Swinging is generally approached more as a team event with couples working together to explore this sexy lifestyle. To have the best experience, it is wise to make sure your own team is in synch with each other.
You want to ensure you both understand what each of you needs and wants from your swinging experiences. Clearly understanding each other and discovering each of your positions will enhance your experience and help avoid the swinger pitfalls.
To help swinging couples ensure they are properly in synch, we have created a free relationship exercise. This exercise is not a test of your relationship nor is it the “are you ready for swinging quiz” It is simply a tool to help you tune-up your relationship so you can enjoy smoother sailing in the sexy swinging lifestyle.
If you find a disconnect or misunderstanding, that is something to celebrate. Uncovering an opportunity to grow closer and be better a partner for each other is a good thing, so enjoy it!
>> Click here to download the Swingers Synchronization Exercise PDF file. <<
EXERCISE INSTRUCTIONS
- Talk with your partner and explain why you feel this exercise will help your relationship. It is important for you both to be engaged in this exercise. For this exercise to be helpful you both need to provide honest answers and make the effort to receive what each other is communicating.
- Print out two copies. Then set aside private time for both of you to separately read your sheets and write in honest answers.
- When you have both completed the sheets, come back together in a private space. Make sure you schedule enough free time to share and discuss your answers without distractions (we suggest at least 30 minutes so no one feels rushed).
- You are probably going to uncover some surprises or miscommunications. This is a good thing. Discovering areas or topics that can be improved and clarified before a mistake is made is very helpful for your relationship. For each swinging element, we have included some discussion starters you can use to clarify your personal preferences and feelings.
- We suggest you revisit this exercise at least once a year. We are all constantly growing. Our preferences & feelings can change as we are exposed to different experiences. Regularly tuning up your relationship can help ensure you avoid drama.
- If you have a serious issue in your relationship, we strongly suggest you seek a trained relationship counselor. They can better assist you and your relationship with customized guidance as we all have our own unique situations.