Stuck at home? Thankfully when swingers stay at home, they are already with the sexiest person in their world- their own partner. Even when we are with the best person, it can still be very enjoyable to spice things up a bit with some variety. The wide world of sex toy options can provide us with safe options when we can’t meet up with other swingers and might be struggling with FOMO.
Virtual Swinging Date Toys
You might not be able to meet up in person but you can still interact with other swingers on virtual swinger dates. Setting up a webcam studio in your bedroom is simple (good webcam & led light ring) and allows you to enjoy much of the exciting synergy from in-person swinger dates. You can even interact with the other couple using wifi & bluetooth enabled sex toys like the Lovense line of toys. This way you can even have a virtual orgy and feel good vibes coming from different sources. These toys can be used for vaginal or backdoor fun. You can even use them both at the same time if you really want to have a different experience.
If you have wondered about solo play dates but were worried about it, virtual dates give you a new option. You might want to talk with your partner to see if virtual solo dates might let you safely test drive this play option. These different play dynamics could feel more comfortable to experiment with solo play since you are together at home and the third person is a safe distance away.
You can also use sex toys to have a faux swinger date. Adding in the different sensations from sex toys can make it feel like there is another person involved in your private rendezvous. For example, the man can wear a vibrating cock ring to provide a different experience for both of you. Either of you can use a vibrating butt plug or vibrating nipple clamps to add in another sensation to your private session. A bit of creativity can help you partially replace your swinger friends with sex toys while you are stuck inside.
Vanilla Approved Silent Toys
If you are stuck at home with vanilla family & friends, you can still entertain yourself with silent sex toys. These options let you secretly have your sexy fun even if you might not have that much privacy.
You can start with Kegel exercise balls/Ben Wa balls which go inside the lady. They usually have no motors, so there is no sound but they do provide some entertaining movement especially as you move around your house & go up and down stairs. For a more vigorous experience, you can select wifi enabled Kegel balls. They will have a tiny motor inside that provides more sensation and play potential.
Next up are the small bullet & egg vibes. These are tiny vibrators so they make much less noise than their full sized sisters and if they are inserted inside, that sound can be totally hidden. Some of the bullet vibes come with straps or panties with a special holder pouch to help keep it in just the right spot. The eggs are often intended to be inserted and usually come with a remote control. This way your partner can have some fun with you even if you are in mixed company. Don’t worry, these smaller vibrators can very feel good but they aren’t loud or overpowering. The remote controls enable your partner to pleasantly surprise you when are caught up in the more mundane parts of your day.
Countless Lube Options
The sweeping sexual variety from lube is mind boggling. Different lubes can help you try different sexual positions like backdoor play or have a different experience using the same sexual positions. There are also countless flavored lubes so while you are stuck inside, you can experiment to find which flavor you like the best. You can also explore natural sex lube options that might already be in your kitchen like coconut or olive oil.
Then there are also specialty lubes like Nuru gel. This seaweed extract basically removes all friction and transfers body heat between your sexy selves, making for a mind blowing massage experience (any description is a real understatement for these exceptional sensations). You will want a plastic sheet or better yet a blow up pool to keep your slippery bodies contained when using Nuru. If you go to a porn website you can view videos of Nuru massages in action.
PS Whenever using lube, make sure to think twice before acting once. Not all lubes work well with all condoms. Some lubes can weaken and breakdown condoms. Then there is also the issue of allergies and UTIs. Make sure to carefully read the instructions and do some research so you can avoid any mishaps.
Opportunity for Unspoken Alternatives
Swingers can be open-minded about a lot of things but still reserved when it comes to certain other activities. A common sexual fantasy that is not often discussed among swingers is male pegging. This is when the lady uses a strap-on to have backdoor fun with the man. Pegging can be very enjoyable for the man since the prostate is super sensitive and can trigger extreme orgasms. Due to some men feeling uncomfortable about the topic or worried showing interest would damage their reputation, this sex fantasy is often unspoken despite biologically speaking the great potential upside. If you are stuck inside, then you have plenty of time to be honest about your sex fantasies and to slowly test the waters. You can start by using a finger or tiny vibrator on the rim. Over time, you can work up to larger toys. There are many specialty like prostate massagers and butt plugs that you can use to explore new options. Since you are stuck inside, you don’t have to worry about anyone finding out about your sexy experiments.
DIY Sex Toys
A bit of creativity can go a long way in turning vanilla things into heart pounding sexy experiences. Here are some ideas to save your budget and let you have sexy fun now without having to wait for a delivery.
- Oral Sensations – The next time you are giving your partner some oral attention, you can try adding some things to the mix like sucking on a peppermint Altoid or cinnamon candy. It can add an extra tingle to the experience. Just remember not to insert sugar inside a lady since it can increase the risk of UTI. You can also drizzle a spoonful of honey or chocolate syrup on their outer bits to mix up the flavor.
- BDSM – There’s countless ways to experience light or heavy BDSM experiences with vanilla items. You can use a leather belt or wooden spoon for a spanking session. Grab a silk tie or scarf to blindfold or restrain your partner. Just make sure to talk about it before, pick a safe word, and set limits.
- Pillows – The Kama Sutra can look exciting but some of those positions are just ridiculous without some help. Thankfully, a well placed pillow or two can make those positions much more achievable. Not to mention that a well placed pillow can help you tamp down your loud moans so no one else in the house hears you.
- Fire & Ice – Looking for something different? You can experiment alternating between dripping candle wax on your partner and rubbing an ice cube over their body parts. Ideally, you want specialty soy candles that melt at a lower temperature (120 degrees Fahrenheit) vs. beeswax candles, which burn at a much hotter temperature (150 degrees Fahrenheit). Before your play session, test it out on yourself to see if the hot wax sting is suitable to the experience you both want.
- Home Office Orgasms – With more and more people working from home, don’t overlook this for sexy inspiration. You can use paper clips or small binder clips as nipple clamps. Climb on top of your adjustable leather office chair for different sex positions and fantasies. Just remember to log out and cover up your work webcam first.
Get creative and come up with your own sexy ideas.
Ultimate Sex Toys
If you are trapped with family or are too busy and simply want an idea of something exciting for you to look forward to using, here are uber options for when you are building the ultimate swinger playroom.
- Hitachi Magic Wand – This is a very common sex toy among swingers. It is a very powerful “back” massager that is almost never used on anyone’s back. There are now cordless versions and different attachments (including sleeves for men to use) for it. This reliable option is often the top selection for a swinging couple.
- Sex Swings – These can be fun but need to be properly installed into a load bearing beam. When they are not in use you can put the swing in a closet and cover its ceiling mount with a fake smoke detector – because of course that’s a thing.
- Pleasure Machines – These are beyond expensive full strength electric motors with attachments. The most well known options are Sybian & MotorBunny. Be careful with these full strength motors because there have been reports of excessive use causing permanent numbness and other issues.
- Sex Furniture – There are some true artistic masterpieces that look incredible by themselves and allow you to comfortably (or uncomfortably if that’s your fetish) enjoy different sex positions. The options are endless because many of these erotic furniture builders accept custom orders.
Go Enjoy Sexy Time!
Staying at home might not have been your plan but you can still enjoy some toe curling, back scratching, muscle clenching moments by yourself, with your partner, or others while at home. Enjoy!