A common fear among some people is that swinging will destroy a woman’s lady equipment. Maybe you wonder if a woman will still be able to enjoy sex with her husband after being exposed to bigger men or worry a lady’s equipment can be overused and ruined. We can understand why some people might have those fears. We all have a certain level of insecurity in us. When that insecurity faces an unknown situation like swinging for the first time, it can make some people fearful.
The good news is our bodies (both women & men) are incredibly resilient and designed to enjoy sex, including plenty of sex with all different sizes of equipment. Swinging with someone who has bigger equipment will not make any permanent changes to someone’s body.
Penis size tends to be much less important than many new swingers realize. Penis size myths misinform too many men. If a man had sex with a woman who had larger or smaller breasts than his wife, would he stop enjoying his wife’s breasts? Of course not! That man would think all breasts are sexy and would enjoy any breasts he can get his hands on. Enjoying different-sized breasts is fun, just like enjoying different-sized penises can be fun for ladies.
Human Anatomy 101
How can we be certain of this? Let’s give you a refresher course on human anatomy. Most people that ask us this question are men, so let’s start with male anatomy. Dear men, you’ve hopefully realized by now that your penis is elastic. It grows a good bit when you have an erection, and after you climax, it goes back to its regular size. Have you ever worried that your penis wouldn’t revert to its regular size? Have you ever thought that having too many erections will cause your penis to eventually be dragging on the floor because it was too stretched out & wouldn’t go back to standard size? Of course, you haven’t thought that. The female anatomy is elastic, just like the male anatomy.
Speaking of the female anatomy, the average un-aroused vagina size is only about 3 to 4 inches, and it has the potential to stretch up to about 200% when aroused (remember it’s a muscle) – which is a great reason for gentlemen to use plenty of foreplay to help the lady get aroused. Looking at the scientific data, most women have a significantly smaller vagina than the average man’s penis size. So the odds are very high that the man’s penis is already more than big enough for any lady he will meet in the lifestyle. Once the vagina is no longer actively aroused, it will revert to its regular shape & size. The same way men with daily erections don’t have their penis dragging on the floor, ladies with daily arousal return to their regular size.
Remember, a lady’s body is designed to give birth. A woman can give birth repeatedly, and her vagina will bounce back so she can have more sex and, if she chooses, give birth again. Having sex with the biggest man in the world is nothing compared to squeezing a watermelon through a hole the size of a lemon and bouncing back from it.
Ladies (& overly worried men), we have some helpful tips we want to share with you. You don’t need them because we already explained how human evolution has already equipped you with an amazingly capable body for sexy fun. But hey, who doesn’t like going from good to amazing?
Kegel Exercises – If you aren’t familiar with this, we are talking about exercising the internal muscles surrounding your sex equipment. You can use Google or Youtube to find a tutorial on this. Basically, the next time you go to the bathroom, try to stop your stream midway. Those are the pelvic muscles & yes, you can make them bigger & stronger with Kegel exercises just like regular exercise does to any muscle. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles works wonders. Ladies, that means making sex more comfortable and enjoyable. If you exercise it enough, you can even develop enough strength to “massage” a man when he’s inside of you while you perform your Kegels. A fun little technique to use when they are close to the end. To develop that special talent, you will need to do plenty of Kegel exercises and look into the weighted Kegel balls to build up enough strength. Again, you don’t need to do this, but who doesn’t like magic tricks?
Sex Positions – Another tip is to know that each sex position has pros & cons. Some positions are better suited for different people based on their shape & size. For example, men with smaller equipment are much better suited for the “pile driver” position where the woman lies down and pulls her knees up to her chest, creating the right angle for extra penetration. Men with larger equipment might not enjoy that position as much as it can take a good bit more extra time with foreplay to allow the women’s vagina to stretch enough so she can comfortably accommodate the man. Rushing sex too soon with large equipment can be extremely uncomfortable for women (remember, the average vagina is only about 3 to 4 inches). Using alternative sex positions that don’t align for maximum penetration can be much more enjoyable. Using different sex positions with people of different shapes & sizes lets you maximize your fun.
Skill Beats Size – Penis size is much less important in the swinger lifestyle than most new swingers realize. Your sexual skills like flirting, touching, and kissing are much more useful. Those skills are what helps to start the fun & allow you to keep having fun well after the first explosion. It doesn’t matter how big a man’s equipment might be if they can’t flirt or if they try to skip the foreplay. Let’s also be honest -eventually, every man will succumb to a lady’s charm, and when that happens, you can keep satisfying each other with kisses, touches, caresses, and more. That is the difference between mediocre sex and hot, chest-pounding sex.
Sex vs. Intimacy – Swinging can definitely be fun, but it has no chance of competing with the incredible intimacy you share with the love of your life. You two have an amazing bond & attraction with each other that no casual friend has a chance of coming close to achieving. Your own partner knows all your special parts & you know all of theirs. When you are intimate with each other, it is on a whole other level. Sure, it’s nice to eat at a new restaurant, but it can never compete with having your own personal chef at home who has memorized all of your favorite recipes. There is no awkwardness or pressure when you are with the love of your life. Make sure to regularly take time out of your busy schedule to have moments together where you can privately reconnect and keep building that amazing bond.
Confidence is Sexy – We all have our own body insecurities, but thankfully we all have the capability to overcome them. Feel proud of your sexiness. Look at your amazing partner and how sexy they appear. Remind yourself that you attracted them and still put a huge smile on their face. Be proud of yourself. We are all unique and special. This variety is what makes the swinging lifestyle so enjoyable. You and the love of your life are an amazing team, so confidently go out there have fun knowing at the end of the night you are going home with the sexiest person – your own partner.