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Our’s feels like a long story, but it happened in 48 hours or less. I fancy myself a storyteller and I happen to like this story, so I’m going to tell it right. Strap in. I hope you enjoy.
Just over two years ago I was gone off and on for about 5 months on orders (I’m in the military). Most of that time I was at least able to come home on weekends. However, the last two months or so, I wasn’t able to come home. It was our first time being separated that long.
Now for the flashback: the year or so leading up to this we had been experimenting with rough sex and kinks. Simple at first with spanking and hair pulling. Later we moved on to choking, bondage, and consensual non-consent. It was a pretty quick progression really and it was interrupted by the military (which is pretty god damn typical if you ask me). We were at peak sexy feels and our sexual satisfaction was getting better and better each time we explored something new together. We were communicating and just diving into our various forms of play with total success.
Flash forward to me getting put on orders: We don’t get to have nearly as much sex as we’d conditioned ourselves for. I’m only coming home on weekends for a while and we do our best, but it’s hardly enough. Then I’m gone for 2 months and the first week is really hard for both of us. We’re both wanting something neither of us can get. We send sexy messages all day long. Pictures and videos when we can, but it just doesn’t come close to satisfying either of us. Naturally, with our appetites getting the better of us, we keep talking about how we can maybe take things further. At first we started by talking about how we could take our different kinks further. Then she was just listing different things we could try, like sex at a party, maybe a threesome, maybe she just gets with a girl while I watch. It all just felt like sexy talk, and it didn’t really seem serious. It was all exciting and she said we could do anything I was interested in.
Ultimately, she asked that I try to make her say “no” to a kink. I didn’t really take it seriously and asked her if she would have sex with another man, but I was certain she would say “no.” I’m sure you’ve guessed that she said “yes” because all of the great hints I’ve given. She also told me about her wedding night when she was naked in a whirlpool tub, and how it got her thinking. However, I wasn’t serious, and didn’t even bother to consider what would happen next if she said “yes.” The ball was back in my court faster than I realized and it was my turn again.
I wasn’t sure if that was really what I wanted, but I knew it could be something to discuss and explore. By this point in the night it was really late, and we went to bed with it on the list of things we could discuss. I slept on it and by the time I woke up, I was hoping she was serious because I really wanted to do this. Turns out she was hoping for the same thing.
We talked about her being with another guy, but she said she also wanted to see me with another woman. Naturally swinging came up, and we were set on making it happen. We started thinking about how to find a couple to get the ball rolling. We were thinking about people we knew that tried similar experiences or couples we would be interested in. By the end of the night, we had a couple in mind. They were friends of mine, and they had been living with a poly couple. (Side note: We weren’t interested in the poly couple for a few reasons, but the biggest one was that she had previously offered to give me a blowjob that she was certain would be better than my wife’s. I felt like this disrespected my wife on multiple levels and didn’t want to be involved with anyone like that.) We were hoping they’d dipped their toe in the waters and wouldn’t mind trying again.
About this couple: I’ll be referring to them as Lady and Dude. Lady was actually a childhood friend of mine. We were a few years apart in school and we were always in each other’s atmosphere even if we weren’t close friends at that time in our lives. She was attractive, had always been a lot of fun, and didn’t appear to take things to seriously. I was really hoping her laid back nature would mean that she wouldn’t be offended by our approaching her and Dude. Dude was also really laid back, attractive, and had a similarly great attitude.
When my wife and I were talking about how to approach them, we decided it would be best to go in for advice. We didn’t want to assume they were non-monogamous or anything like that, but I was confident that she would be willing to help my wife and I explore this new thing. Once again, it was already late, so we decided we could message her in the morning and see what came of it.
The next morning I sent something to the effect of “Hey, do you have a couple minutes? My wife and I have been talking and I was hoping you might be able to help us figure a few things out. Everything is cool between my wife and I, so there’s nothing to worry about and there’s no rush.” She said she was busy with work or errands or something and asked if we could talk later in the night. I told her that would be awesome, and reported back to my wife. It occurred to me that we’d be telling someone about our newly discovered desire. It had only been 2 days but it would be going from sexy idea to potential reality in roughly 48 hours.
The evening came and Lady messaged me to see what was up. I told her that my wife and I were discussing the possibility of “being with other people together” and that we were wondering if she might have any advice. She frankly seemed thrilled. She said she was honored that I came to her for advice. I mentioned her roommate and that we weren’t comfortable with discussing anything with them (for the previously mentioned reason), and she totally understood. She gave some really great advice on how to get a party together and keep people engaged/entertained. She said she knew a few couples and could potentially get us introduced. I thanked her for the advice, but said we weren’t really looking for parties, but something more along the lines of “friends with benefits.” Then she said something very VERY exciting…”Dude and I have actually been discussing this and looking for the exact same thing.”
So far Lady and I were only messaging privately. I immediately took a screenshot of the conversation and sent it to my wife and told her that she needs to take over and close the deal. I excitedly mediated the hand-off and let my wife take things from there. My wife, being a total babe and the best flirt I’ve ever met quickly got Lady interested and all four of us were in a sexy group chat in no time.
From there, it’s more or less history. I was still going to be gone for a couple months, but that just gave us time to prepare and communicate as a group to make sure we were all sure about what we wanted. It also gave the excitement time to stew and boil up a bit.
We eventually met with Lady and Dude to get weird, but that’s a story for another time. All in all, I’m not 100% sure whose idea it was. It was a bit of her and a bit of me. It was the result of lots of sexy back and forthing. It was, without either of us knowing, the result of months of deepening kink play. It was the result of being separated mid-stride in our kink exploration. It was our certainty that our sexual energy would never eclipse our bulletproof relationship and great communication.
…and that’s us.
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