Looking to try something new in the bedroom? Exploring new things is a great way to keep things fresh & exciting in your relationship.
We are big fans of swinging, but let’s be honest. Swinging is not the right option for all people at all times.
Some relationships are better suited for a monogamous arrangement. Even if you are a happy swinger, you can find yourself in a temporary situation where you may need to step back from swinging. There are also the overachieving swingers who want more variety in their sexy playbook. Thankfully there are plenty of great alternatives to swinging.
Now let’s get into the fun options.
Want to experience something new in the bedroom without swinging partners? Bring out the roleplay menu. There are countless scenarios you can explore. You can do a naughty parent/teacher meeting, or strangers meeting at a hotel bar, pretend to be virgins again, doctor & patient, superheroes, and so much more. Be creative!
If you can’t imagine a sexy scenario (or aren’t sure what to do), then head over to Literotica.com & find an erotic story that excites you.
Now that you know the scenario you want, & have some ideas about what to say or do, let’s take it to the next level. Put together some costumes for both of you. Then grab some props you can use to get into the spirit & decorate your space to make the fantasy a sexy reality. A little bit of effort can lead to much bigger finishes.
Roleplaying is a great way to explore our sexy fantasies safely. For example, it can be dangerous for a woman to bring a stranger back to her hotel room, but we can experience that fantasy in the roleplay world. Roleplaying is a great way to share your fantasies and grow closer together. It can also help you both become more comfortable with different concepts.
Take massage classes together to learn the art of touching each other. You can even add in Nuru massages for extra intimacy. You can watch tutorials on YouTube, or you can search for a local teacher (or a masseuse that will let others join in).
Some swingers are too quick to jump into sex. Massages are a great reminder that our entire body can be an erogenous zone. Slowly building up & teasing the body can make the magic moment even more intense. There are countless combinations of massage techniques, body parts, & lotions to keep you exploring each other for a long time.
Plus, massaging helps improve our flexibility, so you can even try those crazy Karma Sutra positions when it becomes time for the magic moment.
There are plenty of nude resorts, beaches & vacations you can take. Being naked helps us become more comfortable in our skin. If you have never tried a nude getaway, it probably sounds scary. You will likely be surprised at how quickly you will grow comfortable being naked.
If it is your first time, you can try a clothing-optional place so you can disrobe at your own pace. Being surrounded by nude people is a huge ego boost & confidence builder. None of us have airbrushed supermodel bodies, but we are all amazing. Go discover yourself!
Solo Play Dates
You don’t have to go swinging as a couple. You can play solo. This is an excellent option for all different types of situations. Maybe one of you doesn’t want to swing, or you want something closer to hotwifing or cuckolding, or perhaps it’s too hard aligning your schedules. There are countless reasons why solo play dates can make sense for your situation.
Playing solo can give you fresh date experiences & open up new reconnection routines for when you go back to your special someone. You can also plan vanilla fun for the non-playing partner to keep everyone busy. This different playing dynamic can open up many new exciting possibilities.
These are a guaranteed fun time in a judgment-free zone. Oh, who are we kidding? Those queens are some of the snarkiest people we know. They will be judging you almost as much as they entertain you, which is to say non-stop.
There can be singing, jokes, naughty bingo, and so much more. Their quick wit will have you laughing about some of the most naughty topics. These fabulous ladies will work harder than their implants to make sure you go home with a smile on your face. It will give you a genuinely refreshing breath of fresh air as you enjoy authentic self-expression while nothing is taken too seriously.
We would have had better grades if school had covered these fun topics. There are online classes & in many cities, there are in-person workshops for all different types of sexual experiences. Some common topics include Shibari (erotic Japanese rope bondage), impact play (whips, paddles, spanking & more), Nuru (naked full body-on-body massages), deep-throating tricks, & so much more.
Who doesn’t want to learn a trick or fetish? You can’t know for sure if you will crave or shrug something till you try it. So learn the right & safe way to explore these different fetishes. Along the way, you’ll probably learn things about yourself & your partner.
Strippers aren’t the only ones that can have fun on a pole. You can take a local pole dancing class to learn how to do it & get a great workout in to boost your endorphins.
This is an excellent option for sexy people who aren’t feeling confident about their bodies. Building up your coordination will help you move more gracefully & with confidence. Plus, after a few of these workouts, your sexy body will be in even better shape.
Make sure your pole is professionally installed if you try this at home. You don’t want the pole to come crashing down on you because some screw was put in the wrong spot.
It can be so much fun embracing the naughty side of online flirting. The best foreplay is often the mental game. Teasing your partner with what you are thinking about and looking forward to doing. Their ravishing responses will surge your confidence & motivate you to even more naughty flirting. What is a bigger compliment than the thought of you driving someone out of their mind with desire?
If you aren’t 100% confident with your sexting skills, check out erotic literature websites. Those authors provide excellent examples of how to write & describe heated situations to inspire you for even hotter swinger play sessions. Check out YouTube for boudoir tutorials to make your naughty pictures even hotter. They will show you how to look your best without any Photoshop or filters.
Ladies Only Dates
Sure, we already talked about solo playdates, but most of you probably even didn’t think of this when we did. If you did, you only thought about sex. Arranging for a ladies-only date or weekend is a great way for ladies to support each other.
We all have insecurities. Too often, we are our own harshest critics. Creating a ladies-only space allows for honest sharing & support, which will help us feel more comfortable being the sexiest we can be.
Plus, ladies-only play sessions can be so fun. Without men present, there is no risk of being rushed or distracted. Ladies can play how they want & when they want. Of course, the same goes for men having a guy’s only date. Having a same-sex play date creates a very different experience to enjoy.
Boudoir Photo Shoots
When you look in the mirror, you probably focus on the things you want to change. A sexy boudoir photo will highlight the best things about you that should be cherished. It is a great way to fan the flames of sexy confidence. More confidence will lead to hotter times in the bedroom (or in front of the camera together).
There are plenty of tutorials on YouTube that will show you how to do this, or you can hire a professional boudoir photographer. If you choose the DIY route (and being the photographer is awesome), make sure to invest in good lighting and setting. You might want to also splurge with some lingerie shopping to feel your best.
After your photoshoot & whatever shenanigans happen afterward, make the most of those sexy images. You can turn them into a private book for yourselves or frame the best one to hang in your bedroom. At the very least, upgrade your swinger dating profile with these hot pics.
Looking for a different experience but not with other people? No problem. Bringing in sex toys can create new sensations and act as a placeholder for different people. But let’s take it to the next level and bring in the sex machines.
These are full-size, climb onboard sexual experiences. You can choose between Sybian, Tremor, or Motor Bunny machines. They also have attachments for men, assuming you can convince the man to give up control of this much horsepower.
Phew! That’s a long list of sexy fun to explore. Have fun and try something new!
PS Let’s remind ourselves this isn’t a competition. We are all incredibly lucky. You may want to be swinging right now, but let it go. Focus on the fantastic sexy potential in front of you. There are many different experiences in the sexy lifestyle & they can all be great!