First Time Swinger Tips – Swingers Help

Curious about swinging but not sure how to start or what it’s like that first time you cross the different swinger milestones? Sit back & relax. We are here to ease your anxiety and share these helpful tips for each of the different swinger milestones to make each of your inaugural swinging experiences a happy & sexy moment for you.

The first and most important tip is to remember that everyone is different. You are in your own special situation, which differs from everyone else. Remember that while reading these tips. You don’t want to blindly follow them. It is wiser to think over each suggestion and take the time to reflect on how best it can be applied and, in some cases, adjusted to better serve your own personal swinging situation. We all want what is best for ourselves and our own special partners.

Newcomers Deciding Whether to Swing

All swingers needed to start somewhere. Before you start having a sexy time with others, you need to talk with your special someone and first figure out if swinging is or is not the right option for your relationship. This is a big decision, and your relationship is very special, so you should not rush this important step. Here are some simple tips to help you determine if this sexy lifestyle is a good idea for you and your special someone.

Focus on making your relationship great before opening it up.
Ensure strong & honest communication for a better relationship.
Be understanding and move only as fast as the comfort level of the slowest person.
Remember, swinging is only a bonus to your already great relationship.
Show how much you love your partner by giving them plenty of time to consider it.
Listen to your partner and pay attention to their signals.
Don’t be surprised if it takes months of talking before deciding what is best for your relationship.
Accepting your desires might not be the same as your partner.
Listen to the educational & entertaining swinger podcasts.
For even more helpful suggestions about deciding whether to swing, go ahead and download the free 300-page book Swingers’ Little Helper.

First-Time Meeting Swinger Couples

Your sexy fantasy of meeting other people for a sexy fun time is about to become a reality. It is a super exciting time! Don’t be afraid if you are also feeling a bit of anxiety. Even veteran swingers can feel a bit nervous when they are about to meet and swing with new couples. To help you feel more comfortable, let’s focus on the things you can control. Here is a rundown of helpful advice to help make your first swinger data a sexy & fun success for you and your amazing partner.

Talk with your partner about what you both want & don’t want.
Pick a fun swinger date activity.
Jointly plan with the other couple to pick a good place or activity for everyone.
Don’t commit to playing your first meeting; it is easier to heat things up than to escape awkward moments.
Create secret signals and/or codewords to let you communicate with your partner whether all is good or not good.
Bring cash so you can split bills and leave extra fast (in case of anxiety or passion strikes).
Take a little extra time to pamper yourself so you feel comfortable making a sexy first impression.
Pack a swinger safe-sex play bag in case you all decide to play.
ED issues are prevalent due to mental performance pressure. ED pills are widespread.
Go only as fast as the comfort level of the slowest person.
When in doubt, always ask. Don’t assume.
Don’t burn bridges if it’s not a sexy connection, and opt for a gracious exit.
Relax & enjoy. Worst case, nothing happens & you go home with the sexiest person – your own partner.

Your Rookie Trip to Swinger Clubs

Who doesn’t enjoy a trip to a seductive swinger club filled with other like-minded sexy people looking to make new friends? These clubs are a great way to connect with other local swingers and let your sexy side shine! You can be free to embrace your sexy fantasies and turn them into a reality. These clubs are similar to vanilla nightclubs, but like vanilla nightclubs, each is different. Here are some naughty tips to help make your first time at a swinger club more enjoyable.

Make sure you RSVP. Some clubs have limited space or an application process.
If the clubs have a special party theme, try to dress for it.
Be friendly & don’t be afraid of waving hello to strangers.
Complimenting others is a great swinger icebreaker.
Don’t assume. Read the club rules.
Follow their alcohol rules. Often it’s BYOB.
Bring enough cash for the entrance fee & bartender tips.
Ask for a tour. Most clubs have friendly ambassador couples to meet new people.
Make a hotel reservation if the club doesn’t allow on-site play or is far from home.
Bring a play bag, don’t assume they have enough safe sex supplies or your preferred brand.
Always ask for consent before touching others.
Pick the right night for you. Some clubs allow single men on certain nights & might have some fetish nights.
For more information, read about what’s it like inside swinger clubs.

Beginners Attending Swinger House Party

Woo-hoo! You’ve found a friendly swinger couple hosting a party at their house and scored an invite. But now you are wondering how to be a good guest at a swinger house party. Please remember each couple runs their house party differently, so make sure you adjust these first-time swinger tips to your local area.

Hopefully, your host is organized and will send you the information. If not, ask, don’t assume.
Bring a hostess swinger gift if it’s a free event at their place.
Respect their rules (especially about alcohol and where nudity & sex are allowed).
Be careful where you park & making noise that might upset the neighbors.
Be on time, don’t make them wait for you.
Remember the secret signals with your partner to communicate whether all is good or not good.
Be friendly towards the other guests. Everyone enjoys politeness.
Don’t monopolize the hosts. They will probably be busy with hosting.
Bring something to share with others (alcohol, dessert, games) to help break the ice.
Respect their personal space and don’t leave a mess.
Don’t overstay your welcome.
Here are some tips for finding swinger house parties.

First-Time Swinger Resort Vacations

Looking to escape your vanilla world and visit the fantasy land of a swinger resort? Get ready to enjoy a luxury vacation and have the option to wear your sexiest outfits or nothing at all. You can have the hottest second honeymoon or make friends with swingers from all over the country.

Research before spending money on these super awesome but high-priced treats.
Pack extra sunscreen for naked suntanning.
Bring plenty of tip money for the super helpful staff.
Pick a nearby hotel for your vanilla cover story.
Use trip insurance to protect yourself from bad weather or medical emergencies.
Go easy on the alcohol and drink extra water for this sexy party marathon.
Get extra sleep before you go so you have plenty of energy to party.
For more information, read our Desire Resort vacation guide.