The time following the birth of a new baby is incredibly emotional. For starters, you created a little human. That, in itself, is mind-blowing, whether it’s your first or 40th time. Giving birth is physically, mentally, and emotionally taxing on its own before you add in the abundance of hormones coursing through your body.
At the same time, you take on the myriad responsibilities of actually mothering. Getting back into the lifestyle is not a top priority for most new moms, but many women do look forward to it at some point. Often mixed in with excitement is some trepidation about many things, including juggling responsibilities and adjusting to a new body. Getting back into the swing of things again (pun intended!) can feel like a daunting prospect, but you are not alone.
New Mom Worries
A big part of apprehension for many new moms is how their bodies have changed since they were last active in the lifestyle. Trust us when we say that you are your own harshest critic. Remember that members of the lifestyle community come in all different shapes and sizes.
Rather than focus on what you perceive as lingering “issues” with your post-pregnancy body, think about why so many people fantasize about MILFs. Common physical changes that result from pregnancy and childbirth, including fuller breasts and softer curves, add a certain mystique of strength and maturity that is incredibly attractive to many, many, many people. Celebrate and feel confident about your mom bod because it is definitely a sexy masterpiece.
Remember that the Barbie and Ken types are the minority. Most people involved in swinging, whether they have children or not, have standard bodies like you. We all have flaws that seem huge to us but are barely noticed by others. Try to avoid comparing yourself to other women you see. Life is not a competition. We should focus on being the best version of ourselves.
If you are nervous about a specific body part, there are lots of sexy costumes and accessories you can leave on, even during play, that you can use to de-emphasize that area. Corsets, belts, babydoll nightdresses, and bodysuits can make you feel sexier and look hot as hell on pretty much everybody.
Plenty of Opportunities
Meet and greets are an excellent option to get acquainted with other couples without committing to nakedness. Keep in mind that while increasingly young adults are getting involved in swinging, the lifestyle appeals to a 30+ crowd for the most part. You will soon realize lots of them, probably most of them, also have children and went through or are still going through the same changes you are facing. This is simply a new thing you can bond over with other swingers.
Embrace how strong your body is and show it off proudly. Nothing is as sexy as a confident woman. Don’t let insecurities hold you back. It is easier to talk about confidently restarting swinging, but we believe in you. Love yourself and go live your best life!