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You are here: Home / Swing & Tell / Our First time at a Swingers Club

Our First time at a Swingers Club

Shared by tmckeithan

First thing I want to state is my wife and I went to You Know Where in Fayetteville, NC and the facilities and staff were top notch, and I would highly recommend them to anyone looking to check out their facilities.

So last Saturday night, after talking about it for a few weeks decided to make the trip to Fayettville, NC to check out YKW, it had come highly recommended by many people we have chatted with on SLS.

We decide to do it up right and get a nice hotel room (just in case we can bring anyone back to it) and everything was perfectly set up. We had a few drinks since the shuttle would be coming out to pick us up, and then we arrived.

We both had big ole butterflys in our stomachs but we were finally doing it. We are greeted by there amazing staff and ran through the rules, and then a quick tour.

It was at that time that I realized fully that a Swingers club is both a place for people to have sex, but it was also…. a Night Club.

A Little background on me, I get sensory overload very easily, and it causes crazy anxiety, so the first place we walk in to is the night club part of the club and due to the loud music and lights, I immediately get a headache. I thought to myself, well that sucks, but we are here to have a good time and I am sure it will not be as loud in other rooms.

The amazing host then ran us through the rest of the club, and both my wife and I were very impressed with everything from their themed rooms, to the common stripper pole area, and once again, the amazing staff.

My wife and I were under the impression that we would go in solo and chat up some other couples and see what happens, however I am very soft spoken and have a very tough time raising my voice loud enough to be heard in that type of environment.

I let her take the charge in hitting up some people, but I ended up looking like silent bob sitting there hearing about 20% of the conversation, and nodding and smiling along. My LS Super Power is my mind and exchanging ideas and being flirty, so that did not work out so well for me.

Come to find out some people do all the flirting work before ever arriving at the club, if there is a next time, that will be happening.

We stayed for about 4 hours, and saw some amazing sexy things, people of all ages and sizes having sex (which is to be expected) Overall it was very educational experience, and I think it taught us that a big swing club may not be our speed more so than something more intimate, we are still looking to check out another on-premises venue, but maybe a place that is a bit more relaxed and quiet (for me)

TL;DR: I am not to old to swing, but I may be too old to Club.

would love to hear about some of your first time experience.

Once again, I know this was all on me, and want to say again how amazing the facilities and staff are at YKW!


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Last Updated: May 19, 2020
Written By:Swing & Tell Contributor

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