Trying to find local swingers? The answer is simple – sign up for the swinging dating site that is popular for your local area. Swingers tend to work hard at being discreet and protecting their privacy so vanilla sites & events tend to be a waste of time. If you want to connect with local swingers, you want to use the swinger site that they use.
How We Tested – Our testers have gone across America to find the most popular lifestyle site for each city. We did our best to take into consideration free vs paid accounts, active vs dormant, couples vs singles, and other factors to be as fair as possible. If two sites had similar popularity, they are joint winners. If a site wasn’t the most popular but still notable it earned a honorable mention. We strive to provide the most accurate results and welcome your help. If you want to help keep the results accurate, contact us. This list was last updated October 2, 2019.
New Swinger Advice – Most swinging sites offer free registration but it is often useless. Experienced swingers tend to avoid free members because they are much more likely to be fakers. Plus if a swinger can’t afford a one-time sign-up fee then they more likely to not be serious and/or won’t have money to party together. The smart option is to pay for a permanent aka lifetime membership. That sounds scary but it is usually much cheaper than paying monthly for a single year. To safeguard your swinger privacy & discretion, you can pay with a Visa gift card using an alias and separate email address.
Canadian? Check out our maple syrup & hockey loving list of Canadian swinger dating sites.
Don’t worry we also researched the swinger sites for UK & Ireland.
What are the most popular swinging dating sites?
| City, State | Most Popular Swinger Site(s) |
|---|---|
| Birmingham, Alabama | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Mobile, Alabama | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Anchorage, Alaska | Winner: ACAL, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Phoenix, Arizona | Winner: SLS, Kasidie |
| Tucson, Arizona | Winner: SLS |
| Little Rock, Arkansas | Winner: C4P, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
| Anaheim, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Bakersfield, California | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Fresno, California | Winner: SLS |
| Long Beach, California | Winner: Kasidie |
| Los Angeles, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS, LL |
| Riverside, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Sacramento, California | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
| San Diego, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: LL |
| San Francisco, California | Winner: Kasidie, SLS, Honorable Mention: LL |
| San Jose, California | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: LL |
| Stockton, California | Winner: SLS |
| Colorado Springs, Colorado | Winner: Kasidie |
| Denver, Colorado | Winner: Kasidie |
| Fort Collins, Colorado | Winner: Kasidie |
| Bridgeport, Connecticut | Winner: SLS |
| Hartford, Connecticut | Winner: SLS |
| New Haven, Connecticut | Winner: SLS |
| Stamford, Connecticut | Winner: SLS |
| Washington, DC | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie, APG |
| Dover, Delaware | Winner: SLS |
| Jacksonville, Florida | Winner: SDC |
| Miami, Florida | Winner: SDC |
| Orlando, Florida | Winner: SDC |
| Tallahassee, Florida | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Tampa, Florida | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Atlanta, Georgia | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Augusta, Georgia | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Savannah, Georgia | Winner: SLS |
| Honolulu, Hawaii | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Boise, Idaho | Winner: SLS |
| Chicago, Illinois | Winner: SLS, Kasidie |
| Peoria, Illinois | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Evansville, Indiana | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Fort Wayne, Indiana | Winner: SZC |
| Indianapolis, Indiana | Winner: SZC |
| Des Moines, Iowa | Winner: SwingVillage |
| Kansas City, Kansas | Winner: C4P |
| Wichita, Kansas | Winner: C4P |
| Lexington, Kentucky | Winner: SZC |
| Louisville, Kentucky | Winner: SZC |
| Baton Rouge, Louisiana | Winner: SLS |
| New Orleans, Louisiana | Winner: SLS |
| Shreveport, Louisiana | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Portland, Maine | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Baltimore, Maryland | Winner: SLS |
| Boston, Massachusetts | Winner: SLS |
| Springfield, Massachusetts | Winner: SLS |
| Worcester, Massachusetts | Winner: SLS |
| Detroit, Michigan | Winner: SLS |
| Grand Rapids, Michigan | Winner: SLS |
| Lansing, Michigan | Winner: SLS |
| Minneapolis, Minnesota | Winner: Couples Next Door, LL, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Jackson, Mississippi | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
| Columbia, Missouri | Winner: C4P |
| Kansas City, Missouri | Winner: C4P |
| Springfield, Missouri | Winner: C4P |
| St. Louis, Missouri | Winner: C4P |
| Billings, Montana | Winner: Four O, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Lincoln, Nebraska | Winner: SwingVillage, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Omaha, Nebraska | Winner: SwingVillage |
| Las Vegas, Nevada | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
| Reno, Nevada | Winner: SLS |
| Manchester, New Hampshire | Winner: SLS |
| Morristown, New Jersey | Winner: SLS |
| New Brunswick, New Jersey | Winner: SLS |
| Newark, New Jersey | Winner: SLS |
| Albuquerque, New Mexico | Winner: SLS |
| Albany, New York | Winner: SLS |
| Buffalo, New York | Winner: SLS |
| New York, New York | Winner: SLS |
| Syracuse, New York | Winner: SLS |
| Charlotte, North Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Fayetteville, North Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Raleigh, North Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Wilmington, North Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Winston–Salem, North Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Fargo, North Dakota | Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Help |
| Cincinnati, Ohio | Winner: SZC |
| Cleveland, Ohio | Winner: SLS |
| Columbus, Ohio | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC |
| Toledo, Ohio | Winner: SLS |
| Oklahoma City, Oklahoma | Winner: C4P, Honorable Mention: SDC |
| Tulsa, Oklahoma | Winner: C4P |
| Portland, Oregon | Winner: Kasidie |
| Harrisburg, Pennsylvania | Winner: SLS |
| Philadelphia, Pennsylvania | Winner: SLS |
| Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania | Winner: SLS |
| Providence, Rhode Island | Winner: SLS |
| Charleston, South Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Columbia, South Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Greenville, South Carolina | Winner: SLS |
| Sioux Falls, South Dakota | Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Help |
| Chattanooga, Tennessee | Winner: SLS |
| Knoxville, Tennessee | Winner: SLS |
| Memphis, Tennessee | Winner: SLS |
| Nashville, Tennessee | Winner: SLS |
| Austin, Texas | Winner: SDC, Kasidie |
| Corpus Christi, Texas | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Dallas, Texas | Winner: SDC |
| El Paso, Texas | Winner: SLS |
| Houston, Texas | Winner: SDC, Quiver |
| Lubbock, Texas | Winner: SLS |
| San Antonio, Texas | Winner: SDC |
| Salt Lake City, Utah | Winner: Swingular |
| Burlington, Vermont | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Alexandria, Virginia | Winner: SLS |
| Richmond, Virginia | Winner: SLS |
| Virginia Beach, Virginia | Winner: SLS |
| Seattle, Washington | Winner: Kasidie |
| Spokane, Washington | Winner: Kasidie, PNWSwing |
| Charleston, West Virginia | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
| Madison, Wisconsin | Winner: SLS |
| Milwaukee, Wisconsin | Winner: SLS |
| Cheyenne, Wyoming | Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Help |
What does a swinging dating site cost?
The prices for the big US swinging dating sites are…
AFF aka Adult Friend Finder – More hookup than swinger centric site. $40 per month.
APG aka Alt Playground – Popular in Mid Atlantic region. $140 per year.
Alaska Center for Alternative Lifestyles – Open to Swingers, Poly, BDSM and other alternative lifestyles in Alaska. $50 a month or $475 per year.
C4P aka ClubForeplay – Popular in the Midwest. $84 per year.
CND aka Couples Next Door – Popular in Minnesota.
Kasidie.com – Popular in many Western cities. Sliding scale prices – $30 to $130 annual fee.
LL aka Lifestyle Lounge – Popular in California. $190 lifetime fee.
Quiver – Popular in parts of Texas. $100 annual fee.
PNWSwing – Popular in the Inner PNW area.
SDC aka Swingers Date Club – Popular in Southeastern cities. $250 lifetime fee.
SLS aka SwingLifeStyle – Popular in Northern cities. $150 lifetime fee.
Swingular – Popular in Utah. $99 lifetime fee.
SwingTowns – Building a Poly & Swinging community in the USA & Canada. $17 a month or $170 for lifetime membership.
SZC aka Swinger Zone Central – Popular in the Midwest. $60 lifetime fee.
Four O – Private social network of swingers in Montana, contact for more information.
There are over 30 swinging dating sites in the US. Most of them aren’t popular enough so you probably will want to stick with these most popular sites.
Travelling north to Canada? Check out our list of popular Canadian swinging sites.
Happy Swinging!!!
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