Are you trying to find local swingers? The answer is simple – sign up for the swinging dating site popular in your local area. Swingers tend to work hard at being discreet and protecting their privacy, so vanilla sites & events tend to be a waste of time. If you want to connect with local swingers, you want to use the swinger site that the locals use.
How We Tested – Our testers have collected data from across America to find each city’s most popular lifestyle site. We considered free vs. paid accounts, active vs. dormant, couples vs. singles, and several other data factors to be as fair and accurate as possible. If two sites had similar popularity, they are joint winners. If a site wasn’t the most popular but still very notable, it earned an honorable mention. Because swingers love variety, we also added alternative options. The alternatives are not the most popular but are growing and can be a backup option if you aren’t happy with the popular site. This list was last updated on September 10, 2023.
New Swinger Advice – Most swinging sites offer free trial registration, but it is often useless. Why? Many swingers will block the free accounts because they tend to be fake accounts trying to steal private pictures or cause other trouble. Even if veteran swingers didn’t filter out free accounts, many sites don’t allow free accounts to send or read messages. Make sure to use the website versions instead of the app versions. The app stores have strict family-friendly rules, making swinger companies censor the content in their apps. The swinger website versions give you full access to the content.
We have personally used all of these sites and vouch for them to be legitimate. The best value option is to pay for a permanent aka lifetime membership, whenever available on these sites. The lifetime option will save you money in less than a year of paying compared to recurring monthly charges. If you are unsure, choose monthly and remember to switch over to a lifetime account as soon as you are sure. To safeguard your swinger privacy & discretion, you can pay with a Visa gift card using an alias and a separate email address.
International? Check out our list of Canadian swinger dating sites, as well as the swinger sites for UK & Ireland, and even Australia/New Zealand LS rankings.
What are the most popular swinging dating sites?
City, State | Most Popular Swinger Sites |
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Birmingham, Alabama | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Mobile, Alabama | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
Anchorage, Alaska | Winner: AFF |
Phoenix, Arizona | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Tucson, Arizona | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
Little Rock, Arkansas | Winner: C4P, Honorable Mention: AFF |
Anaheim, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Bakersfield, California | Winner: Kasidie, SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Fresno, California | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Long Beach, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS, LL |
Los Angeles, California | Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: LL |
Riverside, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Sacramento, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
San Diego, California | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SDC |
San Francisco, California | Winner: Kasidie, SLS, Honorable Mention: LL |
San Jose, California | Winner: Kasidie, SLS, Honorable Mention: LL |
Stockton, California | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Colorado Springs, Colorado | Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: AFF |
Denver, Colorado | Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SDC |
Fort Collins, Colorado | Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: AFF |
Bridgeport, Connecticut | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Hartford, Connecticut | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
New Haven, Connecticut | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Stamford, Connecticut | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Washington, DC | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
Dover, Delaware | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Jacksonville, Florida | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Miami, Florida | Winner: SDC, Alternative: SLS |
Orlando, Florida | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Tallahassee, Florida | Winner: SDC, SLS |
Tampa, Florida | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Atlanta, Georgia | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Augusta, Georgia | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Savannah, Georgia | Winner: SDC, SLS |
Honolulu, Hawaii | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Boise, Idaho | Winner: SLS, Kasidie |
Chicago, Illinois | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Peoria, Illinois | Winner: AFF, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Evansville, Indiana | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC |
Fort Wayne, Indiana | Winner: SZC, Alternative: SLS |
Indianapolis, Indiana | Winner: SZC, Alternative: Kasidie |
Des Moines, Iowa | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SwingVillage |
Kansas City, Kansas | Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie |
Wichita, Kansas | Winner: C4P, Alternative: AFF |
Lexington, Kentucky | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC |
Louisville, Kentucky | Winner: SZC, Alternative: SLS |
Baton Rouge, Louisiana | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
New Orleans, Louisiana | Winner: SLS, Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Shreveport, Louisiana | Winner: SDC, SLS |
Portland, Maine | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Baltimore, Maryland | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Boston, Massachusetts | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Springfield, Massachusetts | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Worcester, Massachusetts | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Detroit, Michigan | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Grand Rapids, Michigan | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Lansing, Michigan | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Minneapolis, Minnesota | Winner: LL, Honorable Mention: SLS, CND |
Jackson, Mississippi | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Columbia, Missouri | Winner: C4P, Alternative: SLS |
Kansas City, Missouri | Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie |
Springfield, Missouri | Winner: C4P, Alternative: AFF |
St. Louis, Missouri | Winner: C4P, Alternative: Kasidie |
Billings, Montana | Winner: AFF, Alternative: Kasidie |
Lincoln, Nebraska | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: AFF |
Omaha, Nebraska | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: AFF |
Las Vegas, Nevada | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Reno, Nevada | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
Manchester, New Hampshire | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Morristown, New Jersey | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
New Brunswick, New Jersey | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Newark, New Jersey | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Albuquerque, New Mexico | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Albany, New York | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Buffalo, New York | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
New York, New York | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Syracuse, New York | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Charlotte, North Carolina | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Fayetteville, North Carolina | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Raleigh, North Carolina | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Wilmington, North Carolina | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Winston–Salem, North Carolina | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Fargo, North Dakota | Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Tips |
Cincinnati, Ohio | Winner: SZC, Alternative: SLS |
Cleveland, Ohio | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Columbus, Ohio | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC |
Toledo, Ohio | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SZC |
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma | Winner: C4P, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Tulsa, Oklahoma | Winner: C4P, Alternative: SDC |
Portland, Oregon | Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: SLS |
Harrisburg, Pennsylvania | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Providence, Rhode Island | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Charleston, South Carolina | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Columbia, South Carolina | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Greenville, South Carolina | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Sioux Falls, South Dakota | Winner: AFF – Rural Swinger Tips |
Chattanooga, Tennessee | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: SDC |
Knoxville, Tennessee | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Memphis, Tennessee | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Nashville, Tennessee | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Austin, Texas | Winner: SDC, Kasidie |
Corpus Christi, Texas | Winner: SDC, Alternative: SLS |
Dallas, Texas | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
El Paso, Texas | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Houston, Texas | Winner: SDC, Quiver |
Lubbock, Texas | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: SLS |
San Antonio, Texas | Winner: SDC, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
Salt Lake City, Utah | Winner: Kasidie, Swingular |
Burlington, Vermont | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: AFF |
Alexandria, Virginia | Winner: SLS, Honorable Mention: Kasidie |
Richmond, Virginia | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Virginia Beach, Virginia | Winner: SLS, Alternative: SDC |
Seattle, Washington | Winner: Kasidie, Honorable Mention: SLS |
Spokane, Washington | Winner: Kasidie, Alternative: AFF |
Charleston, West Virginia | Winner: SLS, Alternative: AFF |
Madison, Wisconsin | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Milwaukee, Wisconsin | Winner: SLS, Alternative: Kasidie |
Cheyenne, Wyoming | Winner: AFF, Alternative: Kasidie |
What does a swinging dating site cost?
Good swinger sites cost money because proper website security isn’t cheap. As much as we hate paywalls, they work wonders at keeping out the trolling fakes and troublemakers that plague the internet.
The prices for the big US swinging dating sites are…
AFF aka Adult Friend Finder – More hookup than swinger-centric site. $40/monthly or $240/annually.
C4P aka ClubForeplay – Popular in the Midwest. $84 per year.
Kasidie – Popular in many Western cities. Sliding scale prices – $30 to $130 annual fee.
SDC aka Swingers Date Club – Popular in Southeastern cities. $250 lifetime fee.
SLS aka SwingLifeStyle – Popular in Northern cities. $25/monthly or $199 unlimited fee.
Swingular – Popular in Utah. $99 lifetime fee.
SZC aka Swinger Zone Central – Popular in the Midwest. $60 lifetime fee.
There are over 30 swinging dating sites in the US. Most of them aren’t popular enough, with almost no members, and others are outright scams. Protect yourself and stick with the popular sites that are legitimate and have actual members. Many of the abandoned swinger sites haven’t maintained their security, so do not use your vanilla information on those swinger sites. Keep your guard up & stay safe. Here is an article to help you safeguard your swinger privacy.
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