Hotwife play is when a woman engages in casual hook-ups that are encouraged by a loving husband who does not participate or even attend. It differs from an open relationship because it’s just the wife that has sex with other men on these hot wife dates; the husband does not play with other people. It also differs from cuckolding, which involves an aspect of humiliation for the husband because the wife is satisfied by someone else in a way he can’t. Hotwife play is much more empowering for everyone involved and is a popular fetish that’s often explored on porn sites as well as in real life. But is it right for your relationship and do both parties benefit?
Why Do Husbands Enjoy Hot Wife Play?
If you have a swinging hotwife, you’re probably really proud of that and want the world to know. Others will still fantasize about her no matter what, but sharing her with other men while knowing she’s always coming home to you creates a certain sexy excitement and can be quite confidence-boosting. Having a temptress wife who exudes sex appeal is one thing, but knowing that she can use that power to seduce other men can feel very hot, especially if she’s bold enough to send videos of her extramarital hookups. Watching your hot wife be sexy with someone else allows you to see and appreciate her body from a different perspective.
If you’ve been married for years, conventional monogamous relationships can lose their spark and feel stale. Engaging in hotwife play spices up your sex life and allows you and your partner to explore some exciting sexual fantasies. The feeling of boredom and domestication that often surfaces at some point within a marriage can easily be erased with hot wife play. Suddenly, your wife doesn’t look like the same sexy woman you’ve been sleeping with for years, but a hot and voraciously sensual siren. Hotwife play is a popular porn search term – you’ve probably already searched for it. Watching your wife sleep with another man or just hearing about her wild play can make her resemble a porn star, which is incredibly sexy to experience.
A lot of men describe liking the ‘I have something they all want’ feeling that they get after starting hotwife play. A client once described the thrill this way: “It’s like when you have a piece of your favorite cake and someone else wants it too. You can be nice and let them have a bite, but you’re not really sharing your cake. They just get a little taste.”
Other men see it as a way of taking care of their wives when they are unable to perform (due to health, physical limitations, or other reasons). They see it as a way to give her the sexual satisfaction she craves in another way.
Hotwife play requires the same honesty and open dialogue that is essential to the success of any non-monogamous relationship. It is not the solution to any fears a man has about coming home one day and finding his wife cheating. And it is not a clever workaround for a woman who is thinking about straying. Hotwife play, just like the lifestyle as a whole, will not fix a broken relationship.
Why Do Wives Enjoy Hot Wife Play?
Hot wives capitalize on their natural seductiveness. Why save all that sex appeal for home if your husband doesn’t mind sharing? A lot of women say that they get a confidence boost just from knowing that their husband thinks they are irresistible to other men. Some say the best thing about hotwife play is that they get a triple thrill. The first thrill comes with the anticipation of play, and the second comes with the actual play. But the biggest thrill for many hot wives comes after the hook-up when they share details with their husbands. “Nothing turns me on more than telling my husband what I did with another man. Just thinking about telling him is a big turn on and even makes the date sex hotter,” says one very hotwife.
For many women, it’s fun to be given attention at a bar or by chatting online with potential partners and to go through the fun parts of the dating ritual without the anxiety of looking for love and with the support of their beloved husband. Hot wives can fulfill their wildest fantasies and feed their sexual desire, without being confined to one sexual partner and able to explore different bodies when they wish.
Hotwife play is empowering. Women feel sexy and free from normal societal limitations and can be appreciated by more than one man. Hot wives are in control of their sexuality and the attention boosts confidence in and outside of the bedroom. Especially great for those with a high sex drive, it’s freeing to be able to meet sexual needs on flexible terms. Some hot women report feeling a unique sense of power when in a room full of potential conquests. They know they can have anyone they want without guilty feelings.
Hotwife play is not for couples who struggle with jealousy issues. Jealousy is one of the leading causes of failed relationships regardless of swinging lifestyle status. Some women struggle with jealous husbands who can’t handle when another man looks their way, which often causes bitterness and resentment. Trying to placate a jealous husband while hotwifing leads some women to stifle their sexuality in an attempt to attract less attention. If you can’t be celebrated for who you are, you can’t be your best self in a relationship.
Will Hot Wife Play Help Relationships?
Let’s be honest, people love taboo stuff! The more taboo a topic, the more arousing it can be, and hotwife play is no exception. It’s a lifestyle that you are unlikely to share with your acquaintances and colleagues, but that air of secrecy about your life behind closed doors can keep the home fire burning bright.
Hotwife play keeps both parties active in their core relationship. Both men and women tend to be a bit more motivated to keep up their physical appearance. Men work out so that their wives will stay attracted to them over the other men she sleeps with, and women so that they can continue to be hotwives!
More importantly, hotwife play strengthens the marital connection because of how much trust is involved. And with that stronger connection, comes a more lively and sexier married life. Communication remains open and both husband and wife can express how they’re feeling, what is working for them, and what isn’t. Conversations about sexual satisfaction are often lost over time in a traditional monogamous relationship.
These benefits only come if built on a strong foundation. Keep in mind that hot wife play will not mend a broken relationship.
Why Does Hot Wife Play Attract Other Men?
Couples tend not to enter into hotwife play worrying too much with the consideration of the other men, but they get something out of the deal too! The other man (known as a “bull” in the hotwife community) gets to engage in no-strings-attached sex with a hot married woman. That’s a known fantasy for most people, but with hot wife play, it comes without the risk of being caught by a crushed husband or even having to hide your desire for his wife.
It’s important to have an open discussion with your partner before venturing out into the world of hotwife play, but as long as both parties are in agreement about the personal swinging boundaries, it’s an amazing way to invigorate your relationship.
Be Safe, Think & Reflect Before Acting
If you are considering exploring hotwife play, make sure to think before acting. Many couples are attracted to this type of situation and do enjoy it but it is not something to rush into. This situation is a big step for any relationship and can’t be fully undone. If you don’t like it, you can stop doing it but you will still have the memories. Make sure you are both secure in your relationship, communicate your needs, and confident enough to handle any potential good or bad that could come from experimenting with this type of relationship. You are both sexy people and there is no reason to rush to a decision. Take the time for both of you to reflect on this and make sure you are 100% comfortable before proceeding. With reflection & open communication, you should be able to come to the best decision for your relationship and hotwife play.