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Most Popular Swinging Sites by City

Are you trying to find local swingers? The answer is simple – sign up for the swinging dating site popular in your local area. Swingers tend to work hard at being discreet and protecting their privacy, so vanilla sites & events tend to be a waste of time. If you want to connect with local swingers, you want to use the swinger site that the locals use.

How We Tested – Our testers have collected data from across America to find each city’s most popular lifestyle site. We considered free vs. paid accounts, active vs. dormant, couples vs. singles, and several other data factors to be as fair and accurate as possible. If two sites had similar popularity, they are joint winners. If a site wasn’t the most popular but still very notable, it earned an honorable mention. Because swingers love variety, we also added alternative options. The alternatives are not the most popular but are growing and can be a backup option if you aren’t happy with the popular site.

This list is ACTIVELY UPDATING.  This is because C4P was a big swinger site & unexpectedly closed down. We are monitoring the situation and frequently updating the chart. Last updated on December 30, 2024.

New Swinger Advice – Most swinging sites offer free registration, but it is often useless. Why? Many swingers will block the free accounts because they tend to be fake accounts trying to steal private pictures or cause other trouble. Even if veteran swingers didn’t filter out free accounts, many sites don’t allow free accounts to send or read messages.  Make sure to use the website versions instead of the app versions.  The app stores have family-friendly rules, making swinger companies censor the content in their apps.  The websites will give you full access to all content.

We have personally used all of these sites and vouch for them to be legitimate. The smartest option is to pay for a permanent aka lifetime membership when it is available. That sounds scary, but it is cheaper than paying monthly for a single year. If you are unsure, choose monthly and remember to switch over to a lifetime account as soon as you are sure. To safeguard your swinger privacy & discretion, you can pay with a Visa gift card using an alias and a separate email address.

International? Check out our list for Canadian swinger dating sites, as well as the swinger sites for UK & Ireland and even Australia/New Zealand LS rankings.

What are the most popular swinging dating sites?

City, State Most Popular Swinger Site(s)
Birmingham, Alabama Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Mobile, Alabama Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Anchorage, Alaska Winner: AFF, Alternative: SwingTowns
Phoenix, Arizona Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Tucson, Arizona Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Little Rock, Arkansas Winner: SDC*, Alternative: Kasidie
Anaheim, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Bakersfield, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Fresno, California Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Long Beach, California Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SLS
Los Angeles, California Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: LL
Riverside, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Sacramento, California Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
San Diego, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
San Francisco, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
San Jose, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Stockton, California Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Colorado Springs, Colorado Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: AFF
Denver, Colorado Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SDC
Fort Collins, Colorado Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: AFF
Bridgeport, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Hartford, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
New Haven, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Stamford, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Washington, DC Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Dover, Delaware Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Jacksonville, Florida Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Miami, Florida Winner: SDC, Alternative: SLS
Orlando, Florida Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Tallahassee, Florida Winner: SDC, SLS
Tampa, Florida Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Atlanta, Georgia Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Augusta, Georgia Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Savannah, Georgia Winner: SDC, SLS
Honolulu, Hawaii Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Boise, Idaho Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Chicago, Illinois Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Peoria, Illinois Winner: AFF, Honorable Mention: SLS
Evansville, Indiana Winner: SZC, Alternative: SLS
Fort Wayne, Indiana Winner: SZC, Alternative: SLS
Indianapolis, Indiana Winner: SZC, Alternative: Kasidie
Des Moines, Iowa Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SwingVillage
Kansas City, Kansas Winner: SDC*, Alternative: Kasidie
Wichita, Kansas Winner: SDC*, Alternative: Kasidie
Lexington, Kentucky Winner: SZC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Louisville, Kentucky Winner: SZC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Baton Rouge, Louisiana Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
New Orleans, Louisiana Winner: SLS, Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SDC
Shreveport, Louisiana Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Portland, Maine Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Baltimore, Maryland Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Boston, Massachusetts Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Springfield, Massachusetts Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Worcester, Massachusetts Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Detroit, Michigan Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Grand Rapids, Michigan Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Lansing, Michigan Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Minneapolis, Minnesota Winner: LL, Honorable Mention:  SLS, CND
Jackson, Mississippi Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Columbia, Missouri Winner: SLS*, Alternative: AFF
Kansas City, Missouri Winner: SDC*, Alternative: Kasidie
Springfield, Missouri Winner: SDC*, Alternative: Kasidie
St. Louis, Missouri Winner: Kasidie*, Honorable Mention: SDC
Billings, Montana Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: AFF
Lincoln, Nebraska Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: AFF
Omaha, Nebraska Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Las Vegas, Nevada Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Reno, Nevada Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Manchester, New Hampshire Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Morristown, New Jersey Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
New Brunswick, New Jersey Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Newark, New Jersey Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Albuquerque, New Mexico Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Albany, New York Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Buffalo, New York Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
New York, New York Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Syracuse, New York Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Charlotte, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Fayetteville, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Raleigh, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Wilmington, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Winston–Salem, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Fargo, North Dakota Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Tips
Cincinnati, Ohio Winner: SZC, Alternative: SLS
Cleveland, Ohio Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Columbus, Ohio Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC
Toledo, Ohio Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma Winner: SDC, Alternative: Kasidie
Tulsa, Oklahoma Winner: SDC, Alternative: Kasidie
Portland, Oregon Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SLS
Harrisburg, Pennsylvania Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Providence, Rhode Island Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Charleston, South Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Columbia, South Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Greenville, South Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Sioux Falls, South Dakota Winner: AFF, Alternative: SwingTowns
Chattanooga, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Knoxville, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Memphis, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Nashville, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Austin, Texas Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Corpus Christi, Texas Winner: SDC, Alternative: SLS
Dallas, Texas Winner: SDC,  Honorable Mention: Kasidie
El Paso, Texas Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Houston, Texas Winner: SDC, Quiver
Lubbock, Texas Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
San Antonio, Texas Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Salt Lake City, Utah Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: Swingular
Burlington, Vermont Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF
Alexandria, Virginia Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Richmond, Virginia Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Virginia Beach, Virginia Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Seattle, Washington Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Spokane, Washington Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: AFF
Charleston, West Virginia Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF
Madison, Wisconsin Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Milwaukee, Wisconsin Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Cheyenne, Wyoming Winner: AFF, Alternative: Kasidie

* Some cities are quickly changing due to C4P unexpectedly closing down. We added an asterisk to designate cities that are in flux. We will continue to monitor the situation and update the chart.

What does a swinging dating site cost?

Good swinger sites cost money because proper website security isn’t cheap.  As much as we hate paywalls, they work wonders at keeping out the trolling fakes and troublemakers that plague the internet.

The prices for the big US swinging dating sites are…
AFF aka Adult Friend Finder – More hookup than swinger-centric site. $40/monthly or $240/annually.
Kasidie – Popular in many Western cities. Sliding scale prices – $30 to $130 annual fee.
SDC aka Swingers Date Club – Popular in Southeastern cities. $250 lifetime fee.
SLS aka SwingLifeStyle – Popular in northern cities. $25/monthly or $199 unlimited fee.
Swingular – Popular in Utah. $99 lifetime fee.
SZC aka Swinger Zone Central – Popular in the Midwest. $60 lifetime fee.

There are over 30 swinging dating sites in the US. Most of them aren’t popular enough, with almost no members, and others are outright scams. Protect yourself and stick with the popular sites that are legitimate and have actual members.  Many of the abandoned swinger sites haven’t maintained their security, so do not use your vanilla information on those swinger sites.  Keep your guard up & stay safe.  Here is an article to help you safeguard your swinger privacy.

Are you traveling north to Canada? Check out our list of popular Canadian swinging sites.

Happy Swinging!!!

Any questions or suggestions, please contact us 🙂

Last Updated: January 2, 2025
Written By:Dr. Georgia
Tagged With: Technology

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