Often, when new swingers visit a swingers club for the first time, they don’t know what to do or understand how things work inside a swingers club. Experienced swingers can easily recognize the curious newbies and can easily relate as they remember their first time at a swinger club. We were all new once, so relax because we are here to help ease you into this. Please remember each swinger club is different, and we are giving general advice. When in doubt, you should ask the party hosts or club owners at your local swinger club to get the most accurate answers for your local club.
Vegas Style Night Club
Swinger clubs are similar to Vegas nightclubs but not nearly as nice or as fancy. Vegas nightclubs can charge over $1000 for bottle service. Swinger clubs charge much less money for alcohol or are BYOB, so there is less profit for the club owners. Since swinger clubs earn less money, there is less money to buy brand-new leather chairs and velvet couches. Don’t expect a five-star club experience. That is ok. You aren’t going to a swinger club because they have pretty chairs or a fancy laser lighting system. You are going to connect with fellow open-minded, sexy people, which is what swinger clubs do a great job providing. Swinger clubs usually have a swinger pole, a bar area, a dance floor, and some private or semi-private spaces to have sexy fun with your new friends.
Swinger Clubs Aren’t Just For Sex
Most people at the swingers club are there for much more than just to have sex. Swingers like to catch up with friends, have fun, dance, watch others having hot sex, and learn from them. It is a welcoming and open community spirit for any open-minded, sexy person. Some swingers go to the club to make friends without any sexual play. So don’t expect an out-of-control swinger orgy (though orgies can happen). Think more of a social club that just happens to have a bunch of nudity and sex between consenting adults. Many people at the club don’t want to have sex; some simply want to socialize and party.
Couples Don’t Always Find Sexy Matches
Some couples aren’t ready for sex at the club. Maybe they are at the swinger club because only one of them wanted to try it and dragged the other person along. It is easy to read the body language and spot those drama-filled couples. Other couples might both want to be there but might desire different things like playing in public or playing in a private room. Don’t be surprised if not every other couple is as excited and happy as you. It’s ok there will be plenty of other happy couples for you to approach.
Most couples are looking for a sexy, fun time. Even if they want to have a sexy time, there is no guarantee both of you will be attracted to both of them. Maybe the other man is not physically appealing, or perhaps they are shy swingers and have trouble flirting back. It is very similar to dating in a singles bar. Yes, there are plenty of good-looking people, but not everyone is a good match for everyone else. Don’t worry. Keep circulating around the club till you do find a sexy connection that makes everyone happy.
You Control If You Have Sex Or Not
It may seem like everyone is already paired up in a swinger club, but that is not the case. Most swingers prefer to socialize rather than stick to a corner. If you want to make a new sexy connection, it is up to you to make the first move. Finding yourself a couple you are attracted to and are also attracted to you the same way is hard. So socialize with as many people as possible.
If you aren’t feeling wild in the swinger club, you don’t need to do anything. You can go home, hang out & socialize, have sex with only your special someone, or change your mind and find another couple for some sexy fun.
You are in control. Don’t expect someone to come and beg you to have sex. That is porn, not reality. Figure out what you want and take steps to make it happen. You have the power to make your sexual fantasies as much of a reality as you can comfortably handle. Don’t hesitate to be friendly & compliment other swingers. That is a great way to start flirting with swingers.
Regular People, Not Supermodels or Porn Stars
Good sex is not dependent on you being a supermodel or a porn star. Swingers are regular people just like you. (Although, sometimes, people act out their porn star fantasies at the clubs!) You might begin to hear moans, groans, and occasionally dirty talk. Everyone is free to enjoy sex in their own way.