Sex parties can require a good bit of time, energy & money. It is entirely understandable to think about collecting money for hosting your sex party. Before you accept any cash, it is best to think twice about it.
We are about to bring up some potentially scary situations. Before you freak out, remember if you are only inviting people you know well & not publicly advertising, the odds of trouble is very low. However, if you think there is a significant demand for sex parties & this could be a way to pay your mortgage, well, then you should pay attention.
Remember, we are not lawyers or accountants, nor do we know your local situation. You should consult professionals to ensure you protect yourself.
Why? If you accept cash from guests who attend your house party, the local government may treat you as a business, creating expensive headaches for you. If you are a business, there are additional regulations & laws you likely need to follow.
You might be thinking, but “I’m a small party, who is going to bother with me.” Well, it only takes one angry neighbor or rejected guest to blow the whistle on your sex party.
Once someone says “sex party” aloud, it can quickly trigger the self-appointed morality police into action. These busybodies will amplify the demands to close you down any way they can. Life isn’t fair, so protect yourself from significant legal issues.
Here are some pitfalls that can open up when you transition from a free private party to a paid party.
You are no longer making food for friends but selling it as part of your business (even if you include it in the price of admission). That likely means you need to become certified in food safety and have that paperwork ready for inspection. You would need to make sure your home kitchen meets whatever local food preparation regulations are in place. Even if you do everything right, you need to keep your guard up for food allergies.
Some people have severe food allergies, and undisclosed allergen ingredients could lead to a lawsuit.
Before you tell us, “but these people are our friends,” let us remind you that you can’t predict how people will behave when they are in a bad situation.
Some areas have strict fire codes. Even a simple fire code for businesses can be a big hassle for a residential home to comply with. These codes can limit how many people can attend. You might need to apply for a permit in advance.
Even if you meet all the different parts of the fire code, being a business might allow the fire department to conduct surprise inspections on your home. Remember, angry & fearful people don’t play fair.
Most places require a liquor license which can be expensive or simply impossible to acquire. If you think you’ll sidestep this by not selling alcohol and having guests bring their own, you still need to research the specific regulations.
For example, if you offer to share your liquor with a friend who paid admission or make a big batch of jello shots, that may be considered selling alcohol because they paid admission. Even if you don’t give out any alcohol, you might still find yourself in trouble if you let people store it overnight in your place or if underage drinking happens, depending on your local laws.
We didn’t make up these archaic rules, but they exist in many places, so research them. Each locale can be different, so hire a lawyer experienced in your area.
Accepting money might make you liable for local, state, or federal taxes. Even if you don’t owe taxes, you might still be required to file paperwork or face stiff fines. Don’t guess about this, speak to your accountant. The more advertising you do, the more likely it will pop up on someone’s radar. If the local authorities aren’t comfortable with the swinging lifestyle, they may use any & every trick to shut you down like a tax investigation.
Have your lawyer look over your home insurance policy to ensure you can run a home business. Some home insurance policies are voided if you do.
You want good protection, especially since you will have people drinking and partying, which often leads to accidents.
It could be as simple as falling down some stairs or disastrous if someone drives home drunk and has a car accident.
You could be legally liable for that car accident. You may need to sign up for a separate business insurance policy to protect yourself.
Your friendly police force might be looking for an excuse to visit you, especially if your advertising has been seen by an offended person who wants to stop your fun. Ignoring local noise regulations could give them an excuse for entering your party.
You might think you are safe, but one of your guests might raise the volume when you are out of the room or open up windows that will carry the sound farther. Know your local regulations and abide by them.
You probably don’t have a private parking lot for all of your guests, so you need to make sure you and all of your guests follow the local parking regulations. Send out clear instructions and remind all guests to ensure no one has their car towed or ticketed.
A large group of cars can also attract more police attention so you may want to spread out your parking places.
Online Payment Issues
This isn’t a government issue, but it is another business pitfall. Many online payment processors do not allow sex-related businesses of any kind.
According to the terms of service that almost no one reads, they may reserve the right to lock your account and keep your money or at least keep it frozen for a long time. If an angry guest complains or if the wrong person finds your invitation, they can report you, and you might lose all of the money.
Make sure to read all of the fine print of any payment service.
Donation Loophole Mirage
With all of these potential pitfalls, you might be thinking that you won’t charge admission but instead ask for donations to hopefully dodge these requirements.
Depending on how you do this & how your local laws are written, it might make no difference. Some areas say accepting money in any manner will trigger business regulations and statutes.
This is not a complete list, so please speak to a lawyer and accountant that knows your local area so you can protect yourself. Hopefully, you won’t have any issues, but we have heard too many horror stories of even vanilla house parties being targeted.
When seeking lawyers, you will find many of them charging you higher rates or simply refusing your business because they don’t want to be associated with any sex-related business.
If they take you on as a client, they may not agree to represent you in court. It is one thing to help you research and privately consult with you on matters. That is different from being willing to be publicly seen representing a sex business.
Phew, so much negativity.
Let’s get back to the fun.
Wicked Guide to Hosting Sex Parties
- Start Hosting Your Own Sex Parties
- Where to Host Sex Parties?
- Navigating Your Invite List
- Changing Vanilla Spaces Into Sexy Ones
- Design Tips For Sex Party Spaces
- Crafting Your Sex Party Rules
- Top Pitfalls of Accepting Cash
- How To Feed Your Guests
- Choosing The Best Party Theme
- Games for Entertaining Swingers
- Tips From Veteran Sex Party Hosts
We hope you enjoyed reading this hosting guide! Remember, there is no single right way to host a great sex party. Be smart and adapt these things to fit your party & preferences best.