Swinging involves all sorts of people from all sorts of backgrounds, ages and body types. So yes, swinging most definitely is BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) friendly.
Non-monogamous people tend to be more accepting that human bodies come in all shapes and sizes (and that all shapes and sizes are gorgeous). Swingers, come from all different areas of society and are diverse in their preferences.
When you first go to a swingers club or experience a hotel takeover or private party (whatever tickles your fancy) you’ll probably notice that the scene is full of different types of people, carrying different types of bodies. Part of the culture involves being open minded. Swingers accept and embrace each other for who they are and loving their bodies as they come.
Most women say they have felt nothing but adored at parties and events, though some say that they can find it harder to find playmates (if you find this is the case – remember that’s on them, not you – they’re the ones missing out). Overwhelming though, BBW describe themselves as feeling very welcomed into new swingers groups.
Many BBW swingers have said their confidence and self-esteem actually grew from the warm welcomes they received when they entered the swinging lifestyle. Newbies to the swinging lifestyle tend to overthink & worry about everything but once they get a taste of the real swinging community they don’t hesitate stripping naked & being proud of their own sexy self.
There are some swinger group who specifically cater towards larger women, so if you feel this might be more helpful for you it is a good option to explore. Or other swinger clubs host evenings dedicated to the celebration and love of BBW – sometimes called things like ‘Voluptuous Vixen’ or ‘Curvy Women’ nights.
Just remember that holding yourself in a way that is approachable, confident, and friendly, is likely to get you further with finding play partners than your body type anyway.
Need to lose weight before swinging?
Absolutely not – swingers are regular people just like you. Almost none of us are perfectly airbrushed models. Instead, we have squishy bits and cellulite and sagging bits. As long as you are fit enough for sexy time in bed you will do fine. Some swingers like to improve their physical fitness so they can increase their stamina in the bedroom, but don’t feel under any pressure to do this. If you are happy and confident and enjoy your body then just go as you are – your body will be loved and adored, we promise. Many swingers strongly believe a ladies internal confidence is what makes her sexy & not the number printed on her dress label.
How to find BBW friendly swingers?
Join the local swinger dating site that is popular for your region. They will have a list of nearby swinger groups & parties. Maybe of these are designed specifically for BBWs and the people who adore larger women. Honestly, these groups are nice but unnecessary. Most BBW swingers can easily find play partners naturally at almost every swinger party and other swinger meet & greets.
What do BBW swingers wear?
The simple answer is that BBW swingers wear what everyone else wears. Depending on the party theme and dress code it might be a teasing costume or it might be sexy lingerie or it might be nothing at all if its a nude party. If you are new to the swinging world, you might not have too many sexy options. Relax. Here is a article with sexy BBW swinging wardrobe options to help you build out your choices & boost your confidence with your sexy body!
What about rejection?
We aren’t going to claim that every swinger absolutely craves & desires every BBW. Swinging is just like real life. In real life different people like & desire different things. Some people get really hot & heavy for blonde hair while other people absolutely adore brunettes. Because we all have different tastes & desires there is going to be some polite swinger rejection. That is a good thing because you also want the power to pick your own swinging partners. You might be BBW but you still have your own preferences, maybe you love tall men or are turned off by very hairy men. Not to mention, if they look like your dream swinging partner their personality style might not match yours. We are all different and it is all ok, as long as we are all polite & respectful to each other. Swingers are mature and understand that we aren’t a perfect match for everyone else. Regardless if we find a sexy match at the swinger club or not, we are all still going home with the sexiest person – our own partner.
How do I handle insecurity?
When you walk into that room, look around you. You will see a sea of beautiful faces. Every man & woman will have their own swinger insecurities. They might feel they are too old to be there, they might be self conscious about their skin, or their smile. They will look gorgeous to you, but everyone thinks its their ‘imperfections’ that are the most obvious.
There are some great resources out there on body positivity to help people increase their self confidence. This kind of work on your insecurities will not only benefit you on the swingers scene but in all aspects of life – helping you carry your head a little higher and give
It’s important not to compare yourself to others, but instead to celebrate your own body shape instead. If you’re an older BBW, remember that just being there you will inspire and give confidence to younger larger women. You will be respected and admired by these younger people, and make them feel more confident and able to be there. If nothing else can help you overcome your insecurities, perhaps keep this in mind.
While nobody is everybody’s cup of tea, the swingers lifestyle tends to be welcoming to everyone. The only way you will find out for sure if its a good match for you is by trying it yourself. Love yourself, embrace who you are, and be confident knowing you will attract the people who will love your body.
When you feel comfortable we suggest you sign up for the local swinger dating site popular in your area. Don’t worry you don’t need to give your real name or upload pictures (though sexy pictures will attract more friends). Sign up and browse the swinger dating site member profiles. You will soon see that this sexy lifestyle has plenty of plus-sized sexy people. When you are ready to take the next step, upgrade to a paid membership so you can send & receive messages and party invitations. Have a sexy time living your best life!