Desire welcomes all people looking for a sexy vacation and that includes swingers who make up anywhere from 1/3 to 2/3 of guests depending on the week. In case you aren’t familiar with the swinging lifestyle, let’s explain a few concepts.
Lifestylers Aren’t Nymphomaniacs
Couples in the swinging lifestyle are normal, nice & respectful. They know that drama isn’t fun & avoid awkward moments. If a swinging couple meets another couple they will do a bit of vanilla socializing because they enjoy making friends. If there is a mutual attraction, it might lead to sensual adult fun later but only clear communication. No need to worry about swingers pressuring you at Desire.
Many Swingers Are Actually Shy
Yes, you read that correctly. A lot of swingers are bashful in new social situations including totally vanilla parties. Now imagine these same people navigating lifestyle encounters. Not only do they struggle to overcome their feelings of social awkwardness, they also worry about offending someone with a misread signal or being rejected. There is an intricate but invisible tango dance as two couples try to figure out if there is strong mutual sexual attraction. It’s actually not as easy as you would think to find a four way connection needed for adult fun time between two couples.
Swingers Aren’t Looking for Love
Swingers aren’t trying to steal your partner. Swinging couples have already found their ideal mates. They choose to have sexual play with others because….it’s fun. Yes, swingers love to have sexy time with friends but they don’t fall in love with them. Healthy lifestyle couples draw clear emotional as well as physical boundaries to avoid messy entanglements.
Swinging Is Usually A Team Event
Most swingers like to have naughty fun together so they often play in the same room with the other couple. Occasionally some swingers have a “hall pass” and that means they have permission from their partner to play with other people without them but that is less common.
Many Different Styles in the Lifestyle
Swingers are a friendly bunch and each couple does what is best for their own relationship. Some couples are only soft swap (foreplay & oral) & other couples are full swap (intercourse). Some couples only play in the same room and other couples are open to separate rooms. Some couples are primarily interested in threesomes rather than foursomes. Each couple in the lifestyle talks with their own partner to figure out what rules & boundaries are best for them.
No Means No
You’ll hear a lot of swingers say “no expectations” because nothing obligates anyone to play. At any time, anyone can say no. Consent and keeping everyone happy & safe are very important to swingers.
Attracting Swingers At Desire
If you are experienced in the lifestyle, you are going to be fine at Desire. And if you’re not super experienced, you’re going to be fine at Desire. Showing off your sexy body will lead to a bit of flirting from other swinging couples. If you feel a hot connection with any of those couples, make your interest known. The Jacuzzi lounge and SIN room obviously tend to be central meeting places for couples looking to play with others. Just make sure to avoid the rookie mistake of only talking to one person in the couple. You want to be friendly & respectful to both to build a four-way connection.
Is Desire a good place for lifestyle rookies?
Desire is not an ideal starting place for couples considering their first play experience. Why? Before you take that big first step, you should research & talk with your partner. You both want to make an honest & informed decision when you aren’t drunk or caught up in passion. If you have done your homework, we still aren’t fans of rookies playing at Desire. You never know how you will react from your first experience and it can be extra intimidating at a place like Desire where you are likely to see the couple you played with for several more days as you process the experience. Smaller, local swinging events tend to be easier first steps for rookies. You can take smaller, more incremental steps and ease into the lifestyle. You want to only go as fast as the slowest person. We prefer being extra cautious. Many rookie couples take their first lifestyle steps at Desire and love it. We aren’t saying you can’t start at Desire because many swingers successfully do it all the time. We’re just suggesting there might be a better & lower risk situation for you to start your lifestyle journey.
SIN Room aka Sex Playroom
Location, location, location. This sexy room connected to the disco is HQ for swingers at Desire. It has complimentary towels & condoms for you to enjoy the many beds and sex furniture in this seductively lit room. You can play with just your partner or bring another couple in with you. Everyone is absolutely expected to ask before touching anyone. This is a sensual room for consenting adults using their respectful manners – not a crazy orgy with no rules. Ok, there might be a crazy orgy in the SIN room but only after everyone involved says yes to it. Thankfully, this room has extra air conditioning so you can get extra hot without getting extra sweaty.
Curious about swinging lifestyle?
If you are curious about the swinging lifestyle, check out the our book Swingers’ Little Helper. This 310 page book explains it all. You can buy it on Amazon or get it for free by joining our newsletter. Ethical non-monogamy is not a simple thing that we can fully explain in a few paragraphs here.
Naughty Travel Guide to Desire Resorts
- Welcome to Desire Resorts!
- Best Time to Visit Desire
- Choosing Your Room
- What to Wear
- Dining Options
- Desire Discounts & Savings
- Less Thinking, More Drinking
- Entertainment Options
- Sexy Fantasies Made Real
- Swinging at Desire
- Beware Timeshare Tangle
- Drawbacks of Desire
- Other Sexy Vacations
- Weird but Helpful Tips
- Packing List for Desire
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