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Swinging Lifestyle & ED Issues

So if you’re thinking of taking male performance pills, you should absolutely talk to your own medical doctor first. We are about to share some information about ED pills, and you should not confuse this with medical advice from your own doctor about erectile dysfunction. You would be crazy reckless to use any performance pills without talking with your own medical doctor. Unfortunately, there are many crazy reckless people in this world. Men of all ages use and sometimes abuse ED pills like Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra. These are serious drugs, so let’s have a serious chat about them.

Guys, if you have enough play dates in the lifestyle, you will almost certainly encounter DDW, also known as “d*** don’t work.” Go ahead and say it won’t happen to you. Every guy says that until it happens to him.

Let’s be honest; considering what guys are up against, it’s surprising that DDW doesn’t happen every play date. Guys are leaving their safe, familiar bedrooms to go to a crazy swinging environment to play with a brand-new person they barely have enough time to make a connection with, and the new lady doesn’t know the best way to turn him on. Mentally and physically, this is a lot to handle and a common cause of ED. When ladies get nervous at a swinger party, they can drink some alcohol and relax. Guys who get nervous and drink too much end up sabotaging themselves with alcohol-induced DDW.

Guys, your best bet is to relax. DDW is usually more of a mental issue and less of a physical issue. The great news is that there are many solutions for DDW.

Help Yourself

First, stop sabotaging yourself. Quit smoking and dial back on the booze. You wouldn’t be smoking and drinking if you were training for a marathon, and swinging is basically an awesome sex marathon. Start doing some cardio exercise a few times a week. Build up to 30 minutes (or more) of cardio a few days a week. Drink more water and eat right. If you want your body to perform at its physical best, you need to properly fuel and prepare it. Make sure you get enough sleep. It’s crazy to expect your swinging body to perform at its best if you aren’t rested.

Visit your doctor and make sure you are healthy enough for a sex marathon. These simple steps can prevent many DDW situations. Take care of your body, and your body will take care of you!

Mental Challenges

Most swingers are smart enough to do the basic physical prep, so it’s often a mental issue that creates a DDW situation. Before you start popping ED pills, try to resolve these issues naturally. Some swingers prefer to only engage in a soft swap. It removes the high pressure and stress of pleasing brand-new partners, a common contributor to DDW issues.

Another preventative measure is to ease into the lifestyle slowly. Go to swinger clubs and watch for a few weeks. Progress slowly into some public non-swapping play or soft swapping. As you grow more comfortable in the wild atmosphere of the swinging world, your body will relax, and you can show that sexy new partner just how good you are between the sheets.

Natural Supplements

Don’t want to wait and ease into things? There’s still another step you can take before taking performance pills. Let’s chat about vitamin supplements. It would be best if you still talked with a doctor before taking vitamins, even though they’re available over the counter. Only a doctor can make sure you’re healthy enough for a sex marathon. Your doctor can make sure you don’t have a heart problem and that these supplements won’t interact with any other medicine you might be taking.

The more common performance-enhancing supplements are L-Arginine, Maca Root, and ZMA supplements. One of the more popular brand-name products is Horny Goat Weed. Some guys report great results with these supplements. Remember that all bodies are different. Some people may respond differently to different supplements, so don’t buy a big batch of anything until you test a few different supplements and find out what works best for you.

ED Prescriptions

Don’t like vitamin supplements? Let’s talk about ED prescription solutions. There are many different options, and they come in many different forms. There are pills, gels, and chewables. The most common prescriptions are Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra. Viagra tends to have more annoying side effects, like nose congestion or difficulty climaxing, than Cialis or Levitra, but they are all viable options for most healthy men.

Usually, your doctor will have you try out different ones to see which prescription gives you the best performance with the least side effects. Your doctor will start you on a low dose and slowly work you up to whatever dose is appropriate for your body. Before you think about changing dosages without consulting your doctor, take a breather. Cheating and going with a higher dose than your doctor prescribes is stupid and dangerous.

Think about a metal hammer. The hammer is as hard as it needs to be. There is no reason to wrap it in extra layers of aluminum foil to make it even harder. Apply that same logic to ED pills. Except while covering your hammer with aluminum foil is just a waste of aluminum foil, taking too many ED pills can land you in the hospital with a painful erection that needs to be medically addressed.

You’ll have the honor of being jabbed with a crazy long needle (guess where!). You’ll have to hope that the needle can drain the blood fast enough, or penile amputation might be required. An estimated 10,000 men end up in the hospital every year because of ED pills. Please listen to your doctor before you become one of those guys.

ED pills aren’t necessarily expensive, but they aren’t exactly cheap, either. To save money, ask your doctor if he or she will prescribe a higher dosage – then you can split the pills to your recommended dosage. Many ED pills can be cut in half to save money. Instead of buying 20 pills at 50mg each, you might be able to buy 10 pills of 100mg and use a pill cutter to split them in half. Ask your doctor before doing this.

Once you have a prescription, you can get it filled at any pharmacy. Depending on where you live, there might be some legitimate online pharmacies that will offer big discounts, and occasionally there are some coupons you can use at your local pharmacy. If you check out the online swinger forums, you can find out what is currently the best deal for your ED prescription. There might be a free discount card that offers automatic coupons for your prescription. Talk to your doctor about this, too, as they will usually want to help you afford your medication instead of not taking it at all. To save money, many swingers use an online service. These services are based in the USA, offer online doctor consults, and mail your ED pills. Generic Viagra is only about $3 a pill and is a common swinger insurance policy used by many men.

When facing DDW issues, relax and know you are not alone. You are not the first and definitely not the last. Just about every guy in the lifestyle has had or will have a DDW moment at one point.

Important Note: ED issues can be a strong clue that you have serious cardio issues (like blocked arteries close to triggering a heart attack).  Some doctors will rush and give you an ED prescription without exploring your cardio risk enough.  Heart disease is a top killer of men.  Be the best advocate for yourself!  Specifically, ask your doctor if your ED issues are connected with cardio issues.

Dear Ladies,

Ladies, it’s not about you. You are all smoking hot, and all the guys want to play with you. Let us dispel some penis myths and clarify what is really happening. Sometimes it’s difficult for a guy to juggle all the stress of work, family, and the lifestyle on four hours of sleep. That stress can trigger DDW in the middle of playing.

If your partner has a DDW moment in the middle of playing, it can be helpful to quietly get some water or towels for the group while the ladies stay behind and leisurely give some oral action. Don’t put a spotlight on the DDW issue – that will only make it worse.  Focus on other things away from the DDW.  You can try a sexy massage.  Have a kissing contest.  There are so many hot things to do.

Taking a step back and relaxing so you can enjoy and relish the moment is often the quickest way to overcome DDW. It can also be helpful to switch back to your usual partners to reduce the performance pressure. If everyone goes with the flow and enjoys the chill, sexy vibe, things might pop back up!

Last Updated: September 28, 2023
Written By:Dr. Georgia

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