You decided to take the plunge and meet some swingers in real life, but no one responds to your swinger personal ad? No worries. Here is a crash course on creating better swinger personal ads to attract sexy matches for you. We want you to have the best chance of success with your online personal ad so let’s stack the odds in your favor!
Step 1 – Search multiple areas
Don’t just limit yourself to your home area. If you can post to two geographic areas, you are basically doubling your chances of meeting other swingers. Some of you may have a vacation home, and others may be able to drive to different cities. The more areas you target, the better your odds.
Step 2 – Expand the categories that you are targeting
Don’t just think about casual encounters or hookups. Depending on the site, you might want to consider selecting other categories like short term dating if you are open to a friends with benefits relationship. You can often find open-minded people in other categories that might be open to what you want.
Step 3 – Consider multiple profiles
Instead of using one profile to post one ad in one city, imagine posting your swinger personal profile on three sites. You have just tripled your odds of success.
Instead of 1 swinger personal in 1 place, we are now using multiple swinger sites & apps, covering multiple cites and open to multiple types of relationship categories. This is how you sway the odds into your favor, which is especially important if you are in a rural swinging situation.
Step 4 – Improving Your Online Dating Skills
If you have been together a long time, your dating game might be a bit rusty. Here is a crash course on how to boost your skills when it comes to online swinger posting:
- Make sure to include a picture. A picture makes your posting more attractive. Some users only read postings that contain a picture. To have the most people read your ad, add a picture. You don’t always need a personal face picture. Sometimes you can use any sexy image that matches the theme of your personal ad.
- You will need to use some patience. As much as you are concerned about creepy people online, the people responding have the same fear. Take it slow and move one step at a time. This prevents spooking them and helps you avoid rushing into traps.
- When you think you have made a connection, make sure your first meeting is in a public area, preferably in a fun place that you will enjoy by yourself. Unfortunately, many people will get nervous and no show at the last minute.
- Don’t send pictures of your junk. It is rarely the sexiest view of you. Show off your self-control, and do not send uninvited pictures of your junk. Often it looks even better when covered with sexy underwear. Double-check that your background also looks good & clean. We also don’t want to see other people in the pictures. That can make people think you are not discreet and careless. Ensure you remove the hidden meta exif data from your pictures that can expose personal data (you can google a free remover tool).
- Be detailed. A near blank personal ad isn’t helpful and has little chance to match up. Speak up about what you like. If you aren’t sure what to write, check out the other swinger personal ads and note what you like best from the different profiles. Then mashup all of those great bits into a super personal ad that is a good reflection of you. Longer profiles give the reader a good sense of who’s behind the screen are much more likely to receive attention from the swinger community. Personality matters, too, so try and be yourself in your profile.
- Keep it all positive. Avoid negative statements and focus on the positive – talking about what turns you on is much better than talking about what turns you off. Of course, you should mention any deal-breakers you have – politely! But know that if you have many swinging deal-breakers, you’ll probably come off as high maintenance, which isn’t very sexy at all. A good rule of thumb is to say at least three positive sexy things for every one negative thing you mention in your profile.
- Protect your privacy. Feel free to bend the truth a little about your personal details to hide your identity. For example, you might change your hometown to another town nearby or be a bit vague on how long you have been dating or married. We aren’t trying to mislead swingers, but many swingers do need to protect their personal information.
- Sexy but not overly graphic. Fakers will push for naked pictures and sex stories. Real swingers tend to do the opposite. Many swingers prefer to meet up sooner than later for real-life sexy times. They are less interested in naked pictures and sex stories because it is much better in real life.
You now know how to create a better swinger personal ad. Get to work and enjoy your new sexy matches!