If you’ve been together for a while, you might have fallen into a routine which is sweet & comforting but not really exciting or toe curling. So how do you reignite the flame of those wild sheet thrashing, chest pounding, legs flailing moments? We’re here to help and have busted out our big book of intimacy options because honestly there are countless different types of situations and they tend to require their own unique approach. So keep reading and you can decide what might work best for your own situation.
If you have a bit of time to research and prepare, here are four different options that tend to work well for many people…
- Back To Basics – Is everything good with you & your special partner but just fallen into a bit of a repetitive rut? Then let’s go back to the basics. Make a sexy bed date together. Before your bed date take a nice shower (maybe even together but no hanky panky yet). Then both of you put on some sexy underwear and enjoy a nice drink in bed. it could be a your favorite cocktail or a sensuous hot chocolate with whip cream. Take turns complimenting each other’s body parts starting with the feet & legs working up to those hot lips & eyes. Don’t touch each other just yet. We want to stoke the passion and build up anticipation. Once you have complimented or made naughty suggestions on all of those hot body parts, set an alarm for 30 minutes. Now spend the next 30 minutes touching & kissing but there is one catch – you can’t touch of kiss below their sexy downtown area. Remember we want to build passion and anticipation. These 30 minutes will help both of you to become more creative with touching & kissing different body parts that are often overlooked when we rush to main event. Make it a challenge and try to make the other person climax without kissing or touching their downtown area. Once the alarm goes off, feel free to finish however you both enjoy it the most and remember any new sensitive areas you might have discovered.
- Nuru Massage – Nuru gel is super slippery clear seaweed extract. Imagine if a NASA engineer tried to create the most slippery liquid in the universe that doesn’t stain, is hypoallergenic, transfers body heat between you and removes all friction between your bodies as you glide & grind over each other. It’s probably the closest we will ever get to zero-G space sex. Just be careful and bring a towel to clean your feet afterwards otherwise you might fall down trying to walk with your super slippery gel covered feet. You can order Nuru gel from vendors on Amazon and there are even porn videos that focus solely on Nuru massage.
- BDSM – Have you ever experimented with the power & control in your relationship? There are countless ways through BDSM that you can spice things up but you should first spend some real time educating yourself on this sexy slice of life before actually trying it because the risks can be much higher. For example, a mistake in rope bondage can be life threatening so you want to learn the right and wrong ways to bdsm including all the smart precautions you should take.
- Guided Intimacy Exercises – Not sure what to do? Check out these guided intimacy exercises that will instruct you and your partner on how to reignite that spark. Intimacy exercises often start with non-sexy items like breathing & communication to help lay the groundwork for a closer & more intimate connection between the two of you.
If you don’t have that much time but want a quick recharge, here are some suggestions…
- Hotel Sex – Head to a hotel where you can have loud sex without having to worry about the kids hearing or being interrupted. Bonus points for not having to worry about cleaning up the bed afterwards.
- Skip the Bedroom – Break your routine and explore other areas of your home. The dining room table can be just the right height for certain positions, the ottoman in the living room seems comfy, or just going with the flow and doing it up against the wall in the hallway.
- Sexting – Prime the pump by flirting with each other throughout the day. Message them naughty things you want to do to them or your top hot memories of them. You can even snap some pictures to hint at what naughty things you are wearing under your regular clothes that move from tame to wild as the day goes.
- Pillows – A good use for those old pillows you no longer use is to turn them into sex pillows. A well-placed or two pillow can help you more comfortably achieve different sex positions to better hit those sensitive spots. For example you can place a pillow under the butt to create a better angle for deeper action.
- Sex Toys – With online shopping you can browse discreetly from the comfort of your own home and have it delivered in a few days. There are a growing number of toys for couples like vibrating bullets that attach to him giving you both a surprise while grinding together. A sex toy can give you sensations similar to a threesome without needing to call a taxi afterwards.
- Porn – Sure you can watch porn together but too often those video clips miss the mark. Another option is to read erotica to each other. You can start a naughty online story and then ad lib the ending with the two of you till you change those naughty words into your own naughty role-playing action.
- Flip the Tempo – If you usually have it hard & fast, put on some sensual music and see how long you can make the moment last. See how long you can edge yourselves. If that is your normal style, then try adding in some quickie action. Order pizza delivery and see who comes first you or the pizza.
- Lube It Up – You might not need lube but why skip it? It can provide a more enjoyable and very different sensation. You can try putting some inside the condom (make sure it is compatible), or lubes that provide warming or chilling sensations, different flavors of lube, or simply slippery lube for that different experience.
- Mirrors – You and your partner are sexy people so why not watch your own sexy bodies? You can place an oversized floor mirror (or two) next to the bed to create the illusion of being in the middle of a super hot orgy of sexy people.
Phew! That was a lot of different ways and if you are creative you can come up with even more ways to spice up your relationship. We didn’t even mention virtual webcams because this is about focusing on the passion within your own relationship. Feel free to share your favorite way or let us know if you have a suggestion to add to this list!