It’s uber hard being a single man in the swinging world. As much as its an amazing experience, it is also a huge challenge that takes a good amount of time and effort. If you are having trouble as a single man in the swinging lifestyle, you are not alone. The good news is that much of the challenge a single man faces is from overcoming his own mistakes. We are here to help educate you so you can be the best darn single man in the lifestyle and be desired by all your sexy local swingers. 🙂
Put real effort into your online profile. The supply of single men is higher than the demand so your swing game needs to be stronger. Don’t just be one of the guys in the lazy crowd. Post good pictures of yourself. Make sure they give a good & accurate representation of your current self. Write an appealing description that shares your personality and shows you are not just some desperate, horny man.
Upgrade your photos. Too many single men ruin their chances by using horrible pictures. What are the right type of pictures? Make sure they are recent, in focus, & speak to your personality. Show off your sexy eyes — don’t hide them behind sunglasses. Have a clean & attractive background. Don’t have a room filled with dirty clothes or bathroom stalls behind you when you are trying to convey sexiness in your pictures. Communicate that you take privacy seriously by having only yourself in the picture. Skip group pictures or pictures with your ex-girlfriend. Give a good sense of your physical shape by showing your body and not hiding behind bulky clothes. If you don’t show your body, couples will fear you are too obese to last for a long sexy play session. Or they’ll think you lack confidence, which is the opposite of sexy. Make sure to share multiple pictures from different situations to show you aren’t a fake profile using a single stolen picture.
Read the entire profile TWICE before texting ONCE. Remember we don’t want to waste anyone’s time and we want to demonstrate you can be a really good teammate who can be trusted. So thoroughly read their profile. This way you can make sure you will be a good match for them and can introduce yourself with a much more attractive message by referring to the things they like in their profile.
Show respect to everyone including men. When you are emailing or texting with a couple, you are probably talking with the man most of the time. Make sure you are friendly & respectful to him. He is looking for a teammate, not competition. Remember that swinging is different from cuckolding so make sure you act accordingly. You want to use your best swinger etiquette as a single man.
Work together. Don’t ask the wife or girlfriend to meet up separately. Assume they will arrive for the first meeting as a couple and leave as a couple. If they are open to solo dates, they will let the single man know. Couples will steer clear from any hint of drama or headaches. Single men need to remember they are only a bonus to the swinger couple’s great relationship, they are not a replacement.
Be 100% authentic & honest. Swinging relies on trust. If you use fake photos or altered images, that will likely be noticed by experienced swingers and they will avoid you. Don’t pretend to be a couple and then try to meet up as a single man, it never results in sexy time.
Own your sexuality.Be honest about your straight or bisexual preferences. Setting up false expectations with your sexual preferences is a quick way to screw up any chance for sexy fun.
Share your face pictures. Swingers are all about sexy fun & that means there needs to be attraction. It is really hard to make an attractive connection if you don’t show your face. Remember the supply/demand is not in your favor so refusing to share face pics is a quick way to end up in the discard pile.
Show the right amount of confidence. This is a hard skill to master. Many single men display too little or too much confidence. You don’t want to be creepy or too clingy but you also don’t want to be an annoying prick with a horrible attitude. Be careful to act confident in yourself but not presumptuous or arrogant.
Improve your flirting game. Sending weak messages will deliver weak results. You want to be engaging & thoughtful when flirting with swingers. Simply sending a picture of your junk or saying “hi” & nothing else will just get you deleted or permanently blocked. Remind yourself that you need to convince both of them you are going to be a fun & sexy addition to their already hot sex life. Use interesting & engaging icebreakers like “What’s a better late night snack …pizza, burgers, or chocolate cake?”
Respect their busy schedule. Swinging couples have very busy lives. They are often busy with work, their family & each other. Don’t make it any harder on them by wasting the precious little free time they have in their schedule. Respond to them in a timely fashion and work around their busy schedule if you want the best chance for sexy times to actually happen. Being reliable will help set you apart from the other single men.
Perfect your grooming. Make sure you take phenomenal care of yourself. Swingers are already having hot sex with their partner so why would they lower their standards for you? Make sure your pictures communicate good hygiene & pride in taking care of yourself. Being dirty, grimy or smelly isn’t appealing to most people. If you are too lazy to have regular haircuts & nail trimmings, then you are also very likely too lazy to schedule your STI tests. Always work hard at making great impressions with everything you do.
Take sexual health seriously. Refusing to share STI results or to wear condoms are easy deal breakers. Don’t even try to claim the condoms won’t fit you. They make a wide variety of condoms so all sizes are covered. Why would a couple take a risk having sex with a partner that doesn’t have recent STI results? Show you are smart & responsible by taking sexual health seriously for you & your partners.