Same room is, predictably, when you all play in the same room. It can be a threesome, foursome, or moresome in the same room. It is up to you to decide if you want a big king-size bed or separate beds. Separate rooms is exchanging partners and going to separate rooms for the sexy action. They both can be very fun and have different pros and cons. Keep reading and we’ll help explain the good and bad points so you can decide what will be the best fit for you.
Playing in the same room makes it easier to check in with each other throughout the play session. You can reach out and touch or kiss each other while playing with your new friends. Same room swinging makes it easy to exchange a thumbs up to let each other know you are having some crazy, awesome fun. It can be oh-so-sexy to hear your partner moan in delight as you also enjoy yourself. After you have fun with your sexy play friend, you can switch back to your partner or have some girl-on-girl fun while the guys recharge for another sexy round. You can form all sorts of combinations of sexy fun when everyone is in the same room.
If you are going to try same room play, you should also agree on what to do if you finish first. Some people like to talk after sex or do things that can be distracting to others who are still working towards their own happy, sexy finish. Being in the same room keeps everyone on the same page, since they will be able to see and hear everything you do. You won’t be wondering where your partner is and if they are having a good time because you are all together.
Same room play is pretty awesome – but it is not for everyone. It can also be a bit nerve racking and weird for some couples to hear or see their partners having sexy time with someone else. Some swingers prefer separate room play so they can focus on their new sexy play friend without being distracted or rushed. When you are in your own separate room for play time, you can go at your own pace and not feel like there is a competition to moan louder or last longer. It is just about you and your sexy friend having a fun time enjoying each other’s body. This can be very beneficial for men and women alike.
Ladies do not want to feel rushed. Men can have performance issues if it is too sexy, noisy or distracting in the same room. We all live crazy stressful lives juggling work, family and everything else. Being placed in the spotlight of a crowded room and expected to perform on demand can be too much stress, resulting in less than stellar performance.
On the other side are some men who find same room sex just too sexy and they become overexcited and finish too soon. You can’t really blame them; it’s super hot to see your sexy wife showing off her hottest bedroom moves while your gorgeous, new play friend is ravaging your body! So yeah, it can be too distracting in the same room. When you are in a separate room, you can go at your own pace without any pressure or spotlight from other people. That helps many men to perform at a higher & harder level. Being able to just focus on your new play friend helps simplify the equation.
Plus, when you are having separate room fun, you can let yourself go without worrying about being too loud. Some people hold back in same room situations because they don’t want others to hear how much they truly enjoy their new play friend for fear of making another person distracted or raising jealous feelings. Separate room play can be a really fun time and give you an opportunity to reconnect with your partner later to exchange new sexy stories or techniques you might have learned.
Pros of Same Room Swinging
- Get to see your hot partner in a real life porn show
- Chance for group play & interacting
- Stay connected with your partner
- Can easily switch back to your own partner
- Able to help your partner with ED issues
- Easier to ensure rules are followed
- Shared memories
- Easier to find swingers into same room play
- Some friendly competition can be very fun
Cons of Same Room Swinging
- Stimulation overload can happen
- Loud moaning or talking can be distracting
- Can be hard to fit everyone in a small room or bed
- Sexy ladies/endowed men can seem intimidating
Pros of Separate Room Swinging
- Less distractions
- Can progress at your own pace
- Easier to focus on your play partner
- Lower anxiety/pressure with no audience
- Can choose your own lighting/background music
- Sharing the steamy details the next day
- Can orgasm loudly without risking your partner feeling insecure
Cons of Separate Room Swinging
- Not knowing when they’re finished & wanting to reconnect
- Can expose trust issues & insecure feelings
- Two hotel rooms cost more
- No chance for bisexual play
- Not the easiest option for inexperienced swingers
Both options can be quite enjoyable. There is no right or wrong choice. Much of this can vary depending on the couples involved. Talk with your partner about what you both want. Then figure out what matches up best for your personal swinging style and you do you 🙂