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You are here: Home / Lifestyle Tips / Secure Swinger Messaging Options

Secure Swinger Messaging Options

If you’re an active member of the swinger community or love sending nudes without them being spread all over the internet, you probably have the Kik app downloaded to your phone. But the instant messaging company announced that they would be shutting down their app service to focus more resources on their cryptocurrency, Kin. Kik then claimed they would remain open, so for now, you can keep using Kik, which tends to be the more popular option among swingers.  For those of you looking for an alternative to Kik, we reviewed the options.

Honestly, we aren’t sure if Kik will change their mind again and go back to shutting down.  Even if you like Kik, it would still be smart to learn which messaging alternative is the best to provide as much swinger privacy as Kik. You need to be able to send those hot nudes to your present and potential swing partners! Here are some pros and cons for the top relevant apps and some core things to consider when finding a new platform that works best for you.

Snapchat

Fun and easy to use, but becoming more controversial. There is some question about how private the encryption really is, and a lot of people believe Snapchat is not upfront enough about how they treat their users’ data.

Pros Cons
  • No phone number required
  • Does not default sync your contacts
  • Can decide how long your photos are visible for
  • Screenshot notifications
  • Free to use
  • Targeted ads
  • “SnapMaps” default to share your location with all contacts
  • No end-to-end encryption for text or group chats
  • Text is deleted so quickly you often forget what was said previously

WhatsApp

It is fast and reliable but commonly used for casual/professional communication, making it hard to strictly keep this app for your sexy groups. The crossover risks your privacy somewhat. Since being acquired by Facebook, WhatsApp’s commitment to privacy has become a concern, but for now, encryption is still solid.

Pros Cons
  • Entirely free to use all features
  • End-to-end encryption
  • Over 1 billion users around the world – likely others already have it
  • Can video chat between 4 people
  • Requires your phone number to connect and install
  • Syncs your contacts
  • Automatically backs up to Google Drive

Telegram

One of the most secure options for encryption and privacy. Telegram has employed professional hackers to try and break their system.  Occasionally, these security researchers do find bugs that have been immediately fixed.

Pros Cons
  • Message with up to 1,000 people in one “super group”
  • No visible status of contacts and if they are online/offline
  • Allows video and voice chat
  • No ads
  • Entirely free to use all features
  • End-to-end encryption in secret chats
  • Self-destruct message/image feature
  • Can hide your phone number
  • Requires email and phone number to connect and install
  • No voice messaging or video chat
  • Russian owned and operated
  • No secret chat on the desktop version

Wickr

Wickr has high privacy considerations, like the ability to download it without sharing your email or phone number.  It is a common option used by many in the swinger community since Kik announced their shut down.

Pros Cons
  • No e-mail or phone number required
  • No ads
  • End-to-end encryption (default)
  • It doesn’t sync your contacts
  • Easy to find specific users via username search
  • Screenshot notifications
  • If you forget your username or password, you lose your account
  • Messages deleted after 6 days – no ability to change this
  • Max 10 people per free group ($10+/month for more)

Wire

Another secure choice, and it features end-to-end encryption across all services, including video and voice chat.  It is 100% open-source and independently audited.  Originally designed to help business teams securely collaborate.

Pros Cons
  • Full end-to-end encryption for all services
  • No phone number required to install or connect
  • Easy to connect with strangers
  • Works on desktop
  • Can customize automatic expiry of content
  • Keeps metadata about who you’ve contacted, when & from where.
  • Data is only erased when the account is deleted.
  • Requires email to install

MeWe

It is one of the many alternatives to KIK.  MeWe started up as a competitor to Facebook and is a very common download by vanilla people.  This messaging solution is not only for swingers.

Pros Cons
  • No phone number required
  • No ads
  • Can create invite-only private groups
  • End-to-end encryption
  • Can use private email address, doesn’t sync your contacts
  • Requires first and last name
  • Secret chat subscription costs $1/month or $6/year
  • Regular chats can be monitored if using the free version

Discord

Built by gamers and adopted by some users in the swinger community. Definitely not a top choice for most people if privacy is a concern, but the easy-to-use interface is appealing.

Pros Cons
  • Unlimited number of users
  • Entirely free to use all features
  • If you’re familiar with Slack, this is designed similarly
  • Easy to connect with strangers
  • Originally designed for the gamer community
  • Developer’s previous company was sued for privacy violations
  • Notoriously bad customer support
  • No voice recording/video chat
  • Can only post NSFW content on NSFW channels

Facebook Messenger

Facebook as a company isn’t exactly famous for its sensitive treatment of people’s privacy or data.  Some swingers are using Facebook, but you should probably think twice before using any Facebook solution if you value your privacy.

Pros Cons
  • Entirely free to use all features
  • Ability to start a secret chat
  • Video chat supported
  • No ads
  • Users can make calls using the app
  • Part of Facebook, so privacy is a concern
  • Integrated with your personal Facebook page
  • Requires email & phone to connect

Google Voice

This is not an alternative to Kik, but it is a great tool that can be used to create a secondary phone number that you can then use to sign up to any of the above apps anonymously, thus eliminating the risk of crossover with your “vanilla’ number that you use to contact your friends, family, and colleagues. As a communication tool on its own, there are no major benefits that make it a better alternative to any of the aforementioned apps. It should be mentioned that Google Voice numbers are only available in the United States. The numbers can still be used to sign up with a messenger app that can then connect you to people internationally, but if you’re from overseas, you won’t be able to create an account.


Most of the above messenger services have an official policy against pornography. Still, it’s yet to be seen how intensely that policy is followed or what constitutes pornography under those terms, so it’s hard to know how viable these apps are for cyber swinging.

It should be noted that Kik is not perfect and doesn’t come without its own list of cons. And none of the alternative apps above offer a replica of its features. One feature that Kik had over its alternatives was the ability to easily verify a user’s authenticity by having a “live photos” stamp to certify that the person was taking photos at that moment instead of uploading them from a camera roll. This helped people to avoid catfishing or fake swingers, and other untrustworthy accounts. The self-destruct messaging feature was also appealing, and it didn’t require very much phone data to run, but the same can be said for many of the above.

Overall, the messenger app you use will depend on the partners you swing with. It’s worth downloading one or two of those apps for your swinging adventures and giving the people you meet at parties or online the option to contact you at either one. Obviously, downloading all the apps will be a waste of time and is the quickest way to lose all your privacy, so choose two from the above list and see which one suits your needs best.

Last Updated: February 17, 2021
Written By:Dr. Georgia
Tagged With: Technology

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