Congratulations on being parents! Ready to recapture your sexy side for some swinging adventures? We are here to help you navigate that tricky path from your post-pregnancy situation into your sexy swinging future! It doesn’t matter if you are new to the swinging lifestyle or re-entering it after taking a temporary swinger break for your pregnancy. You can confidently reclaim your sexiness!
Having a baby is stressful. It is no simple or easy thing in the best of circumstances. There is a real mental and physical toll that parents handle while taking care of that new bundle of joy, but it doesn’t have to be an 18 year sentence of celibacy. New parents can still enjoy the swinging lifestyle.
We aren’t saying it is going to be easy or uncomplicated. Obviously the logistics are a bit more complex for parents who need to organize a babysitter or hand baby over to the grandparents (who may or may not return said baby). The logistics will be the easier aspect to handle. The bigger challenge for many new parents, especially moms, is the struggle to reinvigorate their sexual confidence. If you are unsure about swinging, remind yourself how incredibly sexy you still are to others.
Get ready to be reacquainted with your sexual energy and keep reading. Please remember that we haven’t met you or your partner so you are going to have to reflect on these options to figure out what would be best for your own personal situation.
Here are a few ways to help boost your sexual confidence!
Embrace your postpartum body. It probably doesn’t look exactly the way it used to pre-pregnancy BUT THAT’S OKAY. You are still a sexy, sexy beast! Treat yourself to a few new lifestyle wardrobe options to better match your new, insanely sensual body. Go swinger shopping or go online and then do a private fashion show at home for your special someone. It’s a great confidence boost! Be warned though that your partner may get so aroused that the intimate fashion show turns into a naughty sex act.
The right clothes boost confidence by accentuating our best features and distracting from areas we think are less than ideal. If you aren’t feeling happy with your post-baby belly, a sexy corset can change your mind. Many hot lingerie options have hidden support & compression panels. For new moms who don’t feel comfortable in a new body, finding sexy clothes that flatter those new curves can really bring out your inner MILF!
It’s practically impossible to feel sexy when you’re physically exhausted all the time. Sneak in some self pampering whenever you can. If your super thoughtful partner doesn’t surprise you with a spa day, treat yourself to a long soak in a bubble bath. A little “extra” sleep is another surefire way to recharge your battery. None of us are perfect and we can all use as much help as we can conjure up. Don’t hesitate to lean on others who offer to take care of baby. There’s nothing wrong with staying home to pamper yourself while someone else is on diaper duty!
The more you take care of yourself, the better you will feel and be able to give back to your family. If you want to be a better partner and parent, try to treat yourself as well as you treat the ones you love. Treat yourself to your swinging grooming even if you don’t have a playdate. Get a haircut, have a massage, do whatever you enjoy! Taking care of yourself is the first step to being able to take care of your family and stave off the craziness of juggling all of your parental duties. Sometimes the smartest thing to do is to do nothing at all. Give yourself permission to take a break.
Arrange a Boudoir Photo Session
Once you have your sexy wardrobe handled, consider a professional boudoir photo session to capture your amazing body. A professional photographer can take amazing photos to truly showcase your beauty. Pros know how to adjust the lighting, background, and your body position to create a priceless time capsule of the sexiness flowing from your body. These photo sessions don’t make you sexy, they simply open your eyes to the reality of your sexy body.
After your boudoir session, have the images turned into a private photobook for your partner — or yourself! Consider having your favorite picture framed and hung in your bedroom (or closet for extra privacy) so you can be reminded every single day of how truly beautiful and sexy you are even if you might not be feeling 100% confident that day. A framed boudoir picture is a great ego booster.
Ease in with Meet & Greet Events
Returning to the swinging lifestyle after pregnancy can be very intimidating. Many new parents are fearful about being judged because we are all our own harshest critics. Sometimes we forget that the lifestyle is actually a very friendly and supportive community. So how to overcome new body fears when you are also stressed out being a new parent? Start with meet & greet events!
Swinger Meet & Greets are a great way to meet with friendly swingers. Since there is no on-site playing, you don’t have to face the fear of getting naked the first time you meet. This option enables you to ease in with a low stress, fun event before going full speed at a swinger club or house party filled with naked people having sexy time. You can make a connection with a new couple and let your comfort level grow till you feel ready to share your sexy self with others.
Sincerely Compliment Each Other
When you are in a relationship, complimenting each other can frankly be a bit blah unless you actually mean it. How do you communicate to each other that you are sincere? Do it differently each time and be specific. Don’t say “you look sexy” the same exact way you have said it the last five years. Your compliment will come across much more authentically if you say something specific like, “Wow! Your ass looks even hotter in those jeans” or “Your legs look great in those heels”. Be specific about your compliments and don’t repeat yourself.
We are all our own harshest critic but we also have the power to become our own best advocate. Believe the compliments that come your way. Grab your inner megaphone and start building up your confidence! Swingers are strongly attracted to confidence so make yourself feel better and attract more sexy swingers by being the best advocate for yourself!
Compliment in Front of Others
While we are complimenting each other, let’s also remember to do it in front of other people. This opens the door for the other people to join in on the compliments so it’s not just you and your partner laying out the praise. Other people will probably expand on your compliments & point out other great features that they admire. Hearing other people agree with the compliments your partner delivers can be validating and might result in an “I told you so!”
There is enough negativity in the vanilla world, so swingers enjoy focusing on the brighter side of life. Be generous and vocalize your compliments in public. You are already thinking all these good thoughts about your partner, so share them aloud.
Not sure what to compliment? There are so many great things to say maybe you don’t know where to start (we understand being sleep deprived from taking care of kids). Here are a few complimenting ideas to help you get started … compliment your favorite body part, clothing that looks extra hot, skill/task that they mastered, or their great choices/taste. Whatever you appreciate about your special someone, share it. Vocalize those good thoughts!
These are just a few suggestions to think about. Reflect on them & figure what makes most sense for your own personal situation. You are not alone nor are you the first person to reclaim their sexual confidence after being pregnant. Life is not easy but it can be easier if you are a good advocate for yourself and your partner. You are sexy and amazing people so make sure you take pride in yourself!