking opportunities for swingers that don’t include any onsite play. You get dressed up and get a good look at other swingers in your area. You can ask any questions that you have about the lifestyle or community and get personal, informative answers. There’s no pressure to take the plunge into physically playing with other swingers. Some swingers limit their involvement in the lifestyle to Meet & Greets; they find the sexy conversation and social aspect enough to fulfill their needs. You can attend as many Meet & Greets as you want before taking the next step to swinger clubs or onsite swinger parties.

On-Premise Swinging Parties & Clubs

So meet & greet events are “off-premise” affairs since you meet & the party but the sexy stuff happens off-site.  “On-premise” is when the sexy stuff is happening on site.  At on-premise events, you show up, party, and socialize with other swingers.  If you make a connection you can have some sexy time right there at the swinger party. Usually, most couples play together.  Of course, you can play separately but that is less common.  Most often one sexy couple finds another sexy couple and they swap. House Parties are one form of on-premise swinger parties. Swinger clubs are another on-premise option.  Just like house parties, and regular vanilla bars & clubs, every swinger club is a little bit different.

Swinger Vacations

If you want a really memorable experience and get away from your local area for your swinging fun, you can take a swinger vacation.  Several travel destinations are great for people that want to play in the lifestyle. Maybe there aren’t good clubs near you, or you’ve decided to only dabble in swinging when traveling or you just like to travel. Whatever your reason, there are plenty of sexy hotspots for you to enjoy.

Online Swinger Sites & Privately Meet

Figure out the popular swinger site for your local area & create a paid profile. You get what you pay for, so make sure to go with a paid account. Many swingers filter out & ignore free accounts plus many swinger sites severely limit the functionality of free accounts. It’s no secret better-looking people get more online attention, so present yourself in the best light. You don’t need to be a supermodel. Put on a good looking swinger outfit, use a sexy pose, have good lighting, etc. Then write up a good swinger profile. Once you have a good swinger profile get active. Don’t wait for other profiles to seek you out. Reach out to other swinger profiles you like. Send a friendly & tasteful message that mentions something specific about their profile. Then send another & another. It is not easy to find a four-way connection so reach out to several couples. Monitor your account each day so you don’t keep anyone waiting. As the online flirting progresses and you find a couple you want to meet in real life, pick a fun location you will still enjoy if they no show.

Last Updated: February 28, 2022
Written By:Dr. Georgia

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