The moment you decide to take your sexual pleasure to another level by trying out the swinging lifestyle is an exciting time. Now, you are wondering “Where can I meet other swingers?” It is not like this discreet sexy lifestyle is advertised in TV commercials or swingers walk the streets wearing a shirt with “I’m A Swinger” emblazoned on it. You probably don’t want to ask your vanilla friends for help otherwise they will know you are interested in swinging. So how does someone figure out where to find swingers in their local neighborhood? Here are some of the many places you can check out to connect with your local swingers.
Swinger Dating Sites
One of the best ways to find other swingers is to join the swinger dating site that is most popular to your local area. This is one of the most efficient ways of connecting with local swingers. These sites also have forums and a calendar of local parties and club events. You will need to pay a membership fee to the dating sites which helps keep out the fakers & trouble makers. A nice thing about the online dating sites is that you can move at your own pace. You can build out as much or as little of your profile as you feel comfortable. You can respond to messages from other swingers at your own pace. You can talk with your partner and sleep on it before responding to a message or offer to meetup. To find the right site for your local area, we did the research for you. Go here to check out our swinger dating site rankings.
Many places have a local swingers club. These member only social clubs are a great place to meet fellow open minded people. Check out our swinger club directory or search Google. Swingers at these clubs are looking to make new friends and have a sexy fun time. They are very similar to a vanilla night club with just a twist… a sexy twist. There is usually a good bit of skin on display and often these clubs have private or semi-private places you can use for sexy fun. You might need to drive an hour to your closest club (or more if you live in a rural area) but it is very worth it to finally find like minded sexy friends. To protect everyone’s privacy the club will likely ask you to go through a screening process.
This is harder option for a rookie swinger but if you are super lucky it is a very fun option. Swingers like to have fun and make new friends, so many swingers will host private house parties. You might see a house party posted on the calendar of the swinger dating site for your local area or hear other people in the swinger club talking about an upcoming party. To attend these house parties, you need to be invited by the party host. SO try to make as many connections as you can in the club and on your swinger dating site. House parties are super fun and usually the hosts will let you borrow a bedroom for some naughty fun if you make a special connection at the party.
Swinger Friend Networks
We are not fans of this option but it is a common option. Some swingers will approach their vanilla friends and invite them to become swingers. We prefer making friends out of swingers and not making swingers out of friends.
Not everyone is a good match for the swinging lifestyle. If something goes bad, you risk losing your vanilla friend and possibly being exposed to gossip and rumors. Some people even use Facebook groups to build a local swinger friend network which opens up many privacy concerns. You can go this route but please be careful and think twice before making a decision that can risk your privacy and vanilla friendships.
Meet and Greet Bars
There are casual, low pressure Meet & Greet social meetups with no sex play. They are often held at a regular local bar or restaurant. At the meet and greet, you get to meet new and old friends outside the “sexual environment”. This can help you build up friendly connections without feeling pressured as talk and mingle with one another. At the meet and greet bar, you get to meet a lot of potential friends whom from there can later become your swing partner. Although, if the meet and greet bar is crowded, people will become carried away by chats and gist from old friends and cliques which might be very difficult to snap back to the main reason of the meeting. To find a local meet & greet check out the calendar of events on your local swinger dating site.
Swinger Friendly Vacation Resorts
There are some extra sexy resorts that are popular with swingers. Not every guest at these resorts are in the swinging lifestyle but most guests do participate. You can go to these swinger friendly resorts and enjoy a super sexy vacation with your special someone. Worst case, you keep to yourself and enjoy a very sensual honeymoon style vacation. Best case, you make many new swinger friends and explore as many of your sexy fantasies as you wish. The top swinger resorts are Desire RM & Desire Pearl in Cancun, Mexico, and Hedonism in Jamaica. If you are worried about what will you tell your vanilla friends back home, relax. These resorts provide a discreet phone number that does not identify the name of the resort and you can tell your friends you are staying at a nearby vanilla friendly hotel to keep your swinging fun a secret.