Shared by ellie 6363
So, my man and I arranged to meet with a couple last night. We do, if the situation feels right, play on the first date, and this couple- though young, seemed very eager. The wife seemed nervous but that’s a frequent thing with newer couples for sure. We had been chatting with them for a couple of weeks and thought we had covered all the bases.
We met at a local combination bar/restaurant. He said he didn’t have his ID with him so he couldn’t go inside- that should have been the first red flag. The restaurant portion is just that. Later on we found out that neither of them drink anyway. So after maybe 20 minutes of chatting outside, we invited them back to the house.
They followed in their vehicle (this is a biggie for us… we always want the option to leave or not be obligated to drive someone back anywhere), and I voiced my concern that although I love tattoo’s (and I really do), the pictures they sent didn’t really express that up close it was very visible that several were prison tattoo’s.
But if someone is really changing their life around, etc, then it’s not up to me to judge. I did ask my guy to stall them outside for 30 seconds so I could put away a couple things before they came inside. Keep in mind, we were both very much in the mindset of we don’t “have” to play- but we did want to talk more.
Well- come to find out, I have to back away from one of my “hardcore” feelings about the lifestyle. There IS such a thing as being TOO HONEST. In talking with them, it seems they left another state to come to this one to get away from drug problems. He had been in prison 3 times and he is 26. Once was for high-level drug dealing. Another was for robbery and a high speed car chase. She freely spoke about a heroin addiction that, although they both seemed to be clean at the moment, it became clear that they still associate with some people from that avenue of life.
We tried to bring it around to lifestyle chat, and that’s when she mentioned he can sometimes (sounded like a nice way of saying “in general” has problems getting it up, and pulled a silicone cock ring out of her purse- which, as I mentioned seemed like it was a more often than not kind of problem. They related several experiences that didn’t sound safe at all to me; they just seemed not capable of making good choices repeatedly.
By this moment, I’d picked up my phone and casually mentioned my dad likes it when I check in about storms. My other half knows this is sort of a cue- – and further, I actually texted him saying “I really don’t feel good about this.” Of course, he waited to look at his phone so it would not be completely obvious.
I don’t know how, but suddenly they were oversharing again, and this time it was that she couldn’t hold down a job. That she’d tweaked out or something on heroin and her boss found her unresponsive. But the absolute clincher, and what made me want them out of the house, was when she mentioned some dude who was upset she hadn’t paid for her last drug thing strolled into her apartment and walked out with the flat screen TV.
The thing is, they may very well be clean, and working to be back on the right side of things. What clinched it for me was they really seemed to lack the ability to not mention they’d been to our home. And- it’s not that this place is a palace; in fact it’s a modular home. But we do have a flat screen TV in the bedroom, plus, as a gift from my brother, about $500 worth of hue lighting and at that moment I was relieved that we had not invited them into the bedroom.
I texted my guy again just in case there was any doubt. Actually, he was on the same page as me but was just trying to figure out how to gracefully say “KTHXBAI” without being rude. Suddenly, he “answered his phone”, and excused himself to the next room but talked just loud enough (and much louder than he usually would) and came back and said he had to go- his brother was headed to the ER and he had to be there. I played along and asked why his other brother couldn’t handle it… And then, damn I need to give that man 10,000 blowjobs for the ultimately graceful apology he said to them, and added, “You guys can follow me out if you like- I can get you back pointed to the highway.”
So, I walked them to the door; we were very apologetic and of course it’s entirely possible they figured out what was really going on but my EVERYTHING radar had been on red. I hope their feelings were not hurt but ultimately our safety comes first.
So hubby led them and pointed out which direction would take them home- – then texted me, “Baby get your clothes off”… came back and we had some truly gnarly wall shaking sex.
It goes to show that you can chat with someone for quite a while but the real-life experience is totally different… but after his brilliant exit strategy we had some of the best stress relieving sex of all time. Neither of us judge harshly on age, or weight, and we have no racial hangups so honestly, I felt a teeny bit bad because I do recall being “noped” by two couples and of course it’s always the woman who makes the final call in this lifestyle. I have never thrown a “nope”- – some of the best lovers are not what you’d expect when you look at them and I am having a grand time in the LS. I read frequently about women being “too picky” and the husband being frustrated because it seems she will never actually say yes; I really spent probably 5 minutes too long worrying about letting others down because of my decision but I’m really, really glad I trusted my gut on this one.
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