Swinger playtime is different than your private playtime at home. It often goes on for a long time with multiple rounds of play. If you are new to swinging, imagine your private playtime is like a casual game of basketball in your driveway & swinger playtime is a professional NBA game that goes the distance. Both are fun and have much in common, but they are different experiences.
So, how do men in the swinger lifestyle last so long? Don’t worry, newbies. You probably aren’t doing anything wrong. It’s more that the veteran swinger guys have picked up a few tricks. Tricks that we will spill the beans on you so you can make your swinger experiences longer, if you -and your partners- like.
ED Pills
It is an open secret that many men in the swinger lifestyle use ED pills. You don’t have to & definitely should be careful if you choose to try them. Some swingers overuse it & end up with permanent ED, so talk with your doctor. ED pills often have the side effect of making it harder for a guy to climax. They can also make it easier to recover for extra rounds of play.
Condoms
Using a condom (especially if it is not a super thin condom) can help reduce sensation. Obviously, avoiding sensation overload can help a guy last longer and put on an impressive performance, whether private or public.
Experience
If you have been to many swinger events, you are used to hot friends casually dropping off their clothes and touching you so you probably aren’t overwhelmed. It gets easier to keep your pace & not climax too soon with practice. If you are new to swinging, it is easy to be overwhelmed. Your hot, sexy fantasy has become a reality. So much sexiness can speed you to almost instant climax your first time seeing a swinger scene. Try to focus more on your swinger partner to reduce the chance of being overwhelmed by the countless heavenly sights from other areas of the play area.
Positions Matter
As a guy becomes more experienced in the swinger lifestyle, he will figure out which play positions work for him. Some positions may feel great but aren’t sustainable with your knees, back, or whatever. Figure out the positions that work for you. A guy will also figure out which positions might deliver more intense pleasure vs. a more manageable enjoyment level. Save those firecracker positions for the end so you don’t have to fight off climaxing mentally.
Flip-Flopping
When we mentioned changing positions, you might not have fully thought about how much can be changed. If you feel it is building up too much below the waist, you can stop & switch to some oral fun with your partner. This will let you back away from boiling over and keep the sexy fun rolling along. You could also stay deep inside of them but not move. Well, not move your hips while your hands and lips explore their body. You can read up on tantric touches and other enjoyable forms of pleasure besides jackhammering someone.
Marathon Style, Not Sprint Style
If you have young kids at home, you have probably become very experienced with quickie mode. We get it. Your schedule is packed, and kids constantly need attention. There are no distracting reasons to rush when you are at a swinger party. Remind yourself that you don’t need to go straight into jackhammer mode. You can relish the moment. Take your time enjoying and exploring their body. Start with a slower pace that can be maintained for longer. When you feel it is building up too much, you can change your angle or position to prevent boiling over before you are ready.
BDSM & Toys
Depending on what you & your swinger partners like, you can also sprinkle in some light BDSM play, toys, or roleplay. If you feel like you are too close to climaxing, you can pause the PIV fun and flow into some light spanking or other sensual touches. Or you can pull out some toys. Running a spiky Wartenberg wheel over their skin can work wonders. Using a magic wand or vibrator on them can also feel amazing. These options let you continue exciting your partner without pushing yourself to the point of climaxing too soon.
Don’t Skip Cardio Day
Middle-aged guys are juggling a lot. You have work, family, volunteering, and so much more. It can be tempting to skip your cardio exercises. If you want to last a long time in bed, then you need to build up your cardio. You might have hated the treadmill because it was boring. Once you are in the swinger lifestyle, you have a great source of motivation to jump on that boring treadmill or bike. Listening to some swinger podcasts can make cardio a fun time.
Faking It
Remember how we said ED pills can often make it harder for men to climax? Well, some swinger guys will simply say they climaxed or explain they are saving it for later. By not climaxing, they can be immediately ready for that second or third round without having to worry about a refractory period. If a guy is wearing a condom, it can be hard to know if they climaxed or not. It doesn’t matter. Swinging is about having fun, not about counting climaxes, so do what is fun for you.
Go Ahead & Climax
Swinger playtime is really about having fun, so enjoy yourself. Climaxing isn’t the end of having fun. After you climax, you still have fingers, lips, and sex toys that you can use to pleasure your partner if they aren’t ready for a break. Swinger parties often go multiple rounds because … well, there is an abundance of spectacular visions and sounds. You’ll likely be inspired and find yourself quickly rising for more fun.
Abundance of Inspiration
Swinger play scenes are amazingly inspiring. After a man climaxes at home, that’s often the end of it. At swinger parties, that is simply the start of being able to enjoy some voyeurism. Looking around a swinger playroom, you will see real-life porn, which is much hotter than anything you can find online. Seeing and hearing so much sexiness right in front of you often inspires swinger men to recharge faster than they would at home.
Remember…
We hope these tips help you better understand what to expect and give you more options to make your swinger life less stressful. Remember not to compare yourself to others. Count smiles, not climaxes. Better yet, forget about keeping score. Focus on the fun!
Not everyone likes marathon-long play sessions. Don’t assume longer is always better. Some people want to have fun & then get back to dancing or drinking or whatever. Use these options to do what is best for you and your own situation. Have a great time!