It is one thing to transform a vanilla space into a sexy space, but that is just the start of prepping for sex parties. These parties need dedicated socializing areas for friendly introductions & play areas for the naughty action.
We’ll walk you through creating the right socializing spaces for hot flirting among your guests. Plus, creating the hottest play spaces for when your guests are ready to get to know each other better. It is time to be creative and let’s make your sexiest dreams become a reality!
Swinger parties start with socializing & flirting, so make sure to have plenty of non-playing room for this.
The food area will fall into this category. It is wise to have another room or two dedicated to socializing & partying.
This is even more important if you have a small kitchen & need to lure people out of your working space.
Your living room or family room are good candidates for this job. If you have a private backyard, your patio or deck could also be great options. You can spice up the vibe by putting erotic video art on the TVs. Hegre.com & MetArt.com are good options for more sophisticated erotica. Be careful. Trashy porn can be a mood killer. If you are in doubt about how people will react, safer not to show anything.
If you want a more energetic vibe, consider muting the erotic videos & playing upbeat dance music. Make sure the music is playing from a dedicated device so a phone call from a late-arriving guest won’t play over your speakers.
Don’t use a free streaming service. Upgrade to commercial-free service to protect the sexy vibe.
Hide some naughty games in the corner of your socializing space. You want the option of playing games if you need to jump-start the flirting, but you don’t want the games to derail a connection already steamed up. We will discuss this more in the Games chapter.
These social spaces also serve to defend against drama. Some people might have an issue while playing. It might be a misunderstanding, some other trouble, or a question like switching from soft to full swap that can pop up. Having a calm non-play area lets people step back & deal with issues before they turn into messy drama. Providing a room where guests can get away from the sexy nakedness and sort themselves out is a great way to defuse potential drama.
We already talked about safeguarding your keepsakes and preparing for dirty bedsheets, so let’s focus on the sexier aspects of play areas.
Let’s start with lighting.
Swap out the regular bulbs for red light bulbs to create a more sensual (& flattering) space. You can also tape some fairy lights (or repurpose those white Christmas light strings) under the beds to create a subtle glow effect.
Don’t use real candles. You are likely going to be too busy to keep an eye on them.
It would be easy for them to start a fire or accidentally fall over, sending melted wax everywhere. You can also pick up a laser light projector that will shine a light show on your walls or ceilings.
Now let’s talk about music.
You might be playing dance music or another higher energy playlist in your non-play areas to encourage people to get up & move around. Those dance songs are probably not the best match in the play areas. Less music is better in play areas. You don’t want anything that might be a distraction. A weird song or an awful beat can ruin the sex vibe. Keep the music jamming in the communal areas where the focus is fun & partying. In the play spaces, help keep the focus on sexy activities. You can play a more sensual playlist at a lower volume in the play areas.
If you have a TV in the play spaces, you might want to play some porn on them. It is usually better to lean more towards artistic softcore porn or nude art model videos. More sensual to leave a bit to the imagination than playing badly exaggerated hardcore porn. Remember, this porn isn’t for masturbating but to create a sensual mood.
Let’s not forget about sensual smells with some aromatherapy. You can buy an electric diffuser and put in some sandalwood or lavender essential oils to add sensuality.
If you want to take it to another level, you can add sex furniture to your play spaces. You can buy a sex machine (Sybian, Motor Bunny, or Tremor). Or you can install a sex swing in the ceiling (they have fake smoke detectors to hide the ceiling anchor when not in use. Or pick up some sex pillows.
You could even dabble into BDSM and put up a St Andrews cross or spanking bench, which is also an excellent height for doggy style. If you have sex toys (corded magic wand or ride-on Sybian machine), have extension cords ready to go. You might want to tape down the extension cord to prevent a drunk guest from tripping and falling over it. We don’t want any injuries to your guests or the $1000+ Sybian machine.
After creating a super sexy play area, remember those sex supplies. A basket with assorted condoms (latex, non-latex, snug fit, magnum, etc.) & lube packets (you can order individual packs online) on both sides of each bed will be very helpful to keep the sex party rolling along. Someone always forgets to bring enough or leaves their swinger bag on the other side of the house. Make sure there are multiple wastebaskets in the play areas unless you like finding used condoms on the floor. Sigh, some people can be trashy.
If you don’t have much space, you can be creative. Some people will transform their basements or garages into playrooms. Those spaces might not bring a sexy image to your mind, but a bit of creativity can go a long way to transforming them into a royal harem playroom.
You can pick up some bargain oriental rugs from Craigslist or your local thrift shop to cover up any concrete or stained floors. Then put down an inflatable mattress & add a foam topper to make it softer.
Then pile on throw pillows (impromptu sex pillows) from the thrift shop.
You can pin up scarves or bed sheets along the walls to add to the ambiance and put in some lamps with red light bulbs. If there are bigger messes, you can cover them up with bedsheets so your guests won’t see your pile of garden tools in the corner. Be creative, and you can surprise yourself.
Also, be smart about which spaces you decide to use. There is not enough decorating magic in the world for you to convert your six-year-olds bedroom into a sexy play space. Block off those rooms. Sometimes the best decorating solution is to lock the door.
If you want to DIY some stuff, you can buy a bolt of red satin cloth that is 5 feet long wide & 60 feet long from Amazon or an arts & craft store. You can use that to drape over doorways, cover over a messy desk filled with paper, protect your couch. You could also cut up the fabric & use fabric tape to make sexy pillow covers which will sex up the ambiance & protect your pillows.
You might be thinking about using mirrors in your decorating. It can be hot having sex in front of a whole wall of mirrors, but we aren’t fans because of safety issues. It takes only one drunk person to slip and fall face-first into the mirror, and you have a medical emergency. Sadly, we know of this happening. Play it safe and avoid mirrors & other breakable things in your decorating.
Make sure to create a list of all your decorating tasks. This way, when you clean up the next day, you can rest assured knowing that you rolled everything back from debauchery to vanilla family friendliness.
Wicked Guide to Hosting Sex Parties
- Start Hosting Your Own Sex Parties
- Where to Host Sex Parties?
- Navigating Your Invite List
- Changing Vanilla Spaces Into Sexy Ones
- Designing Tips For Sex Spaces
- Crafting Your Sex Party Rules
- Top Pitfalls of Accepting Cash
- How To Feed Your Guests
- Choosing The Best Party Theme
- Games for Entertaining Swingers
- Tips From Veteran Sex Party Hosts
We hope you enjoyed reading this hosting guide! Remember, there is no single right way to host a great sex party. Be smart and adapt these things to fit your party & preferences best.