Are you frustrated over a lack of swinger events in your local area? Don’t just wait for someone to do something about it. Fix it yourself!
Be the hero and organize your own swinger event. One of the most common types of swinger events is meet & greets. These low-pressure socializing parties can take place in private or at public vanilla venues.
You have the power to make yourself & other local swingers happy. Are you ready to accept the challenge?
Who Can Host?
Hopefully, you already have some experience in the lifestyle. And you realize that your personal journey is not the only right way to explore the lifestyle. There are countless ways to explore swinging & playing with others.
If you don’t have much experience, you can still organize & host a meetup, but you should educate yourself first about the swinging lifestyle. Read up so you are prepared to handle the different situations you might know encounter. Be familiar with the everyday challenges in the swinging lifestyle and best practices for protecting privacy. Learn how to spot red flags of toxic troublemakers. Be up to date on the swinger vocabulary so that when someone asks a question in coded terms, you’ll know what they mean.
Remember that Meet & Greets are mostly a labor of love. If you are dreaming of turning a profit on this, keep dreaming. The reality is most barely break even, and many lose money. It will take a good bit of your effort and time, especially for the first year or two. You might be thinking you’ll just crank up the prices, but that is more likely to drive everyone away. Make sure you are ready for this, or save yourself a big headache and quit now.
Picking Right Place
Before you get ahead of yourself, think about where you will be hosting this meet & greet. A swinger meet & greet takes extra consideration compared to organizing a vanilla event. You must consider how you will ensure privacy at your event, especially if you pick a public place.
Meet & Greets are often held in bars & cafes to avoid paying rental fees. Make sure you can reserve enough space for the people you are expecting. Also, ask the venue if there are any drink or food minimums per person. You want a venue that can be flexible. Avoid places that make you guarantee a minimum number of attendees, especially if you are just starting to host these events. It can take time for people to feel comfortable enough to show up & not ghost at the last minute.
You can host this at your own home if you feel comfortable. We have created a complete guide for hosting house parties.
It is essential to pick the right place before all else. This will control your event capacity, price, & timing.
Inviting People
Once you know the basic details of your event, it is time to recruit attendees. You want to invite plenty of swingers because your event will likely have a high ratio of no-shows. It is common for a last-minute work crisis or a family emergency to cause swinger veterans to bail. The new swingers are even more likely to bail because they may feel too nervous or be dealing with relationship drama.
Hopefully, you already know many swingers to invite. If you don’t know a lot of swingers personally, you can promote your event on your local swinger dating sites, swinger groups on Reddit, and other social media. Simply hosting a swinger meet & greet doesn’t guarantee people will show up, especially if you haven’t yet built a reputation of quality & safe hosting.
To improve your odds of success, think about what you would worry about when considering a new swinger event. Is it a good value? Will it risk your privacy? Is it trustworthy? Will it be fun even if you don’t find a sexy connection?
Create an online site where people can find out more information and contact you with any questions. You might want to add a disclaimer that you don’t respond to messages till the day of the event, so you aren’t busy handling messages all week. Giving a lengthy list of FAQs will help minimize the time you need to spend answering questions about the atmosphere, dress code, expectations, music, drink menu, parking, etc. Grab a free Google Voice number so you can receive calls & texts from curious people without exposing your personal information.
Let’s also remind you to send out reminders. Busy people can forget they signed up for things, especially if it didn’t cost them any money. Sending out a reminder email can be very helpful.
Meeting Logistics
Part of your FAQs should be about how the event will run. Is there a secret symbol (like wearing a black ring) or a code (ex. “we’re here for the pineapple society meeting”) to access the meeting space? Are you providing nametags, or should people make their own? Will there be any drink or food specials?
When does it start & when does it end? Swingers are known for running late. Many like to take extra time getting ready to look their very best, so be clear about the timeframe. Offering drink specials for the first hour can help encourage swingers to show up on time or at least not be too late. You can also offer a door prize – everyone arriving in the first30 or 60 minutes is entered into a drawing for a sex toy or some other fun giveaway.
How will you help break the ice between strangers? Will you bring any games like our free swinger bingo cards? Will there be fun contests to encourage people to interact? Each time you can set up a new game to break up cliques and encourage people to talk with each other. Something like the first person to get a scavenger list complete receives a free drink. The scavenger list could be to find a first-time attendee, veteran swinger, bi lady, etc.
If a connection is made, are there nearby hotels? Reach out to a local hotel for a discounted rate or an affiliate rate to earn you some money. You aren’t going to become rich, but you might earn a free night for all of your work. Some of your meet & greet attendees will definitely be asking for a nearby place they can go to play.
You might also want to have some blank business cards printed up & bring along a bunch of pens, so people can jot down their contact info and give it to others at the party.
Be prepared to give the bartenders a big tip out of your own pocket. If you have some bad attendees that cause trouble, don’t tip, or even skip out on their bill, you might need to make the bartenders happy, so your group doesn’t have to find a new venue.
Bonus Safety Tips
When people RSVP, ask for their screen name on the local swinger site. If they are certified/verified on the swinger site, there is less for you to worry about. You might want to ask why if they aren’t on the local swinger site. If they say they are new to swinging, it would be wise to do a call & voice verify them. You want to make sure they are a legit couple unless you decide to open your event to single guys. You also want to make sure they both know this is a lifestyle Meet & Greet to avoid the drama of one partner surprising the other with a very uncomfortable situation for everyone.
Think about your photo-taking policy. Can attendees take pictures? Are they limited to specific spaces? Can the photos be posted on social media or other sites? Make sure everyone is clear and consents to the policy. Taking pictures of swingers without their informed consent is a quick way to ruin the mood of your event.
Ready? Now, roll up those sleeves and get started on hosting your own swinger Meet & Greet.