If you’re ready to take a step towards the lifestyle but not yet ready to deal with other couples in person, you can try visiting a strip club together. Make sure you choose a classy strip club; believe it or not, strip clubs don’t have to be creepy and disgusting! Some are, but lots are sexy, fun, and reputable. There are websites dedicated to providing reviews of strip clubs; study them to choose the best one in your area.
Once you’ve chosen a club and decided to go, make sure you treat the evening as a sexy date night. Get dressed up and look hot for each other. For all intents and purposes, it is a sexy date night – much sexier than a steak dinner at a restaurant, or an action movie. You and your partner are going out together for the express purpose of having a sensual, intimate time. The goal is to enjoy the excitement of the strip club until you just can’t wait to get back to your bedroom.
We are going to assume that all you upstanding boys and girls have never stepped foot in a strip club. Let’s go over some of the things you’re likely to encounter.
Types of Strip Clubs
There are generally two types of strip clubs: all-nude establishments without a liquor license, or topless bars where you can order alcohol. Depending on the local laws of your state or city, you might find a club that deviates from these two types but these tend to be the more common options across the USA.
You’ll likely have to pay a cover charge and/or order a specific amount of drinks. Those drinks – even the non-alcoholic ones – will probably be mind-bogglingly expensive. Don’t be surprised if you find yourself holding a $9 bottle of water – we wish we were joking! Be sure to tip your waitress (generously, if possible) – a happy waitress will help you out later. There are some strip clubs that allow you to bring in your own drinks but they are more likely to have a high cover charge or very insistent strippers pushing lap dances because they need to make money somehow.
Once you have your drinks, you’ll be able to take a seat at a table. Many clubs also have seating right alongside the stages. There will be strippers walking around and approaching everyone, asking if they want a dance. This is good practice for curious newbies to talk about which dancers they find sexy and why. It’s also good practice for swinger newbies to learn how to be comfortable saying “no thanks.” Trust us, there will be no shortage of girls asking if you want a dance, and you’ll quickly get very good at turning them down politely.
A lap dance usually costs $20 or more, and will last for one song. During the song, the stripper will grind their almost-naked body against your fully-clothed body. You should not touch the stripper during the dance. It’s not allowed, and you risk getting thrown out of the club. When the dance ends, the stripper will likely whisper in your ear, asking if you want another dance – which puts another $20 in their pocket.
Lap Dances & Touching
Most strippers will happily give lap dances to ladies, and some strippers are lax about the “no touching” rule when it comes to a female customer.
If you pay for a few dances, the stripper will try to upsell you into the VIP champagne room. These rooms are private, or semi-private, and have much looser rules about what you can and can’t do with the stripper. Of course, you have to pay for this privilege: usually several hundred dollars, and sometimes over a thousand dollars! And don’t be too excited about that champagne. There’s almost never champagne in the champagne room, and if there is champagne it’s probably not worth drinking. The champagne room is not about drinking fine bubbly stuff.
If you opt for a visit to the champagne room, you can have a light threesome session with the stripper. With looser “no touching” rules, your dancer may allow you to touch or possibly even kiss her. If you’re in a classy club, you’ll be expected to remain fully clothed throughout the session. Those review sites we mentioned earlier often provide very clear hints about what happens in the VIP room at a given strip club, so use those as a guideline when you’re looking for a club that will meet your needs.
You might never make it to the VIP room; after all, you’re in a very sexy club with your very sexy partner, and the heat level can ramp up quickly! You might find yourself rushing home with your loved one to relive the night through a sexy roleplay or straight-up passionate sex.
The next day, you can debrief about what did and didn’t go well. Don’t be afraid to talk about your negative feelings. Did either of you feel any jealousy, insecurity, or resentment? Talk about those feelings and isolate the trigger points so you can avoid them in the future. The more you talk through issues before they arise, the smoother your swinging path will be. Strip clubs can be very useful for new couples to test how they might react seeing another person touch their partner in a sexy way.