Just as men have erotic fantasies involving two or more ladies at a time, women too imagine themselves having sex with multiple men at once. Arranging a swinger gangbang can be a gratifying experience for both of you if that is what you personally enjoy. If you don’t know where to start, this step-by-step guide will teach you all you need to know to set up the event like a pro.
- Understand What She Really Wants
The secret to a successful gangbang starts with understanding what the lady really wants. Ladies – if you are reading this, think about what you really want out of this. Gangbangs are a more advanced sex party involving a large number of people. If you aren’t clear about what you want and do not want, things can spiral out of control quickly. There is a big difference between fantasy and reality. Some women enjoy imagining themselves having sex with multiple men at once, although they may not feel comfortable actually doing it in real life. You both should think twice before proceeding because surprises are usually not fun during a gangbang. Talk through your plans and make sure you are both comfortable with the idea before inviting anyone. - Understand Your Roles
Bouncer unhooking velvet rope. During a gangbang, things can easily get out of control unless someone is overseeing it. Thus, the man’s role is usually not being one of the bangers. He is usually the coordinator and ensures the lady’s safety and comfort, especially when inviting men you have never met before. If the man is not comfortable with just watching and ensuring that things run smoothly, perhaps it would be better to ask another swinger you have met before to organize and coordinate the event. The lady also needs to participate and not just in having sex. Before the gangbang, the lady should be involved in screening the men to ensure everyone is a good match. You don’t want to have to reject anyone while you are in the middle of the gangbang. The lady also needs to communicate with her man regularly during the gangbang, so he knows if she is ok or needs anything. Establish a few safety words and signs you can use to stay happy & safe.
- Establish Rules and Limits For Your Gangbang
It is crucial to establish swinging rules and follow the limits that the lady wants. The rules help everyone have a good time and greatly reduces the odds of a man accidentally ruining the sexy moment. Men aren’t good mind readers, but veteran swinging men are great at following rules & instructions. Make sure you clearly communicate with them your personal rules. Make a list of all off-limits activities and share exactly what can be penetrated and by which body parts. Think about full sex, oral, & butt activities. What is and is not allowed? What about rules regarding the use of condoms and ejaculation? Don’t assume anything. Clearly communicate your preference and limitations to each man attending. - Determine The Size of The Event
Gangbangs can mean anything from your wife and three men to your wife and dozens of men. Although you can arrange an orgy of any size, starting small is the wiser option for everyone involved. You can always arrange a larger gangbang next time around. Swingers tend to be flaky and no show, but horny single men tend to show up when an attractive sexy lady is looking for fun. Play it safe and don’t over invite. - Find a Suitable Hosting Site
Once you determined the number of participants, it’s time to find a suitable hosting site for this orgy. A hotel room could be a suitable solution for a small bang, especially if you want to keep it as private as possible. Some couples ask the visiting men to donate to the hotel room’s cost or bring some food or drink to be shared. Be careful in the USA with any payments. They can open you up for arrest due to the FOSTA law. Another option is to contact your local swinging club. Most clubs can host your party and even help you with the logistics and suggesting experienced single men good with following rules if you find it too overwhelming to arrange everything on your own. Swinging clubs apart, you can also find support, ideas, and even bangers on your local swinger dating websites. - Find the Bangers
One thing is certain; you can’t have a gangbang without the bangers. Arranging a swinger gangbang for your wife should be fairly easy if you’re already a member of your local swinging club, especially if there are a few single male swingers in your community. Otherwise, turn to your Adult Friend Finders or your local swinger dating site. You can either contact single profiles directly or start an event thread and let those interested in attending a gangbang contact you. Either way, know that many of those who share their interest might not pass your screening process or show up at your party; that’s why it is recommended to contact more people than you need. For instance, if you’re planning a 5-man gangbang, you should contact at least 10 potential bangers. - Screening Process
There is a high supply of single men, so you can be a bit picky when screening swingers. It is crucial to pick the right guys. You can ask for pictures (face, body & private parts). If you are using a swinger website, you can see if the men have references from other swinging couples. Finding men with experience in group sex is very important. Many men have trouble performing in front of other people, so you want to minimize that possibility and favor experienced people. Don’t limit yourself to chat; meet each guy in person for a coffee or beer, and make sure you’re happy with his appearance and demeanor. You want to make sure they are well-behaved men who will respect the rules & boundaries at the gangbang. - Take Care of Logistics
Whether it takes place at your home, at a hotel, or swinging club, you want everyone to enjoy the gang bang to the fullest. To keep the sexy time rolling smoothly along, stock up on everything you will need, including lube and condoms. Some wine or beer can help set a fun mood, but less alcohol is smarter. Dim the lights or use red lightbulbs, and background music can also enhance the event, making it even more magical for the lady. Make sure there are enough towels, napkins, and wastebaskets. For more ideas, check out our swinger party checklist. - Prepare the Gangbang Space
Next, you should prepare the sex space in the best possible way to help your wife enjoy the attention she receives. If you have food and drinks, keep it away from the sexy fun to avoid any spills or accidents. Think about the different positions and what furniture might help or be in the way. The idea is to give the lady the possibility to have sex in as many positions as possible, so she won’t get tired or uncomfortable if she is stuck in the same position all night long. If you are thinking of being airtight (3 men at once), it will be tight. Fitting all three men that close together may need some obstructing furniture moved. If your wife likes sex toys during the bang, place them within easy reach. Make sure plenty of lube & condoms are within easy reach from all sides of the play area. - Play Host
When the big day arrives, welcome everyone and introduce the bangers to your wife if you picked random guys. Explain the rules to them and make sure they understand all of them. Don’t assume anything. If you aren’t sure about anyone or think they might have had too much to drink, remove them ASAP. Do not risk anything. Set the mood with lights and music, pay attention to the action and watch for the safety words or signals. From now on, the lady is the center of attention, and she will dictate the rules. Watch what happens and make sure she feels comfortable at all times. It could be hard to maintain your concentration and not get aroused, but it’s essential to stay focused. If you don’t want things to go awry, don’t engage in any erotic activities with the group. You can get your share of sex once the bang is safely over. - Deal With the Aftermaths
Once the gang bang is over, help your wife to the shower and then clean up the space. When everyone’s gone and you two are alone, pour herself a glass of wine and let her relax. Enjoy dinner at home or take her out on a date if she feels like it, then have sex just the two of you to restore your emotional connection.