Whether you crave a more exciting sex life or just want to experiment with something new, you can spice things up with the swinging lifestyle. It doesn’t matter if you’re married, in a relationship, or single. This alternative lifestyle welcomes people from all walks of life regardless of their relationship status. It is a good alternative option for people who just can’t find the right fulfillment in a rigid monogamous relationship.
There is a lot of stigma around swinging, especially among married couples or those engaged in long-term relationships. The society is expecting from us to be monogamous, although having sex with just one partner can become a little boring or unsatisfying to some people.
Swinging is simply an alternative approach to life in which couples or singles engage in sexual action with others as a social activity. Swingers separate sex from romance and treat it like any other recreational activity.
Lifestyle couples use swinging to spice up their sex life with threesomes, foursomes, or even gangbangs. Single swingers often engage in long-term sexual relationships with one or two preferred couples. And more often than not, swinging can even improve your social life by bringing you together with like-minded people.
The key to successful swinging is setting rules, especially if you are a couple trying it for the first time. If one of you is not sure about it or becomes uncomfortable at any moment, just stop it.
But if you can both maintain an open mind and see beyond staples, swinging can be a great way to spice up your sex life, enhance intimacy, and improve your entire relationship.
7 Ways to Spice Up Sex With Swinging
If you have decided to try swinging but don’t know where to start, here are seven soft and harder-core ways to have a glimpse of this sexy lifestyle.
- Cyber Swinging
Cyber swinging has many forms, and it’s one of the softest ways to spice up your sex life with swinging. For instance, some couples agree to engage in cybersex with others, each partner on its own, then discharge their sexual energy in bed, in a monogamous real-life relationship. Others have sexy talks and engage in cybersex together, either with singles or other couples.This type of swinging is a good option for starters, especially if one partner is not 100% comfortable with a real-life encounter.Video chatting with strangers about sex, desires, and fantasies, and even undressing and maybe having sex in front of the cam, can surely spice up your sexual life. Who knows, maybe if the cyber swinging goes well with a couple, you may even end up meeting them in real life for sexy fun.
If seeing excites you, but you’re not yet sure about touching, voyeurism is another great way to give a twist to your intimate life. Swinging clubs are a great way to start. If you’re afraid that attending a swinging event would be too off-limits, know that the philosophy of swinging is based on respect and agreement.Nobody will force you or your partner to do anything you don’t want to do. You can attend some sex parties without taking your clothes off and just watch the others having fun without being bothered. Of course, if you get into the mood, you can always undress and enjoy your fair share of fun first-hand.
- Couple Massage
Sexy massages for couples are a great way to understand if swinging is for you. Being touched in front of your partner while you’re watching your partner being touched by someone else can be either exciting or frustrating.If it’s the latter, perhaps you should stick to voyeurism or cyber swinging. On the contrary, if you’re comfortable with it and the idea of someone else touching your partner arouses you, maybe it’s time to engage in some more action. You can have the masseuses start the massage and then when the leave the room so you can privately finish enjoying the special moment with your partner.
- Same-Sex Fantasies
Have you ever dreamt of having a same-sex experience? Or did your partner ever wish to see you have such an experience? An easy way to fulfill your fantasies is by having sex with a bisexual couple. Ladies can engage in an erotic show for their partners, while males can also have fun together if they want to. This is a bit softer than traditional partner swaps, same-sex fantasies can bring sexual fulfillment to a whole new level.
- Partner Swaps
A common form of couples swinging is partner swapping, which can be either soft or full swapping.In soft partner swaps, you usually start playing with everyone being in the same room, getting undressed and maybe even having oral sex. However, you will swap back to your own partner for full sexual intercourse.Full partner swaps happen in the same room or separate rooms and are ideal if you are comfortable with watching your partner being pleasured by someone else.
This is more advanced and works better when couples are very confident about their sexuality. Gangbangs are a way to fulfill some of the wildest fantasies. Whether it’s for her or him, creating a story that involves physical, sexual activity with multiple men or women at the same time can be uplifting for your sex life.
- Swinging Parties
An alternative to gangbang, and to all the above, as a matter of fact, is attending a swinging party. The best thing about it is that you are free to do whatever you wish. If you’re new to swinging, you can start with voyeurism. When you’re confident enough to undress, you can choose to have a soft partner swap, a same-sex experience, or engage in a gangbang, all within the same setting. It is like a sex buffet and you control how much or how little you do. You can start the night with one couple and later switch to another couple or a group for whatever you enjoy.
Whether you’d rather try cyber swinging or are determined to move further and meet up with another couple, swinging can spice up your sex life for many couples. But it is not a great solution for everyone. Think twice before taking this step and talk with your partner. You want to make sure you only move as fast as the comfort level of the slowest person. Swinging can be a great bonus to a relationship but it is only a bonus. You want to make sure you protect the relationship with your special someone. You can give it a try and remember, you can walk away at any moment if you realize it’s not what you want.