Hopefully, you have been in the swinging lifestyle long enough to make some good friends. And if you stay friends long enough, you will eventually come across their birthday. What’s a swinger supposed to do for a sexy friend’s birthday? This is usually a more complicated dilemma than deciding if you will chip in for a co-worker’s gift. What says “no romantic feelings, but you’re more than just a casual screw to us”? It can be hard to strike just the right chord, so we’re here to help. Read on for some special fun & sexy birthday options just for the swinging lifestyle.
Relax, No Obligations
Before we get to the birthday planning, we want to share a friendly reminder, especially for less experienced swingers. Sexy play, no matter how good and/or often, does not carry the same expectations as romantic dating or close vanilla friendships. Relax. You are under no obligation. Obviously, we think you should be nice & polite when it comes to birthdays and everyday encounters because life is nicer when we are not mean to one another. Take a moment to gauge your relationship: if you weren’t having sex, how would you approach your friend’s big day? Make sure you consider how your friend feels about the anniversary of their birth. Some people – I’m looking at you, Will – think their birthday should be a national holiday, while others prefer zero fuss or don’t want to acknowledge their advancing years. If you would typically mark the day with a casual text or celebratory gif, there’s no reason to complicate things. If you want to do something more & think your swinger friend would appreciate it, go for it. Just make sure you’re doing it based on genuine affection rather than a sense of obligation or with the expectation that they will do something big for you when your own birthday rolls around.
Birthday Presents For Swingers
Ok, so you really enjoy your swinger friends and want to show how much you appreciate them. Maybe you are thinking of getting them a little something for their birthday. Here is a list of gift ideas for the swinger in your life (besides the obvious sex ideas). Remember, when in doubt, less is more. You don’t want to upstage their special someone accidentally or come across as a creepy clinger. Think of a token of appreciation, not a grand gesture. Some of the best presents for people in the lifestyle come in the form of sexy playtime.
Sex Dice in a Keepsake Box – Simple & fun. Just buy a pair of sex dice and pick out a nice gift box.- Pineapple Keychain – Pineapples are supposed to be a swinger symbol but really aren’t. Who cares? It’s cute.
- Unicorn Shirt or Toy – Who doesn’t want their very own unicorn?
- Edible Body Paint – For the swinger with everything, give them a consumable gift & enjoy the fun with them.
- Chocolates – Everyone loves chocolate, and the best part is they will probably share it with you.
- Massage Supplies -Nice scented oils, lotions, or candles can help set the sexy mood for the next play session.
- X-rated Adult Coloring Book – Search Casual Toys Store or Google for these delightfully NSFW coloring books.
Flavored Lubes – Can you ever have enough lube? There are countless flavors, so you can make a gift basket with them.- Alcohol – You can pick up a bottle of their favorite booze or bring back a special bottle that isn’t available locally.
- Flavored Condoms – There are crazy varieties of flavored condoms, so seek them out & make a condom bouquet.
- Bubble Bath Supplies – We all enjoy a cozy bubble bath, especially when other sexy naked people join in.
Swinger Board Games – Game of Lifestyle and Couplicious are fun games, but make sure they don’t already have them.- Nude Selfie/Sex Story – Email them a sexy picture or write up your favorite sex fantasy about them.
- Boudoir Photo Book – Hire an experienced photographer to make your own custom erotic picture book or give them a voucher to make their own erotic boudoir pictures.
- DIY Sex Canvas Painting – Buy a blank canvas painting kit to make a lasting memento of your play session.
- Nuru Gel – This crazy clear, super slippery hypoallergenic & safe for sex gel is amazing for sensual full body rubs.
- Alcohol Infused Whip Cream – Call your local liquor stores to find it, or search Google for a DIY recipe.
- Birthday Sash/Tiara – Swingers love sexy play & this sash will let everyone know to give them a birthday treat.
What about present ideas for your own partner who loves the swinging lifestyle?
Hair Tie Silver Bracelet – Lifestyle ladies often use a hair tie to make it easier for kissing or oral fun. Silver or gold bracelets with curved grooves are designed to attractively keep a hair tie always at the ready.- Perfume/Cologne – As you go on more swinger dates, you are probably going through more of it than you did before.
- Basket of Lip Balm – With all the lifestyle kissing fun, the lips can be overworked. So, having a nice basket of their favorite lip balm is a sweet & practical gift.
- Boudoir Photo Shoot – Boost their self-confidence with a professional boudoir photo session to forever capture their sexiest side. The best part is you can treasure these amazing pictures forever.
- Bluetooth Speakers – The right music can really set the right mood for the hottest moments. Whether you are looking to upgrade your hotel room experience at the next swinger party or have background music while getting acquainted in the hot tub, portable speakers are a great solution.
- Makeup Class – If you have been out of the dating game for a long time, you probably haven’t kept on top of the latest cosmetic tricks & tips. You can sign up your special someone for one of these classes or hire a professional to do a house visit.
- Barware – If you are entertaining couples at home, you might want to upgrade your bar setup. Maybe pick up a mini-fridge for your playroom, or specialty glasses, or pineapple-themed supplies to keep you smiling.
- Silk Robe – They can wear it while getting ready for the next date or wear it at your club while you are in between play sessions, or use it for a grand revealing when you are hosting friends.
- Stripper Pole/Exercise Pole – Many lifestyle ladies love the stripper pole exercise routines. It helps us stay in shape and gives us the practice to show off our skills at the swinger club.
Swinger Sex Toys – There are so many toys, lubes, and more that can enhance their swinging experience and open new possibilities with other swinging couples. Here is a page of our favorite swinger sex toys.- Costume Jewelry – Yes, ladies love diamonds. Though when you are busy in the middle of an orgy, you don’t want to worry about losing anything. Good-looking costume jewelry is the solution. Check out fake diamonds, aka moissanite jewelry, if you want beautiful fakes.
- Tactical Play Bag – Men love swinging but usually aren’t fans of carrying around a play bag that looks like a big purse. So a sexy-looking tactical bag or leather tote can make them feel even happier as they head to your next event.
Birthday Celebration Ideas
Ok, so you have figured out what swinger present to get or not get. How are you going to make the actual birthday extra special and memorable? Here is a list to help you make this the best birthday ever … at least till next year 🙂 The best birthday celebrations often are the ones with friends, so make sure to reach out and coordinate this with others. It also helps ensure you don’t end up with two surprise birthday parties planned for the same night.
- Surprise Hotel Party – Rent a hotel room and maybe even invite a few of their other favorite swingers to join in.
- Luscious Birthday Cake – Decorate a hot body with a can of whip cream, add some berries & top it with sprinkles.
- Lap Dance Lineup – Have all of the ladies or guys at the party lineup, and each of them gives the birthday swinger a hot lap dance.
- Blind Birthday – Blindfold the birthday swinger, and instead of lap dances, have everyone take turns touching & pleasuring.
- Special Orgy or Gangbang – Do this only if you know it’s on their fantasy list. You have to do a good job asking the right swinger screening questions to get the right mix of fun people.
- Bucket List – Work with their special someone to figure out what’s left on their sexy bucket list.
- Tantric Workshop – Hire a tantric sex therapist to come over and give a private workshop.
- BDSM Workshop – Hire your local Dom/Domme for your own private or semi-private BDSM training.
- Nuru Gel Station – Buy an inflatable kiddie pool and add a large bowl of Nuru massage gel for crazy intense body rubs.
- Desire Resort – This is a big-ticket trip but one of the best possible swinger birthday celebrations.
At the end of the day, it’s all about fun. So don’t go crazy and stress out. The best birthdays are when people are surrounded by people who care about them. Everything else is just a happy bonus!