Just discovered a swinger club in your neighborhood? Curious about your odds as a single man in a swinger club? Here is a rundown of what to expect and how to have the best experience in the swinger lifestyle. First, relax! The swinger club isn’t going anywhere and you have plenty of time to figure out if this is the right place for you to find your sexy fun.
Are single men welcome in the lifestyle?
Yes, the swinging lifestyle welcomes all respectful adults but….
Are they in demand?
Not really. Most clubs strictly limit when & which single men are allowed in. Some clubs never allow any single men. The other swinger clubs usually charge single men double because of supply (many horny guys) & demand (not as many couples looking for an extra guy). Swinging couples are much more interested in playing with other couples or a single lady. Paying double does not mean you are going to get any sex. This isn’t a brothel. It is basically an expensive nightclub that is difficult for single men to successfully convert into sexy fun.
Are swinger clubs easy places for a single guy to have sex?
No. They tend to be actually harder. Most swingers are couples and that means you need to convince both the woman & man that you are acceptable. Swinging tends to be a team sport and most couples want to play with another couple. If you try to pick up a single woman, you only need to convince her. Some swinger parties are gang bang themed which are very friendly towards single men. Group sex is a high pressure situation and many inexperienced guys can’t handle being naked around a bunch of other naked men & feeling the pressure to perform while so many other people look on. The porn stars really make it look easy. There are much less difficult ways to find sex for a single guy. Swinger clubs are not filled with nymphomaniacs. Quite the contrary. Because swingers are having plenty of sex, they aren’t desperate and a bit picky with their sex partners.
Swinging is stressful
We love swinging and it is totally loads of fun but there is stress involved especially for men. In the vanilla world (aka non-swinging world) you can meet a lady, go on several dates, slowly build a connection and ease into it. Swinging tends to be much, much faster paced and it can be very hard for men to perform which is why ED pills are very common in the lifestyle even for young and healthy men. It helps them get over that mental hurdle.
Ask yourself why?
What are you hoping to get out of this? Do you want to be a voyeur? Gawking at clubs isn’t really polite. Not to mention many clubs have the sexy action take place behind closed doors in private rooms so you won’t see the show. Do you want to be sexually involved? Do you want to have sex with a man, woman, or both? If you want a woman try Tinder or another hookup app, it will be much easier than trying to be a single man in a swinger club. If you want a bisexual swinger experience, than a swinger club might not be the best option. Some less open minded swingers really frown on male bisexuality and many clubs don’t allow two guys to play in public areas. We aren’t saying these biased bisexual rules are cool just that they exist. Younger swingers tend to be more accepting of male bisexuality. If you are looking for a guy to explore your gay side check out apps like Grindr or Scruff.
Fulfill special fantasies?
It depends on what special fantasies you have. Swingers are good for group sex but for most other fetish ideas, it might not be the best place. Fetlife is a good site to connect with fetish fantasies. If you are interested in something along the lines of cuckold/bull there are some of those people in the lifestyle but that tends to be a more of a distinct fetish aside from the swinging lifestyle. Bukkake or cum play? Again, that might happen in the swinging lifestyle but it really is its own distinct fetish. Fetlife is a good site to explore these and many other fetish fantasies.
A single men can create a profile on the local swinger dating site that is popular in their area. Swinger sites are very region specific. What works for a swinger on the other side of the country might not work in your area. You will need to upgrade to a paid profile because swingers tend to avoid free profiles (too many fakes and flaky people). This also tends to be the better option if you want to connect with other bisexual swinger men who might be downplaying that in the clubs to avoid offending less open minded swingers. Online swinger profiles also give you more time to build an online connection before meeting in person and make your time more enjoyable. Unlike meeting strangers in a swinger club, you have no time limit building a fun and sexy connection with your new swinger friends. Most swingers are very friendly and happy to help others.
You do you.
There is no reason to rush anything. Take a moment and think about what is best for you. There are plenty of people that will happily take the money and let a single man disappoint his ignorant self. Get educated on your options and figure out what you want. You are the best advocate for yourself so do your job and make sure you are doing what is best for you 🙂