Often times, when new swingers visit a swingers club for the first time, they don’t know what to do or understand how things work inside a swinger’s club. Experienced swingers at the club can easily recognize the curious newbies and can easily relate as they remember their first time at a swinger club. We were all new once, so relax and we are here to help ease you into this. Please remember each swinger club is different and we are giving general advice. When in doubt you should ask the party hosts or club owners at your local swinger club to get the most accurate answers for your local club.
Vegas Style Night Club
Swinger clubs are similar to Vegas nightclubs but not nearly as nice or as fancy. Vegas nightclubs can charge over $1000 for bottle service. Swinger clubs charge much less money for alcohol or are BYOB so there is less profit to be made. Since swinger clubs earn less money, there is less money to buy brand new leather chairs and velvet couches. Don’t expect a five star club experience. That is ok. You aren’t going to a swinger club because they have pretty chairs or a fancy laser lighting system. You are going so you can connect with fellow open minded sexy people and that is why swinger clubs do a great job providing. Swinger clubs usually have a swinger pole, a bar area, a dance floor and some private or semi private spaces to have sexy fun with your new friends.
Swinger Clubs Aren’t Just For Sex
Most people at the swingers club are there for much more than just to have sex. Swingers like to catch up with friends, have fun, dance, watch others having hot sex and learn from them. It really is a welcoming and open community spirit for any open minded sexy person. Some swingers go to the club to make friends without any sexual play. So don’t expect an out of control orgy (though orgies can happen). Think more of a social club that just happens to have a bunch of nudity and sex between consenting adults. Many people at the club don’t want to fuck, some simply want to socialize and party.
Couples Don’t Always Find Sexy Matches
Some couples aren’t ready for a sexy time. Maybe they are at the swinger club because only one of them wanted to try it and the other person was dragged along. it is easy to read the body language and spot those drama filled couples. Other couples might both want to be there but might want different things like playing in public or playing in a private room. Don’t be surprised if not every other couple is as excited and happy as you. It’s ok there will be plenty of other happy couples for you to approach.
Most couples are looking for a sexy fun time. Even if they want to have a sexy time, there is no guarantee both of you will be attracted to both of them. Maybe the other man is not physically appealing or maybe the other women is too shy and can’t flirt back. It is very similar to dating in a singles bar. Yes, there are plenty of good looking people but not everyone is a good match for everyone else. Don’t worry. Keep circulating around the club till you do find a sexy connection that makes everyone happy.
You Control If You Have Sex Or Not
It may seem like everyone already is paired up in a swinger club but that is because swingers usually prefer to socialize than be shy in a corner. If you want to make a new sexy connection, it is up to you to make the first move. Finding yourself a couple that you are attracted to and is also attracted to you the same way is hard. So socialize with as many people as possible.
If you aren’t feeling wild in the swinger club, you don’t need to do anything. You can go home, hang out & socialize, have sex with only your special someone or change your mind and find another couple for some sexy fun.
You are in control. Don’t expect someone will come and beg you to have sex. That is porn & not reality. Figure out what you want and take the steps to make it happen. You have the power to make your sexy fantasies as much of a reality as can comfortably handle.
Regular People Not Supermodels or Porn Stars
This is where many new people in the swinging lifestyle misunderstand the most. Good sex is not dependent on you being a supermodel or a porn star. Swingers are regular people just like you. Although, most times, at the swinger’s club, people behave like they are porn stars. You might begin to hear moans, groans and occasionally dirty talks. Everyone is free to enjoy sex in their own way.