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Most Popular Swinging Sites by City

Trying to find local swingers? The answer is simple – sign up for the swinging dating site popular in your local area. Swingers tend to work hard at being discreet and protecting their privacy, so vanilla sites & events tend to be a waste of time. If you want to connect with local swingers, you want to use the swinger site that the locals use.

How We Tested – Our testers have collected data from all across America to find the most popular lifestyle site for each city. We considered free vs. paid accounts, active vs. dormant, couples vs. singles, and several other data factors to be as fair and accurate as possible.  If two sites had similar popularity, they are joint winners.  If a site wasn’t the most popular but still very notable, it earned an honorable mention.  Because swingers love variety, we also added alternative options which aren’t the most popular but are a decent backup option.   This list was last updated on April 6, 2021.

New Swinger Advice – Most swinging sites offer free registration, but it is often useless. Why?  Many swingers will block the free accounts because they tend to more likely be fake accounts trying to steal private pictures or cause other trouble. Not to mention many sites don’t allow free accounts to send or read messages.

We have personally used all of these sites and vouch for them to be legitimate.  The smartest option is to pay for a permanent aka lifetime membership, when it is available. That sounds scary, but it is much cheaper than paying monthly for a single year. If you are unsure, choose monthly and remember to switch over to a lifetime account as soon as you are sure.  To safeguard your swinger privacy & discretion, you can pay with a Visa gift card using an alias and a separate email address.

International? Check out our list for Canadian swinger dating sites, as well as the swinger sites for UK & Ireland and even Australia/New Zealand LS rankings.

What are the most popular swinging dating sites?

City, State Most Popular Swinger Site(s)
Birmingham, Alabama Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Mobile, Alabama Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Anchorage, Alaska Winner: AFF
Phoenix, Arizona Winner: SLS, Kasidie
Tucson, Arizona Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Little Rock, Arkansas Winner: C4P, Honorable Mention: AFF
Anaheim, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Bakersfield, California Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF
Fresno, California Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Long Beach, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: LL
Los Angeles, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: LL
Riverside, California Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Sacramento, California Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
San Diego, California Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SDC
San Francisco, California Winner: SLS, Kasidie, Honorable Mention: LL
San Jose, California Winner: SLS, Kasidie, Honorable Mention: LL
Stockton, California Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Colorado Springs, Colorado Winner: Kasidie
Denver, Colorado Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SDC
Fort Collins, Colorado Winner: Kasidie
Bridgeport, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Hartford, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
New Haven, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Stamford, Connecticut Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Washington, DC Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Dover, Delaware Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Jacksonville, Florida Winner: SDC, SLS
Miami, Florida Winner: SDC, Alternative: Kasidie
Orlando, Florida Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Tallahassee, Florida Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF
Tampa, Florida Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Atlanta, Georgia Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Augusta, Georgia Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF
Savannah, Georgia Winner: SDC, SLS
Honolulu, Hawaii Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Boise, Idaho Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Chicago, Illinois Winner: SLS, Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SZC
Peoria, Illinois Winner: AFF, Honorable Mention: SLS
Evansville, Indiana Winner: SZC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Fort Wayne, Indiana Winner: SZC
Indianapolis, Indiana Winner: SZC, Alternative: Kasidie
Des Moines, Iowa Winner: SwingVillage, Alternative: Kasidie
Kansas City, Kansas Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie
Wichita, Kansas Winner: C4P
Lexington, Kentucky Winner: SZC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Louisville, Kentucky Winner: SZC, Alternative: Kasidie
Baton Rouge, Louisiana Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
New Orleans, Louisiana Winner: SLS, SDC
Shreveport, Louisiana Winner: SDC, SLS
Portland, Maine Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Baltimore, Maryland Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Boston, Massachusetts Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Springfield, Massachusetts Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Worcester, Massachusetts Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Detroit, Michigan Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Grand Rapids, Michigan Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Lansing, Michigan Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Minneapolis, Minnesota Winner: LL, Honorable Mention:  SLS, CND
Jackson, Mississippi Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Columbia, Missouri Winner: C4P
Kansas City, Missouri Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie
Springfield, Missouri Winner: C4P
St. Louis, Missouri Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie
Billings, Montana Winner: AFF
Lincoln, Nebraska Winner: SwingVillage, Honorable Mention: AFF
Omaha, Nebraska Winner: SwingVillage
Las Vegas, Nevada Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Reno, Nevada Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Manchester, New Hampshire Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Morristown, New Jersey Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
New Brunswick, New Jersey Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Newark, New Jersey Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Albuquerque, New Mexico Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Albany, New York Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Buffalo, New York Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
New York, New York Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Syracuse, New York Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Charlotte, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Fayetteville, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Raleigh, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Wilmington, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Winston–Salem, North Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Fargo, North Dakota Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Tips
Cincinnati, Ohio Winner: SZC, Alternative: Kasidie
Cleveland, Ohio Winner: SLS, Alternative: SZC
Columbus, Ohio Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC
Toledo, Ohio Winner: SZC,  Honorable Mention: SLS
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma Winner: C4P, Honorable Mention: SDC
Tulsa, Oklahoma Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie
Portland, Oregon Winner: Kasidie
Harrisburg, Pennsylvania Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Providence, Rhode Island Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Charleston, South Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Columbia, South Carolina Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Greenville, South Carolina Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Sioux Falls, South Dakota Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Tips
Chattanooga, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Knoxville, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Memphis, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Nashville, Tennessee Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: DDN
Austin, Texas Winner: SDC, Kasidie
Corpus Christi, Texas Winner: SDC
Dallas, Texas Winner: SDC,  Honorable Mention: Kasidie, SLS
El Paso, Texas Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Houston, Texas Winner: SDC, Quiver
Lubbock, Texas Winner: SLS, SDC
San Antonio, Texas Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS
Salt Lake City, Utah Winner: Swingular, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Burlington, Vermont Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF
Alexandria, Virginia Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie
Richmond, Virginia Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Virginia Beach, Virginia Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC
Seattle, Washington Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS
Spokane, Washington Winner: Kasidie
Charleston, West Virginia Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC
Madison, Wisconsin Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Milwaukee, Wisconsin Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie
Cheyenne, Wyoming Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Tips

What does a swinging dating site cost?

The prices for the big US swinging dating sites are…
AFF aka Adult Friend Finder – More hookup than swinger-centric site. $40/monthly or $240/annually.
C4P aka ClubForeplay – Popular in the Midwest. $84 per year.
CND aka Couples Next Door – Popular in Minnesota. $89/annually or $199 lifetime fee.
DDN aka Double Date Nation – Newer site launched in 2019, gaining traction in Tennessee.
Kasidie.com – Popular in many Western cities. Sliding scale prices – $30 to $130 annual fee.
LL aka Lifestyle Lounge – Popular in California. $190 annual fee or $499 lifetime fee.
Quiver – Popular in parts of Texas. $100 annual fee.
SDC aka Swingers Date Club – Popular in Southeastern cities. $250 lifetime fee.
SLS aka SwingLifeStyle – Popular in Northern cities. $69/annually or $150 lifetime fee.
Swingular – Popular in Utah. $99 lifetime fee.
SZC aka Swinger Zone Central – Popular in the Midwest. $60 lifetime fee.

There are over 30 swinging dating sites in the US. Most of them aren’t popular enough, and others are outright scams.  You should stick with these popular sites that are legitimate and have enough real members.

Traveling north to Canada?  Check out our list of popular Canadian swinging sites.

Happy Swinging!!!

Any questions or suggestions, please contact us 🙂

Published: October 23, 2018
Last Updated: April 6, 2021
Tagged With: Technology

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