Games & activities can be fun in the right circumstances. Usually, smaller parties use games & larger parties skip them because they generate their own fun.
You can prepare a few options, but be smart & read the room before suggesting them. Only introduce a game or activity if it would help that specific crowd.
If everyone is smiling & already making connections, don’t interrupt them with a game. This is a sex party, not a board game party. Games should only be pulled out if they are needed. If you see some people acting a little shy or bored, then & only then should you pull out a game to help boost the party energy.
You will want to pick the right sexy game for the right situation. Some games can be too intimate (like spin the bottle). Other games might be too slow or for your group. Here are some game options to help you pick the right one for your party situation.
Spin The Bottle: This is better for smaller groups when all guests already know each other. Problems can arise in larger groups when not everyone might be comfortable kissing each other. Even if you start with a small group, a bystander might ask to join, which can be awkward if not everyone is attracted to them. Save this game for when you know all guests are ok with each other.
Truth or Dare: This offers a bit of a compromise with Spin The Bottle. If someone is uncomfortable doing anything, they can always choose to go with the Truth option. It’s best to babysit this game to ensure it doesn’t escalate past anyone’s comfort zone.
Naughty Jenga: Grab a classic Jenga game & number all the blocks. Then on a separate sheet of paper, write dares for each number. We like to create two different sheets, one sheet that is tamer & another sheet that is wilder so the players can pick the right set of dares for their comfort level.
Cards Against Humanity: This card game is loads of fun & can be played with a wide range of people. This is a safer ice breaker for shy new people as there usually isn’t any touching. Though some people like to play with special rules like the winner of each hand can request a kiss from another person.
Swinger Games: There are many professional swinger board games that you can buy. They are fun, but we aren’t fans of most of them. They usually are too involved; remember, the focus should be on sexy fun and not playing games. A fan favorite is Game of Lifestyle card sets.
Swinger Bingo: This is better as a large group ice breaker game. Print out our swinger bingo cards and hand them out to guests as they arrive. To score a Bingo, they find guests who have done the task for each of the five boxes in their winning line. To encourage them to speak with even more guests, you can make a rule of using a guest only once on the sheet. Then you can have some fun prizes for the winners (like bottles of lube or other small sex toys)
Treasure Hunt: Similar to the bingo cards but a bit simplified. To encourage shy guests to talk with other guests, you can have a treasure hunt. Come up with a list of 5 to 10 things like finding someone going commando or finding someone with pierced nipples or someone wearing red underwear or a magnum condom. You can only use a person once on the list to encourage people to talk to several guests to fill out their treasure hunt list. The first person to complete their list can win a prize, or you can have a random drawing at the end of the night for everyone who completed a sheet.
Beer Pong: Great for vanilla parties but less great for swinger parties because it can too easily lead to overdrinking. Drunk men often have problems rising to the occasion in the bedroom, plus consent is problematic, which is why we usually skip this.
Body Shots: This is a bit more advanced, so not the best for shy rookies. It can quickly ignite sexy action for people looking to start playing.
First, make up a pitcher of a nice cocktail (go easy on the alcohol) & pour it into a bottle with a pour spout (or poke a hole in the plastic cap). Have someone lie down & pour some of the cocktails into their belly button, then put some salt or sugar on the chest & have them hold a lime or lemon on their lips.
Strip Twister: This is another advanced game because there will be plenty of body contact. Buy a regular Twister game from any toy store. Take turns spinning. Whenever someone loses, they have to take off an article of clothing and become the spinner. To speed up the game, you can fold under the bottom row or two of Twister dots so fewer dots can be used and the game moves along at a faster pace.
Lock & Key: Upon arrival, ladies are given a closed lock on a ribbon that hangs around their neck & men are given a random key on a ribbon that hangs around their neck. Then guests need to talk with all the other guests to find the match to their lock or key. Placing it on long ribbons that hang around everyone’s neck makes people have to step closer together to try and unlock them but not too close. The first people to match can win a little prize.
Hot Tub Games: You can have fun in the hot tub with some DIY games. You can release some ping pong balls into the water. Whoever the ping pong ball hits, they have to submit to a truth or dare challenge.
Wicked Guide to Hosting Sex Parties
- Start Hosting Your Own Sex Parties
- Where to Host Sex Parties?
- Navigating Your Invite List
- Changing Vanilla Spaces Into Sexy Ones
- Design Tips For Sex Party Spaces
- Crafting Your Sex Party Rules
- Top Pitfalls of Accepting Cash
- How To Feed Your Guests
- Choosing The Best Party Theme
- Games for Entertaining Swingers
- Tips From Veteran Sex Party Hosts
We hope you enjoyed reading this hosting guide! Remember, there is no single right way to host a great sex party. Be smart and adapt these things to fit your party & preferences best.