Ready to take the plunge into your sexy new lifestyle? Here is a sample “contract” for you & your special someone. It helps explain what you agree to & your responsibilities to each other. Of course, you know this isn’t a real contract. This is more of a tool to ensure you are communicating clearly about what is and what is not acceptable when you test the sexy lifestyle world. If you see a/b/c options, circle all that apply. Feel free to adjust this to better fit your personal relationship.
There is no single right or wrong way to do this. Talk together with your partner. Discuss the different swinging situations and how you each prefer to handle them. Look over the new to swinging checklist and figure out who will handle the different tasks. Approach this more as a conversation starter to figure out how best to protect your relationship. Your relationship with each other is the most important priority. Swinging is just a bonus to that!
Once you have mutually agreed to a swinging pact, you might want to revisit it from time to time. Life never stays still. As life changes, you might want to change your agreement to keep it up to date with both of your preference levels. Just make sure you do this when you are sober and not in the heat of a passionate moment. You want to have a clear head to avoid regrets and maximize smiles.
Happy Swinging!!!!
Our Swinger Contract
Being deeply committed to one another, we choose to embark on a shared sensual experience over the next ___ hours/days/weeks during which we will temporarily rescind the usual rules of our monogamous relationship. We promise each other to be open, honest, and loyal at all times during this experience. We will not lie or mislead one another. If we feel jealous, confused, or another unpleasant emotion, we will communicate with our partner. We will check in with each other during this sensual experience by ___ every ___ hour(s). We understand that we are doing this together and to benefit our relationship. If one of us wants out, we are out.
This pact permits both of us to explore our passion and lust, free of the limitations of a traditional relationship. We permit each other to engage in sexual exploration with other couples/single men/single women. We agree not to form any emotional attachments with any of the people we explore during this sensual experience. We will respect each other’s comfort level and abide by the rules outlined below. If a rule is broken, this contract can be immediately terminated by either of us.
Together, we will strive towards the non-judgmental exploration of our sexual desires. We will support each other as we venture only as far as we are both comfortable. Regardless of what happens, we agree that our primary and ultimate goal is a better relationship between the two of us. We both love and value each other above all else. Together we want to enjoy and share as much of life as possible.
Our Agreed Rules
| Allowed | Not Allowed | Special Note(s) |
| ______ | ______ | Emailing _______________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Calling _________________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Flirting _________________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Touching _______________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Kissing _________________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Oral Sex (giving)_________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Oral Sex (receiving) ______________ |
| ______ | ______ | Male/Male Play _________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Female/Female Play _____________ |
| ______ | ______ | Soft Swap ______________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Full Swap ______________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Same Room Play ________________ |
| ______ | ______ | Separate Room Play _____________ |
Additional Rules
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Signature #1 __________________________
Signature #2 __________________________