An experience sought out by many; a gangbang is an experience that has been widely spoken of and fetishized – rightly so! A gangbang can be an exciting experience, straight out of a deep and intense sexual fantasy. Here’s a guide to help you plan an exciting gangbang experience.
Understanding BBC Gangbangs
One of the fetishized types of gangbangs is the BBC gangbang. This group-sex style has long been fantasized about by many couples who fantasize about black men in the swinging lifestyle and the myth of BBC (aka big black cock). In reality, all men have roughly the same size equipment regardless of their skin color. Still, the myth lives on & and so does the fantasy.
While BBC gangbang might sound very appealing – and can be – you should remember to be sensitive towards the men involved. This gangbang can be a bit controversial. Some consider it a rather offensive term & other people see this fantasy as a compliment. It has a tricky history because pornography and the general notion of a ‘big-black-cock’ has too often depicted black men rather unfairly, holding them to unrealistic body ideals with well above average sized equipment and too often falsely portraying them with a lack of control.
Wanting a gangbang with black men is not wrong or offensive, but holding them to false stereotypes is extremely unfair and insensitive. So if you are planning on indulging in a gangbang with black men, you need to treat them the way they should be – like any human being. They are men and will have similar reactions just like any other man.
Now that we’ve got this important and sensitive topic out of the way let’s get to your gangbang planning and logistics. Many people have found themselves eager to indulge in this fantasy but often stop short for a multitude of reasons. From questions of ‘how?’ to ‘who?’ – a gangbang certainly requires some planning. When planning a gangbang experience, it is vital to understand your needs and the needs of everyone else, so it is an enjoyable gangbang for everyone.
How to plan a BBC Gangbang
Obviously gangbangs have a woman at the center of attention from multiple men. There are several possible gangbang combinations, and how to go about a gangbang is pretty much the same, irrespective of how many men and women there are. Here are some questions you answer first to ensure your gangbang experience is just how you want it.
“Do we really want this?”
Sounds silly, but stop and ask yourself if you really want this. Are you doing this for yourself or someone else? Be honest with yourself. It is natural to be nervous about your experience – but other fears that might impact your emotional security should be identified. For instance, are you and your partner both okay with this situation? If you feel hesitant, you should hold off until you are completely certain that you can mentally handle it.
You want to ensure that your partner’s emotional needs have been taken into consideration. Communication is key, and the best thing to do is ask them how they feel about it. Transparency goes a long way in relationships, and it is no different when the topic in question is a gangbang. Your partner needs to be wholly on-board with the idea of what’s going to happen. For instance, if you are a woman in a relationship with a straight man, and the both of you are planning to have a gangbang with you as the center, he needs to be okay with the idea that he will be watching you and that he will be seeing a whole bunch of naked men.
This initial step aims to establish a clear understanding between you and your partner. It is also important to be clear that there are several things that gangbangs are characterized by, and they seldom really look the way they do in porn. Both you and your partner need to be completely mentally okay with this before deciding to move forward.
“How many people should we include in this gangbang?”
Well, this really depends on many factors, like your preferences, your partner’s preferences, who you’re calling, and so on. An important factor here is your experience. If you’re reading this guide to understand how to plan a gangbang, it’s probably the first time you’re trying out a gangbang.
The general idea when you start is that you should try to start small. Gangbangs are demanding, emotionally and physically. Typically, group-sex beginners start with 4-5 men, with one woman at the center. In a situation like this, the woman should definitely consider what number of men she is comfortable with entertaining. Expect to have some men not show-up, be late, and/or have stage fright and not be able to perform.
Realistically, it might be a good decision to call upon a few fluffers – people – typically, women – who try to keep the participants in a state of arousal when they are not actively a part of the action at any given moment. While the first experience is generally with fewer people, you might feel more empowered or explorative and aim for gangbangs in larger settings the next time. It is also possible that you might want to reduce the group’s size – whatever makes you most comfortable!
“Whom should we invite?”
This is a subjective decision, purely based on your own comfort levels. Would you rather invite people you already know? Maybe from your friend circle? Or do you think that would make things awkward the next time you see them? In that case, you will need to invite strangers – from forums, Facebook groups, Tinder, and other places you might find people interested in swinging. You can also consider visiting a swingers’ club in your vicinity, as many of them even organize gangbang nights.
When you’ve found whom you want to call and know how many people there will be, it is time to establish a few other things, such as ground-rules, the location, and communication.
Finding a good location
You now have a good idea of how many people there are, so you will need to find a place to host all of you. A hotel room is a good idea and doesn’t risk any mess in your house. If you feel more comfortable at home, you can see if one of the men is willing to host the party. The idea is that there should be enough space for all of you, without too much bumping into things and people or people being distracted from others in the room. Whatever place you pick, make sure it has a bathroom and shower (because gangbangs can get messy!).
Establishing ground rules
Establishing and clearly communicating rules is a crucial step. These ground rules should consider the general conduct of the men before and after the session, the use of drugs and/or alcohol, and general communication tips. In case you’re hosting a gangbang with specific kinks and fetishes, like BDSM, then it is also important for you to mandate what is okay, what isn’t, and what the safe word is going to be. Typically, participants of a BDSM gangbang have a written contract with all specifications to ensure that everyone has the same idea of what will happen. Don’t assume anything. Make sure every rule and limit is clearly communicated to each visitor.
Practicing safe sex
This is an extension of the previous point, but it was imperative to give it its own little section. Safe sex is important, and you should be on the same page about it with all the participants. As advocates of safe sex, we always recommend using condoms! When using condoms, make sure you bring plenty of lube & the right type for your condoms. Some lubes can weaken latex condoms, so plan ahead.
If you choose to go without condoms, all potential participants should be tested for any STDs, but even that isn’t 100% safe. Some STDs can be present but take a while before they trigger a positive test result. Negative test results do not mean you will be safe. It could mean the STD hasn’t built up enough to trigger a positive test result or the person photoshopped a fake STD test. We strongly encourage you to use condoms.
Respect and Communication
Last but certainly not least is communication and respecting all the participants involved. It is so important and actually ultra-sexy when participants can communicate what they want! Tell your partners how you want to be touched, and listen to what they want. In general, communication is great for sex, and it definitely makes a gangbang a lot simpler and a lot more fun for everyone involved!
Along with good communication, you need to respect your partners. When you have a gangbang, whether you are a woman at the center with all men, or there will be multiple men and women, the key is to understand that everyone has different bodies and is different in bed. Unlike what is depicted in pornography, swingers have imperfect bodies, and that’s the beauty of it! As we mentioned before, if you plan on having a BBC gangbang, it is essential that you keep in mind the first thing we focused on! Black men are human beings too and do not enjoy being pushed into a stereotype. Be sensitive towards all the people participating, and you can be sure to have a healthy sexual relationship with them.
Remember: It is okay to say no
While you are looking forward to having a great experience, it is also possible for the experience to turn out in a way that you didn’t plan for it to. If at any point, you, your significant other, or any of the other partners want to stop, it is perfectly okay to say no. Respect your needs and that of others, and know that if you really want to have a gangbang, you will always be able to plan another one, if you are uncomfortable this time.
We hope our guide helped you understand what you need and that you end up having an experience that is fulfilling and rewarding and encourages you to explore your sexuality more!