We passed another annual physical with flying colors! That might sound surprising considering how much hot swinging fun with different people we have had for more than ten years. It’s true. Oh boy, did the doctors test us for everything. Our results came back all clear. So how have we remained healthy while exploring ethical non-monogamy for so long?
We Love Condoms
Any safer sex checklist will say to use condoms. This tip is probably more helpful than you realize. Yes, condoms help prevent STIs but they do so much more. Condoms can help guys with trouble lasting so they will look like superman. There are also super thin condoms for guys that need to feel more. Condoms significantly reduce the risk of UTIs and other painful issues for ladies and make for easier cleaning-up afterwards.
Swinging With Friends
We like to build friendships before taking our clothes off. It’s nice to chat and have a good time together before we have that really good time together. Chatting allows us to bring up safer sex topics like how often they test, and whether they use condoms. This helps us to spot which people thrive on risk taking & which ones prefer a safer approach.
Skipping High Priced Events
We only have so much room in our budget, so we usually skip high-priced swinger events. Being frugal has probably helped keep us safer. Many high-priced events are non-refundable. That means some swingers may be tempted to show up even if they have the flu or something else. Even if they are healthy, some swingers want to make the most of their swinger vacation and throw away safety rules like condoms. These swinger vacations are EPIC! We understand why people want to make the most of it, but it’s not the safest approach. We prefer doing our own swinger things. For example, renting a vacation home is much, much cheaper and we can treat our friends to a free swinger vacation.
Soberish Swinging Protects Us
We enjoy having some drinks when meeting up with swinger friends but we don’t go overboard. We aim to feel a little tipsy and no more, so we can perform our best in bed. Keeping a relatively clear head helps us notice things like a weird smell, suspicious bump, or someone trying to take off the condom without asking. We’ve been offered cocaine a few times. It’s good to have most of your wits with you when you are surprised with a coked out person that wants to experiment with blood play. Thankfully, that type of crazy is rare but we want to be ready for it.
Hot Sights
We love to see each other having fun so we play with the lights on. Sure, we may swap out the lightbulbs for sexy red bulbs but we can still see everything happening. This avoids mistakes like a guy accidentally inserting himself into the backdoor and then switching to the front. That is a nasty bacteria situation we don’t want. Decent lighting helps avoid mistakes. Plus, seeing each other gives the hottest visuals that will inspire play to be even hotter and longer lasting.
Rejecting Cheaters
We’ve encountered many cheaters who try to play with swingers. We skip them. Pragmatically speaking, they are an unnecessary risk. Because they are cheating, they can’t regularly test because that would leave a paper trail for their spouse to discover. Cheaters are liars. If they are going to lie to their own spouse, we should expect them to lie to us and expose us to risks. Hell no!
Luck & Learning
There is also a bit of luck at play. Even if you do everything right, there is always a chance you still might catch something. So we keep educating ourselves to help reduce our risk profile. That education also lets us know that even if we are unlucky, most problems can be easily treated if caught early. That’s why we do regular testing and are honest with our doctor. If you can’t be honest with your local doctor, there are online options so you can ensure your privacy is secure.
That’s how we’ve been able to stay healthy for so many years and hopefully many more. To be totally fair, we have caught a cold after kissing people at a swinger party. So technically that was an infection transmitted during sexy time. But overall, we have been very healthy. We feel comfortable with our approach to swinging and how we manage our level of risk. We encourage you to figure out what approach works best for you. There is no single right or wrong way. Get educated and figure out what is best for you.