You’ve made your online swinger profile, and maybe you’ve spent a sexy night at a strip club together as a couple. You might be ready to take another step and meet other swingers in person; the perfect place to do this is a “Meet & Greet”. These events are dedicated swinger events, where people who are curious about the lifestyle can meet active participants.
Meet & Greets are social networking opportunities for swingers that don’t include any onsite play. You get dressed up and get a good look at other swingers in your area. You can ask any questions that you have about the lifestyle or community and get personal, informative answers. There’s no pressure to take the plunge into physically playing with other swingers. Some swingers limit their involvement in the lifestyle to Meet & Greets; they find the sexy conversation and social aspect enough to fulfill their needs. You can attend as many Meet & Greets as you want before taking the next step to swinger clubs or onsite swinger parties.
Where are Meet & Greets?
Meet & Greets can be held privately in someone’s home, a rented-out club, or a hotel suite. They can also be held publicly in a bar or a coffee shop. When you attend a public Meet & Greet, you’ll probably be told to wear a specific color or to ask for a fake, vanilla-sounding group name. This helps everyone find each other without needing to draw attention to the fact that it’s a swinger meeting. You wouldn’t want to accidentally chat up a vanilla person and possibly out yourself or someone else! It’s usually not that hard to spot swingers in a crowd of vanilla people; the swingers will be the friendly, sexy group of people who clearly care about their appearances and are enjoying a fun time together.
You can find Meet & Greets in your area online by setting up a free (or paid) profile on a swinger website and checking out the calendar of events. The Meet & Greet organizers will post the location and RSVP information on these community websites.
What happens at Meet & Greets?
Why should you attend a Meet & Greet? It’s a fantastic way to dip your toes into the lifestyle without taking the full plunge. Chatting online can be very hit or miss. You never know who you’re talking to, and many people established in the lifestyle don’t bother checking their online profile every day. Things online can get lost in translation. You can’t sense body language or “vibes” online.
A Meet & Greet allows you to interact with many different people in the lifestyle without any pressure of playing. Meet & Greets are less about finding a play partner for that night (although that can happen) and more about making lifestyle connections that can become helpful swinging mentors, sexy play partners, or whatever else you choose. It is much less scary to attend a group event with no pressure than it is to go on a private swinging date.
When you meet swingers in real life you quickly realize they are just like you. We all just want a good time while being in a sexy and safe atmosphere. We want to feel comfortable mingling and mixing with awesome new friends who embrace sexiness instead of rudely judging others.
How to Dress & Look
So you’ve decided to go to a Meet & Greet. The next step is to get sexy! Think about what you would wear if you were headed to a club looking for someone to date or hookup with. Feel free to ask the organizers about the dress code if you’re not sure. These people are organizing a Meet & Greet for a reason: they want to help newbies and established swingers alike meet and have fun!
Just because there’s no onsite play at Meet & Greets doesn’t mean you should slack on your sexy primping. There are often many opportunities for offsite play right after the Meet & Greets. Even if you don’t make a sexy connection to play that night, you’ll likely head home for some exciting, inspired sexy time with your partner afterwards. Make sure to take care of your grooming and wardrobe as though you’re treating your partner to a night of pleasure with your sexiest, hottest self.
Now that you’re looking good, smelling good, and feeling good, you’re ready to attend the event. You might be struck with nervousness or anxiety right before you enter. That’s normal. Take a deep breath and go for it. Do something crazy: walk up to another couple and say hi! Trust us, they won’t bite and will likely be very relieved that another couple is talking to them. You most likely aren’t the only people in the room who may be feeling a little nervous.
How to Act
A Meet & Greet can sometimes feel like the first day or school, where everyone is a little bit shy, checking out everyone else and wondering who will be the first to break the ice. Check out our tips for shy & introverted swingers for help. Find a couple that looks interesting and say hi. Start a conversation just like you would at any other party: give them a compliment, or ask them a question. Maybe you want to know where she bought her sexy outfit, or how long they have been swinging, or which swinging sites they’ve found most helpful. Swingers are very friendly and helpful, and will be receptive to almost any question you can think of.
Avoid questions that get too personal, like where they live or work. If someone asks you something that’s too personal and you don’t want to answer, politely decline. You can say something as simple as “sorry, I’m not comfortable sharing that.” Swingers are great at respecting boundaries because we value discretion and want other people to respect our boundaries.
If you’ve found a couple – or a few couples – that you really connect with, you’ll likely want to swap contact info. You can give them your screenname, or your e-mail address, or your phone number. Whatever you feel comfortable giving out. You might want to set up a dedicated e-mail account for your swinging life versus your vanilla life email. If you want, you can get a separate phone line dedicated to swinging fun. Prepaid cell phones or the Google Voice app are great ways to keep your identity private while staying connected.
Try to talk to many different couples, instead of latching on to the first couple you speak to. Politely disengage from the conversation by saying you’re going to get another drink, and mingle with some other guests at the party. Meet & Greets are really relaxed and no-pressure. If you don’t find anyone that interests you, that’s okay. You can still have fun and enjoy a sexy night out, looking good for each other and enjoying lively, sexy discussion.
Different Meet & Greets can cater to different types of people, so you might need to try a few out before you find the best crowd for you. You will also find that the crowd can change at the same Meet & Greet from week to week. Veteran swingers won’t usually attend Meet & Greets every single week, because they’ve already networked and made swinger friends to spend time with. Plus, every week brings in new swingers dipping their toes in the lifestyle. There are usually many fresh faces for you to discover at each Meet & Greet.