Are you curious about what happens at an orgy? We are here to unlock that mystery and help guide you to enjoy your first foray into swinging group play. This is not some Hollywood fantasy. Real-life is never as glamorous or as perfect as it looks like in the movies, so make sure to have realistic expectations. That being said, real swinger orgies are crazier, hotter, and sexier than Hollywood will ever be able to capture. Real-life porn right in front of your face with people who desire you is amazing. So keep reading and have a great time!
Every Orgy is Different
We are going to generalize a good bit here. Because orgies are organized by different people with different preferences and different guests, no two will be the same. Even when the same organizers use the same set of rules, it can differ depending on who shows up and how they behave. Sometimes people are experienced and attracted to one another, so it’s an amazing time. Other times, it can be all nervous newbies and couples lacking sexy chemistry, making the night more awkward and ho-hum. Because it is always different and things can get a bit crazy, this is usually not the easiest option for mistake-prone rookie swingers.
Consent is Important
Just because it is an orgy does not mean there are no rules. Consent must be given by everyone and can be revoked at any time. To simplify things, the organizers might have all guests form a circle and ask if everyone is ok with everything or if anyone has limits. This group consent is a good first step, but it is important to be clear about who the consent applies to. When in doubt, always ask before touching anyone else. It can be as simple as saying, “Can I touch your …?” If someone touches you and you don’t want it, speak up immediately. Clear & honest communication is vital to everyone having a good time. Swingers understand that no means no, and everyone should respect each other’s personal boundaries and comfort levels, but that doesn’t guarantee smooth sailing. Always look out for yourself & your partner.
Less Alcohol, More Water
Because orgies can get crazy, you want to be in your best shape physically & mentally. That means don’t get drunk. If you have too much booze, you might not be able to look out for yourself & your partner, and you won’t be able to perform at your sexiest. Imagine having a sexy time with three or five other people simultaneously. That regularly happens in an orgy so drink more water and less alcohol. Because so many people are involved, it can go on for hours. Some people might take a break while the group continues to play. Be ready for hours of sexy fun.
Simple Beats Fancy
Orgies are focused on great sex, so everything else takes a back seat. That means don’t worry about wearing your fanciest swinger outfit, lingerie, or jewelry. With so many moving arms & legs and whatnot splashing around, you don’t want to risk ruining any of your fanciest stuff. Go with things that look sexy, are simple to get off & back on. Don’t bring your fancy sex toys. You probably won’t have much room to use as space can be pretty tight with so many horny people involved. You can bring a simple strap-on or vibrator, but otherwise, you probably want to save your sex toys when you don’t have a bunch of sexy people lining up to play with you.
Stimulation Overload Is Real
Being in a room filled with hot looking people doing some of the sexiest things you can imagine as they make each other moan & cry out loud in passion is intense… crazy intense. This is the hottest live porn right in front of your face, and wow, you can’t imagine how hot it will be. This often leads to stimulation overload for men & women. Men can be stimulated so much that they will have trouble being able to perform. It sounds unlikely, but it’s true. We are talking of many distractions and high pressure. If that happens, the man can take a break or find a less crazy active/noisy place to have some sexy fun. Ladies, you aren’t immune to this either. Women have different problems like chafing and becoming too sensitive to the point that a pleasing touch becomes incredibly painful. If that happens, step back and take a break. Grab some water and let your body push the reset button & recover a bit from that intense group fun.
Use Secret Codes & Signals
Orgies are intense and crazy. To help you and your special someone stay in tune with each other, make sure you pick a few secret code words and signals. This will help you figure out if everything is ok or if your special someone needs help. Maybe they have stimulation overload, or maybe they pulled a hamstring after three hours of intense sexy fun, or maybe they want to share a private moment with you to cherish this memorable moment. Strong communication is important to keep each other safe & happy. You don’t want to be fighting the next day about why one of you didn’t help the other person when they faced a bad situation. Work together so you will be smiling together the next day.
Be Open-Minded
The lifestyle has many bisexual swingers, and they especially love orgies because it gives them a chance to enjoy both genders simultaneously. You don’t have to have to do any same-sex stuff at an orgy though many people will. Even if there are no bisexual swingers at your orgy and you try your best to avoid it, there are going to be accidental same-sex touches. Orgies have too many naked people in too small a space. A king-size bed seems large when it is just two people at home, but at an orgy, we are talking about many more people on a single bed. There are going to be accidents. It’s like riding in an overcrowded city bus during rush hour. No one wants to bump into others accidentally, but it happens, and when it does, the person apologizes. If an accidental same-sex touch sounds overly scary to you, then you might want to steer away from orgies.
Protect Yourself
Don’t assume that condoms or lube will be provided. Make sure to bring plenty of party supplies for yourself and your partners. Having a variety of condoms is very helpful in case other men forget to bring their supplies. You can still have fun. Don’t assume everyone is going to use a condom. Make sure you clearly voice your play preference to all partners, so there are no misunderstandings. Ladies, if you don’t usually need lube during sexy time, that will probably change for an orgy. Group play can last much, much longer than regular playtime. Trust us that chafing is as bad as you imagine it feels, so lube up early and often to help protect your sensitive bits from getting beat up too much. You will also want to be careful with their fingers. How can we delicately explain this? Someone’s fingers might grab and play with a sexy behind before they try to play with your love box. That is a recipe for a bad UTI the next day. So be on the lookout to make sure no ignorant person does something silly like that with you.
You’re In Control
Remember that whatever happens, you are in complete control (assuming you go easy on the alcohol). If something doesn’t feel right, you can stop & leave at any time. You can take a temporary break or leave for the night. You are in control. Other people can be rude or make mistakes because life isn’t perfect, but you still have the power to remove yourself from bad situations. If you feel uncomfortable for any reason, do not hesitate to protect yourself and your special someone.