How would you describe yourselves?
We are 54 yrs old. We were high school sweethearts. We will celebrate our 36th wedding anniversary in December. We live in the Eastern part of the United States. Husband was in the Air Force, so we have traveled a bit. We have settled in the town we grew up in. It has always been the two of us. No children, no pets. We enjoy having fun. We like to laugh and have a good time. We enjoy the freedom of coming and going when we want. We enjoy meeting new people. We tend to be a bit private, however, when meeting new people and we feel a connection, we tend to open up and share our life.
Husband’s personality is jovial. He has a great sense of humor. He loves to laugh and joke. He also has a very tender, loving, and caring side. He is a real gentleman! Wife is very caring and compassionate. She also loves to laugh and smile. She is always looking for the good in people. She can be a risk-taker. A very passionate woman.
Husband enjoys playing and watching golf and listening to music. He enjoys baseball and is a Baltimore Orioles fan! Wife loves to read. Mostly romance, always wanting a happy ending. She enjoys baking for others and bowling. Right now we are learning to play tennis.
We are just a couple who love each other and our marriage who work hard and enjoy life.
How did you discover the swinging lifestyle?
It was December 2018 and the husband was searching YouTube for tips for his golf swing and in a search about the swing, video clips of Tom and Bunny appeared as a choice. They had a video about the Swingers Club in Louisiana and that sparked his interest since we were stationed there at one time. From that video, the curiosity of swingers and the lifestyle sparked a conversation between us. So we began talking and started watching more videos to learn all about it.
What hesitations did you have about joining the lifestyle? How did you handle your concerns?
Husband did not have any hesitations. He was ready to experience what he had seen and read about.
Wife had many hesitations. She was concerned about privacy. She was concerned about having sex with another partner. She was concerned about seeing her husband with another woman. She was concerned she was not good enough sexually or attractive enough for another man. She was concerned about how it would affect her relationship with her husband.
After many discussions among ourselves, we listened to many podcasts, watched videos, and read “Swingers Little Helper“. We reached out to people in the lifestyle that my husband became acquainted with through twitter. There were many nice people who helped us and answered our questions. The wife was satisfied at this point to try a site to meet another couple and see what happened.
Describe your local swinging culture.
There are no clubs, no meet and greets, no swinging bars. No place for swingers to meet. We have to go out of town to a club. We have to use web sites to meet people.
Have you ever taken a break from swinging?
We just began our journey in 2019. We met our first couple in January 2020. We have not stopped or taken a break yet.
What pet peeve(s) do you have about the swinging lifestyle?
Our first would be having the time to meet people. Work and schedules make it difficult to meet up. Second, is the expense. Traveling, hotel rooms, dinner, drinks, this can add up. Obviously depending on your income, can limit your activity.
How has swinging impacted your relationship?
Our relationship has not diminished at all. Our communication has improved tremendously. It has strengthened sexually. Our physical well being has improved. We have become more closer and intimate, if that was possible, with each other.
Describe your preferred swinging style or your first time playing with others.
Our first time was with a married couple, who had been in the lifestyle for over 10 years. We met for dinner a few times and decided the connection was there and we wanted to pursue a sexual playdate. A few weeks later, we met for a light lunch, then went back to the couple’s home, for conversation and drinks. We began playing and then moved to the bedroom. We were all together in one room with two beds. We found it was distracting for us to be together. Of course the first time, the husband was watching out for his wife, so he was distracted and the wife was distracted with noises coming from the other bed. It was our first time and there were some awkward moments, however, it was successful enough that we both wanted to do it again.
We spent the night and in the morning over breakfast we (4 of us) discussed the events and how we felt. It was a positive experience and we wanted to experience more with this couple. We have since shared many playdates together and have formed a “friends with benefits” relationship.
What has surprised you the most about swinging?
Wife…I am enjoying it very much! Husband…enjoying the wife enjoying it very much!
With all the wife’s hesitations, it has become a very important part of our lives. But, we must give credit to the couple we are with, they have helped and mentored the wife very much and have always had her concerns in mind from the beginning. We have heard and have been told that this is not always the normal. Because the wife was hesitant, it was important for the other 3 involved to make her comfortable and make sure her experience was pleasurable.
What do you wish you knew about swinging before starting?
Can’t really think of anything.
– Thank You Pine & Apple for sharing!
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