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You are here: Home / Swinging Basics / What are Soft Swapping Swingers?

What are Soft Swapping Swingers?

Soft swapping swingers like to engage in foreplay and other sexy acts with other people but reserve full penetrative sex for their partner. Soft swapping could include kissing, caressing, playing with breasts, oral sex, or anything else except for penetration below the waist. Many soft swap couples prefer this style so they can have fun without crossing boundaries they have set for themselves. Some couples find full sex with someone other than their partner too intimate, but they enjoy soft swap excitement.

When you soft swap, you can switch back to your own partner for full sex so you can relish the sexy atmosphere with your loved one, or you can head back home to finish the sexy night in private. Another benefit to soft swap is that it can limit your health risks but keep in mind that some STIs don’t require penetration to be spread.

Another reason for soft swapping is to help with erection issues. Some guys don’t feel comfortable performing for another lady. They may have difficulty maintaining an erection with condoms, so a soft swap brings the fun & excitement without any pressure-induced ED issues. The people that soft swap tend to feel less performance pressure. This lack of pressure can actually lead to an even hotter performance.

If you are inexperienced, you might think that there is no way soft swap can be hotter than full swap, but it can be very much hotter with the right people. Many couples even feel that soft swapping is more intimate than a full swap. When you are having a full swap, the focus can end up being more physical. When you have a soft swap, you are kissing, caressing, and saying some very sexy things, all of which can feel much more intimate and sexy.

Soft swap sessions can also last much longer than full swap sessions. You are enjoying the moment and savoring the sexy fun. You aren’t in a rush to orgasm. Soft swap sessions tend to be more inclusive since you can have many people kissing and caressing in a sexy pile. You can be kissing someone while touching another person’s body as a third person is touching you, and that is pretty freaking hot.

Soft swap empowers you to have more variety in your sex life without the headaches that full swap swinging can introduce. Communicating early and often is a good way to have a sexy and happy play session. You shouldn’t think that soft swap is just for beginners. Full swap swinging veterans can and have changed their preferred play style to soft swap from full swap. Each couple has their own unique definition of a soft swap, so you should ask new soft swap play friends about what is or is not on the menu and feel comfortable telling them your own rules.

 

Last Updated: January 29, 2021
Written By:Dr. Georgia

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