Many ladies fantasize about gangbangs. It is on countless sexy bucket lists but turning fantasy into reality is a challenge. They never really educated us on these topics in school. Asking friends for advice can be a bit awkward.
Relax, we are here to help!
We already wrote an article about hosting a gangbang. So this article will focus more on being a lady attending a gangbang event.
How To Find Gangbang Parties?
Check out the swinger dating sites & kink-friendly message boards. Honestly, finding a gangbang party isn’t hard. Finding a safe & well-run event is the real challenge. Too many idiots think all they need to do is rent the cheapest hotel room without doing any other prep work.
Make sure you vet the event organizer. Don’t blindly trust online people no matter how much you want your fantasy to happen! Make sure they have a good reputation & other ladies are personally vouching for them. Having a nice-looking website isn’t good enough. You want to hear from previous ladies.
A good organizer will ask what you want to happen. Saying there will be lots of sex isn’t good enough. How many participants will they have, will they be tested, what about security, what behavior is allowed from participants, do they allow rookies or only experienced men, and so much more matters. If the organizer is short on details and doesn’t ask about your preferences and personal boundaries, stop and go somewhere else.
What about STIs?
Talk with your doctor about this question. If you can’t trust your regular doctor, head over to Planned Parenthood or another kink-friendly clinic. If you don’t know where to find a place, ask others in the community. Head over to kink-friendly message boards like FetLife and ask. You’ll quickly be connected with your local options.
When chatting with your doctor, ensure you are up to date on your vaccines for HPV & Hepatitis. It is so awesome that there are vaccines to prevent certain STIs. Make sure you take advantage of them. Also, ask your doctor about PrEP medicine. It is a medical bulletproof vest that prevents HIV. If you are planning on group anal sex, splurge on the PrEP.
To safeguard yourself against the other STIs, we strongly encourage you to insist that all men have a recent STI test and use condoms. Sex is never 100% safe, but those two precautions will significantly reduce the STI risk.
Let’s not forget about the UTI risk while considering the various STI risks. UTI risk can increase without condoms. For example, it is easy to swap condoms between anal & vaginal play to keep the nasty bugs out. Unprotected sex removes that safety net, yet another reason to ensure your men use condoms.
How Are Gangbangs Different?
A gangbang is nothing like a threesome or moresome. We are talking about a completely different experience. When you have more than three men, it can turn into a non-stop loop. By the time the last guy finishes, the first guy will have enough time to recover and want a repeat. So it is less likely to be 3 or 4 sexual experiences & closer to 8 or 12.
It can quickly become overwhelming, especially when multiple men are playing simultaneously. They have time to rest & recover. The lady has no break. Besides STI & UTI issues, a lady can have overuse issues. Having that many experiences take a real physical toll on the body. You’ll want to stretch and hydrate.
Overuse issues is a reason why lube becomes critical at a gangbang. You might go through an entire bottle or two. Be smart and pick the best lube for you. Minor sensitivity or allergy can become a massive problem during endurance play. You will be so distracted you probably won’t notice your body’s warning signs till it’s too late. Be safe and use plenty of high-quality lube. Remember, you will probably use an entire bottle or two of lube so that the smell can become a real issue.
Another big difference is the mentality & behavior. People can act differently in group play, like men becoming more aggressive. The dirty talk can escalate to a different place. Think about your gangbang fantasy and be clear with the organizer what you want & don’t want. Do you want to relish in slutty roleplay or be worshipped as a goddess?
Protect Yourself with Thinking It Out
Think out your ideal scenario & alternative situations to be ready if something goes awry. For example, what happens if one of the other women is a no-show. Are you open to doubling up to partners? The more “what if” planning you do, the better you can handle surprises and be your own best advocate.
We don’t always make the wisest choice in the height of passion. We want to lower the chances of regrets by spending a few minutes thinking about the different possibilities. If you can’t imagine what scenarios to consider, head over to Literotica.com and read the porn stories about gangbangs. It is a hot way to virtually live your fantasy and figure out what you want & don’t want.
Come up with a bucket list of sex positions & another list for what is off-limits. Be detailed! Is double penetration allowed? You are probably excited about it, but what if they want double anal? You might no longer be open to it.
Are people allowed to take pictures or video it?
Prepping Beforehand
Have you ever noticed marathon runners have a prep routine before their big race? They eat the right foods, do some stretching and get themselves just right for the big event. This is a sex marathon, and you should also prep your body.
Start a stretching regimen. If you are planning on anal play, figure out how to prepare yourself. You can use any combination of enemas, diet changes, & other things. Increasing your water intake & decreasing the alcohol the day before can help you better enjoy the moment. On the day of the event, you will want to skip eating much for a few hours before the big event, or you could have a bad GI issue.
Make sure your play space has extra padding. There is a good chance you will have two guys on top of you at once, which means handling a lot of excess weight. Even if that doesn’t happen, this is a sex marathon & you want to minimize your aches & bruises the next day, so make sure there is plenty of padding. If you have a fragile body part or joint, you might want to wrap it up or wear something for support.
Creating Safety Nets
Ideally, someone will accompany you to the gangbang & act as your overwatch for this fun. They will act as an extra set of eyes & hands to ensure things go the way you want & to quickly fix things that don’t go to plan.
There is a good chance you will be entertaining multiple guys at once & it is going to be impossible to see everything. Plus, you will be distracted from playing with so many at once. If you don’t have someone to accompany you, make sure you pick a gangbang party with security available.
Talk with your helpers & agree upon a safeword or three. One could be code that a particular person needs to be removed. The next safeword could be the codeword if you need everything to stop. The third codeword could be how you signal everything is ok & your helpers don’t need to intervene. It is not always easy to figure out if moans are good or bad, so safewords help ensure you are safe while exploring your sexual limits.
Being Ready for Aftercare
Plan for the clean-up & aftercare. Don’t assume anything. If you want or need something, make sure they have it and that it’s ready before any play happens. Some party organizers promise before & don’t follow through.
There is a good chance your outfit will not survive the evening. If it isn’t torn, it will most likely be covered in a ridiculous amount of body fluids & lube. Your body is going to be wiped out as it has never been. You might need a good while recovering before you limp to the shower to clean up. Be extra careful cleaning. At least one person likely transferred some stuff from your backside to your frontside & UTIs suck.
Besides the physical side, don’t be surprised if you need to decompress and mentally recharge immediately afterward. Saying gangbangs are intense is an understatement. You might be surprised with how you responded to the moment and what feelings it brought up. You might need some time to reflect and process all of it.