Looking to get into swinging or maybe you are already swinging but want to learn a bit more or just entertain yourself? Your friends at Swingers Help have the best swinging book recommendations for every type of book worm out there.
We have several New York Times Bestsellers that talk about open relationships & non-monogamy and lesser-known books that specialize in the swinging lifestyle. You can figure out what books would best help or entertain you.
If you are looking for erotic literature, you should look elsewhere. These books might be discussing a very sexy topic but they are more educational and insightful. This is not a list of romantic fiction. We have confidence you can find plenty of that without our help.
Swingers’ Little Helper: Uncover the curious swinging lifestyle of open relationships
by Georgia Fuchs & Will Fuchs
Published in 2017
We are obviously biased but we think this is the best book about swinging. This swinging guide explains how to safeguard relationships, discreetly find swingers, set boundaries, while still adding in the excitement of consensual non-monogamy to your life. The book shares personal stories and detailed tips to help you make the best choices for your own personal relationship when you are thinking about swinging. The best part of this swingers book is that it’s free on this site. Amazon Link
The Ethical Slut – A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton
320 pages – Third Edition Published in 2017
This is a good book about non-monogamy but does not focus on swinging. The Ethical Slut dispels non-monogamy myths and shows curious readers about how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. This guide to communication and sex has been revised to include interviews with poly millennials, tributes to poly pioneers, and new sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, and ways polys can connect and thrive. Amazon Link
Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
by Tristan Taormino
374 pages – Published in 2008
This is the best selling book by relationship expert Tristan Taormino. Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. It offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting, and time management. A good book about open relationships but not a swinger centric book. This is a good supplemental book to help non-monogamous people better protect their emotional relationships. Amazon Link
Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha
415 pages – Published in 2011
This is not a dedicated swinging book but it does a good job exploring the concept of monogamy. The authors debunk what we “know” about sex, weaving together anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality to show how far from human nature monogamy really is. In Sex at Dawn, the authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing towards a future illuminated by our innate capacities for sex, love, cooperation, and generosity. Amazon Link
My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory
by Cooper S. Beckett
355 pages – Published in 2015
This is an entertaining perspective on the swinging & polyamory world. The queer non-monogamous author is admittedly biased when it comes to swinging, polyamory, and other forms of ethical non-monogamy but he doesn’t sugar-coat it. He speaks honestly and earnestly about a unique way to live life, one that allows for sexual and loving growth and experimentation, a strong sense of community, and the ability to do what we all crave, whether we know it or not: Be honest with ourselves and others about what we want sexually. And out of life. Amazon Link
Swingland: Between the Sheets of the Secretive, Sometimes Messy, but Always Adventurous Swinging Lifestyle
by Daniel Stern
322 pages – Published in 2013
A recounting by a single man and his ten years experiencing the swinging lifestyle. The author shares his opinions and experiences as he talks about countless rejections, missed opportunities, and one particular AARP orgy. This “Vanilla” newbie eventually becomes a much sought-after partner for couples looking to spice up their relationships after he figures out how to be accepted as a single man in a community filled mostly by couples. This provides an entertaining & interesting memoir. Amazon Link
Swingers’ Lifestyle: The Questions You Are Afraid to Ask
by Jackie Melfi
85 Pages – Published in 2017
Mini-guide that addresses some of the common Q&A about the swinging lifestyle. The author who owns a chain of swinger clubs with her husband provides her personal opinions & relives some of her swinging experiences in her responses. This book provides a basic primer to curious readers.
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