To ensure your time at a swinger club is amazingly fun, you want to make sure you are up to speed on etiquette and manners. Emily Post never really talked about how best to behave at a swinger sex club so we are here to demystify and enlighten all of you sexy people. Getting kicked out the the swinger club when you are naked isn’t fun. So here are the basic etiquette guide to swinger clubs to keep you having a fun time
Follow the Club Rules
Each swinger club has their own set of rules. Find out their rules and respect them. “No means no” is a common rule but where nudity is or is not allowed can differ a good bit from each club. Most swinger clubs have the rules on their website so you can read them before you go. You can also ask them to email you their rules. Being a good swinger means respecting the rules. If you aren’t sure about something, ask the club. Most swinger clubs have ambassador couples that will greet first time visitors and give them a tour & answer questions. Make sure you are using the same rule book as everyone else in the club.
Be Clean
If you want to have an up close sexy time, make sure you are well groomed and clean. Showering and shaving 12 hours ago doesn’t count. Personal hygiene is a priority of good swingers. If you want better odds of making new sexy swinger friends, pay extra attention to your personal hygiene. Don’t go overboard with perfume or cologne. Not everyone else might like your favorite scent. When in doubt go with unscented products.
Bring Your Own Sex Supplies
Some swinger club provide condoms but you should still bring your own. You don’t know if they will run out of supplies, have your preferred condom brand or size. If you are allergic to latex or something else, bring plenty of condoms that do work for you and you can share with your new swinger If you are thinking of bringing a sex toy, make sure you also have condoms for them because they can also transmit STIs if they are shared. Honestly you probably won’t want any sex toys in a swinger club because you will have so many helpful swingers willing to stand in for your sex toys.
Politely Accept Rejection
You don’t want to visit a swinger’s club feeling like you are guaranteed a sexy time. You just might not find another couple that is attractive that night or the couple you find attractive might not share a mutual feeling. Set low expectations. Be polite when interacting with other people even if they decline your invitation. The worst case is you go home with the sexiest person at the club – your own partner.
Don’t Bring Your Smartphone
Swingers greatly value their privacy and expect discretion from everyone at the club. Leave your camera equipped phone in your car. If you need to make a call, head outside so no one has to worry if you are trying to secretly take pictures inside the club. Photos, snap chatting and other social apps are not welcomed. Privacy is paramount in a swinger club.
Playroom Politeness
If you have sexy playtime at the club, please be respectful to other people who might be waiting to use the play space which is usually in high demand. Try not to linger too much in the private rooms if you aren’t using them. If you were on the waiting line, you would like the same courtesy. When you leave the play area, please throw out your garbage and take your drinks with you. We understand in the excitement, we can forget things but try your best to respect the play areas so that everyone can enjoy them.
Play Well With Others Around You
While you are having a fun time chatting or sexy time, remember there are other people around so don’t be obnoxiously loud or accidentally hitting other people as you fling your arms & legs around. Yes, swinger clubs are super exciting but you aren’t the only person in the club. If you really want to lose control then get a hotel room or bring your new friends back to your home.
Respect Boundaries
When flirting or having sexy playtime with a new partner, be respectful. We all have our own personal boundaries. When in doubt ask them and make sure the excitement doesn’t overwhelm your good manners. Make sure you understand their dos and don’ts. If he/she doesn’t want a thing and keeps repeating it, stop!
Avoid Drama
Drama sucks and swingers don’t like couples that bring drama to the club. If your relationship is having a bad day, then take a night off and do something special for your own relationship. Even if your relationship is having a good day you want to avoid drama by talking about your own boundaries and play rules specific to your relationship. Respect your partner and honor your mutually agreed upon limits. Don’t change the rules in the heat of passion because that can quickly lead to regret and drama. It is safer to protect your relationship and wait till the next club event to change your relationship rules.
Be Cool & Not Aggressive
Act like you have seen a naked person before. Be chill and don’t aggressively approach otehr people for sex. Yes, swingers like to have sex but no one likes to feel pressured or stalked. Play it cool and give the other people in the club a chance to build a connection with you before you proposition them for sexy fun. Practice your subtle flirting game and enjoy making friendly connections before trying to jump into bed. Making people laughing, feel comfortable and happy is one of the best ways for sexy playtime to become a reality.
Drink Responsibly
One of the worst mistakes at a swinger’s club is having too much to drink. Being drunk will stop your sexy fun time and open you up to making many offensive mistakes towards other couples. If you feel nervous, don’t try to drink more. That is just a recipe to sabotage yourself. Make sure you stay hydrated with non-alcoholic drinks and keep your alcohol under control.
Sexy Body Language
We understand that many swingers will feel nervous when entering a new swinger club. It can definitely feel intimidating and scary. Please be careful that your feelings don’t send out a bad vibe via your body language. Crossing your arms and frowning at everyone isn’t nice to you or them. Embrace your inner sexiness and let it shine through in your smile, your hand waving hello and your hips having fun dancing. You control whether or not your will have fun. Choose to be sexy & fun person. Remember the worst case outcome is you don’t make a sexy connection with another couple and go home with the sexiest person at the club – your own partner. That is an awesome worst case outcome, so enjoy yourself and be happy.
Don’t Assume
You are going to meet many different swingers. Some might be first time rookies and others might be long time veterans. Some might be soft swap kissing champions and other might be full swap sex royalty. Don’t assume everyone else is the same as you. Ask about their play style and preferences. Sex is very personal so take the time to learn about what they want to make sure you have a good four way connection. This will avoid mistakes and misunderstandings later in the night.
Ask Before Touching
Speaking of making assumptions, don’t assume it is ok to touch. Always ask first. Just because they are being friendly does not mean they are open to any sexy play. Consent is sexy so be extra sexy and always ask before touching.