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You are here: Home / Swinging Basics / Our Favorite Sex Toys for Swingers

Our Favorite Sex Toys for Swingers

Are you looking to supercharge your sexy swinging fun?  Read on for our suggestions for sex toys that will rock your world and deliver great big Os.

There is a wide variety of naughty additions you can make to your swinging arsenal & also keep things extra spicy at home in between swinger play dates.

Great toys don’t have to break the budget. There is fun to be had at just about every price point. Whether you’re looking for a “just because” gift or a special investment, we’ve got suggestions for you. Now let’s get to the fun part…

 

Crave Vesper – $70

A great stealth sex toy.  You can wear this personal vibrator as pretty jewelry or hide it in your purse or pocket.  When it is time for fun, it delivers a surprising punch for such a tiny toy.  It is USB rechargeable, comes in different colors, and is very quiet.

Use it yourself when traveling or bring it along to swinger play dates.  It is so small, your new friends won’t even know you are ready to surprise them. The downside is that it is almost too small for a condom so be prepared to wash it between partners.

Hitachi Magic Wand – $75

Truth in advertising! There is magic in the wand. This classic swinger sex toy brings the power with 6,300 RPMs on high speed for the cordless version. The powerful motor brings the heat – and the noise. It is not a quiet device; others will know when you use it. Of course, your moans would probably give your secret away even if the whirring didn’t. Even though it is made for external use unless you buy optional attachments, you’ll still want to cover it with a condom if sharing with others.

The Magic Wand has become so popular that many fakes are being sold.  If you come across a deal that seems too good to be true, it probably is. Don’t bother with any of the copycat versions, which are cheaper but also a lot less powerful.

Womanizer Duo – $220

This is an expensive sex toy but WOW WOW WOW. This baby delivers.  The Womanizer Duo might be the only partner toy you need.  It provides dual pleasure to the clitoris & g-spot to deliver memorable finishes. It has 12 intensity levels and different pulse patterns, and and and.

The Duo is USB rechargeable and lasts a long time, which is good because the combination of performance and stealth sound will have you reaching for it often. It is also waterproof so you can have fun in the bath or hot tub with it.

This is a personal fave.

Sybian Sex Motors – $900 to $1300

Sybian (and its competitors MotorBunny & Tremor) make full-size sex machines that you sit or lay upon.  These machines weigh about 15-20 pounds and deliver 7,000 RPMs plus thrusting action through a variety of attachments.

This is one of the ultimate additions you can make to the swinging playroom at your home and it’s quite the conversation starter at a hotel takeover.  They are amazing but make a good bit of noise (though not as loud as the women that ride them).  Condoms might not be enough protection especially if one of the riders is a squirter.  Some people find it easier to buy extra attachment covers.

Strap-Ons – $40-$120

There are so many good options that we aren’t going to recommend a specific brand or model.  However, there is a long list of things to consider.  You want it to look nice but functionality is more important.  Make sure it has plenty of adjustable straps so you can get get the best fit.  Then make sure there is enough padding so it will be comfortable and the straps are wide enough that it won’t dig into your skin.  We also recommend looking for ones that have a pouch for a bullet vibe to pleasure the wearer while the wearer pleasures a lucky receiver. Finally, make sure it is washable or easy to clean because you’ll be covering it in sex juices.

Remember you want something that is going to be comfortable to wear tightly for extended periods so there is no interruption to your sexy time.  You want a snug fit so you can properly aim and thrust.

Some strap-ons only with work certain dildos (like vac-u-lock system) and other strap-ons have size limits.  If you have your heart set on a certain dildo, make sure it will be compatible with your set-up.

Strapless Strap-Ons $60-$150

Strapless strap-ons bring up a whole new set of pros & cons to deal with.  A big bonus is that they tend to deliver much more pleasure to the wearer so you can both truly enjoy the moment.  The curvy vibrating bulb that goes inside the wearer can really hit the right spot.  They are also generally much smaller, which makes them easier to pack and bring along on play dates than most harness setups.  Another bonus is that they can make the transition to intercourse a lot less awkward since you don’t have to spend a ton of time getting into it and adjusting different straps.

The downside is that you are working against gravity and a strapless strap-on can fall out unless you have been practicing your Kegels. No straps mean less security so aiming and thrusting can be more challenging. Once you gain a bit of experience, a strapless strap-on can deliver great finishes to both people. These toys tend to be more expensive because they are basically double-ended instead of a single strap-on dildo.

Bad Dragon Dildos & Wearable Sleeves – $55-$105

This company is what we imagine happens when an entire dildo factory takes some acid and lets their collective imagination run wild.  They have unicorn horn dildos, strap-on tentacles, dragon dildos, lizard tongues, wearable sleeves for men, squirters and so much more.  Their toys come in a wide variety of shapes & an even wider variety of colors and combinations.

Remember not all sex toys are compatible with each other.  Many of the Bad Dragon models won’t work with a standard strap-on, so save yourself some heartbreak and double-check before buying.

nJoy Pure Wand $120

This stainless steel beauty is deceptively simple but works like a charm each time.  You can use it for g-spot fun or the thinner end for backdoor fun.  It is a sleek and sophisticated sex toy.

Because it is stainless steel, it is easier to clean than a lot of toys, which is huge for those of us who love to share without sacrificing good hygiene.  This is not a cheap piece of plastic; it packs a good bit of heft from the metal. Thankfully it is hollow, so it isn’t too heavy that it becomes tiresome.

Butt Plugs – $20 – $200

A great toy for both women and men is a butt plug.  They look cool and feel great.  You can start with a very small one & work up to the larger ones for bigger thrills. There are some really fun stainless steel ones, others have tails attached to them, and others have mini vibrators built-in.  Some of the glass versions are gorgeous but can be damaged if accidentally dropped, so we prefer stainless steel and silicone versions.

If you have never played with a butt plug before, we suggest you pick a starter kit that has different ones that slowly increase in size. This will let you gradually become accustomed to this new sensation.  The other thing to look for is a flared base.  Your backside is a strong muscle and it can pull skinny toys inside of it, so make sure there is a wide flared base to stay safe.

Liberator Wedge – $100 – $200

If you want to explore those really special sex positions,  consider getting a Liberator Wedge.  These cushy ramps will make you both comfortable in those crazy positions no matter how long your sex romp might be. They also have cuff attachments in case you want to explore a bit of BDSM roleplay.  The cover zips off so you can easily wash it.

Check out your local medical supply store for cheaper alternatives.  Many of them sell smaller foam wedges that can be used similarly.

Now that we’ve shared a few of our favorite things, feel free to use our contact form to let us know about your personal faves.  Oh, and check out this list of stay at home sex toys that are great to use on virtual swinger dates or if your partner is traveling and you want to have some naughty fun together over the internet.

Last Updated: February 17, 2023
Written By:Dr. Georgia

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