Frankly, house parties don’t need party themes. There we said it. It is easier for everyone to skip the theme most of the time. Guests don’t need to worry about costumes & hosts don’t need to worry about unique decorations or food & drink.
Some people think having sex with hot people can become boring without party themes. We wouldn’t want that to happen. So we put together a list of different party themes they can use to keep it fresh for those people.
We’ll also explain the common pitfalls with choosing sex party themes so you aren’t blindsided.
Trailer Park Party – Have fun & enjoy a more casual & playful atmosphere with ladies in halter tops or tube tops & daisy duke shorts, men in a trucker cap, worn graphic t-shirts & overalls.
Neon Nights: Bust out the black lights and feel the rave vibe with neon-colored clothes. You can setup up a neon body paint station to encourage people to add some extra spirit to their cheeks, hands, or arms and, of course, have a massive pile of glow sticks.
CEOs & Office Hoes: Put a sexy spin on your power suit. Grab that dress shirt, a silk tie, & maybe even add fancy suspenders. Match it with an inappropriately high slit or mini skirt. Unbutton too many buttons. Make an outfit that would give your HR manager a heart attack.
Hawaiian Luau: Perfect for a summer night. Bust out those tiki torches & grab your favorite Hawaiian shirt. Ladies can also go with a grass skirt or even a coconut bra. Give every guest a lai flower necklace as they enter. Go crazy with pineapples and coconuts (drinks, food, decor, everything). Some rum-soaked fruit kebabs can be a festive surprise.
Little Black Dress: One of the most flattering outfits to all ladies & we all have one! Make sure the men step up to match the ladies’ sexiness by encouraging them to wear jackets & button shirts.
ABC: Anything But Clothes. This is where people can be creative. Use bed sheets or duct tape, plastic wrap, body paint, repurposed twister mat, beer boxes, plastic bags, or anything as long as it is not clothes. It can be wild, but people tend to prefer themes with more guidance, and not everyone has free time to custom craft their sexy outfits.
Toga Party: For those who enjoy ABC but want more structure, toga parties are great. You can buy a costume or throw on a bedsheet (twist, fold, and tie it into place) and explore the debaucherous side of ancient Rome & Greece. Have grapes for people to feed each other, some drinking games, and crown people as different Greek gods.
Risky Business: The classic Tom Cruise movie where ladies wear men’s long button-down shirts and men come in their tighty whities as you all slide across the dance floor in your white socks. No trousers are needed at this party, but the classic black ray-bans are a nice added touch.
80’s Glam: Bring back the big hair, wild denim, and crazy neon. Take inspiration from the music videos from the ’80s like Madonna, Michael Jackson, Cher, or Whitney Houston.
Disco Glam: Let’s go back even farther to the 70s and relive the crazy disco days with those psychedelic polyester shirts & elevated heels to rock out under all of those disco balls. There can’t be enough glitter & glitz at this party.
Team Spirit: Have everyone wear their favorite sports jersey. It doesn’t usually lead to the sexiest looking outfits but is excellent for conversation-starting. That helps people feel comfortable & build better connections. You’ll probably have much higher participation with this one since many people won’t need to buy anything special.
Angels & Devils: People can choose to be an angel (wear all white) or be a devil (red & black clothes).
Viking Party: What can you do with a pair of Viking horns & fur costumes? An excellent theme for the chillier months.
Renaissance Faire/Medieval Party: Dress up as lords & ladies or perhaps a court jester & wench.
Casino Night: Perfect for mixing naughty games, but outfits can be iffy.
Mardi Gras: Swingers don’t need a reason to flash, but it’s a good option for that one week each year.
Black Tie: Men look great in tuxedos & don’t have enough reason to wear them.
Prom: Relive your high school dance with those bad hairstyles but better sex skills.
Masquerade: Break out the fancy masks & formal wear.
Rock & Roll: Dress up as your favorite rockstar or bust out your hottest fan gear.
Fairytale: Put a naughty spin on those nursery rhymes.
Graffiti Party: Bad, too messy, but leather biker outfits could be hot.
Latin Night: Bad, overplayed & too likely someone takes it to a cringe-filled place.
Shower Party: Put on your bathrobe or wrap yourself in a bath towel. It is time to let your rubber ducky have some of the spotlight.
Aliens & Astronauts: This sci-fi theme can let people go wild with creativity as aliens can be anything.
Wizards & Witches: Harry Potter fans can explore their magical sides with this theme.
Under the Sea: Mermaids & Mermen & everything else under those waves. Awesome theme for a hot summer pool party.
Superhero Party: Everyone has a favorite superhero so let’s enjoy some cosplay together.
Hottie Hospital: Doctors, nurses & patients in their naughtiest outfits. It can incorporate a bit of the medical fetish & roleplaying.
Bill & Ted’s History Party: Have people dress up as famous people from history. Plenty of conversation starters with this theme.
Apocalypse Party: Imagine zombies have taken over and others are trying to survive.
Olympics: Pick your favorite sport and win a gold medal. Great for groups that enjoy plenty of naughty games.
Back To School: Dress as a sexy principal, teacher, student, or school nurse.
Spicy Safari Trip: Grab your animal prints & swing through the jungle or go on the hunt.
Playboy Mansion: Better for older swingers that remember what a porn mag looked like. Guests can wear sexy silk pajamas & robes, lingerie, or a bunny costume. Remember to keep it elegant & not trashy.
Leather and Lace: Guests can come dressed in their hottest leather or lace outfit—plenty of lingerie & costume potential with this simple theme.
Saturday Morning Cartoons: Put a sexy spin on those classic cartoons. It can be tricky if your guests have a wide age range, they might not recognize the different cartoon costumes.
Revenge of the Nerds: Guests can let their inner geek out to play or dress up as the jock & cheerleader stereotypes.
Lumber Jack & Jill party: Embrace your outdoor flannel self. How hot can make flannel look? Great time to break out maple syrup cocktails.
Big Game Safari: Dress up as a hunter or your favorite big game animal.
Workout Bros & Yoga Hoes: Lean into those ridiculous gym outfits. Bust out your spandex, neon, headbands, or whatever else in your workout bag.
NSFW Christmas Sweater Party: See who can make their ugly Christmas sweater into a true NSFW masterpiece.
Many themes can too easily slide from a fun idea into sad regrets. Save yourself stress & avoid these types of troublesome themes. Here are the more typical party theme pitfalls:
Any theme that focuses on a specific race or ethnicity. Something like a Cowboys & Indians theme can quickly become very offensive towards Native Americans. It can start with ignorant good intentions & quickly slip into uber cringe territory, especially with people drinking and not thinking. Best to avoid them.
Too focused on drinking. Remember, swinger parties are about sexy times & not drunk times. Themes like Oktoberfest can turn into sloppy messes. Better to use themes with more non-drinking aspects. You don’t want people too drunk to consent and participate in the sexy times.
Avoiding generational niches. Swingers can span a wide range of ages. Think about who your guests will be, and pick a theme that will connect with all of them. Younger swingers in their 20s probably won’t relate to a Y2K party & older swingers in their 50s probably be a little lost with a Pokemon theme. Keeping it more generalized, like computer hackers instead of Y2K or Saturday morning cartoons instead of Pokemon, can avoid these pitfalls.
Don’t take away consent & situational awareness. Some people think it would be exciting to do a blackout party where no one can see anything. These are very high-risk themes. It is too easy to have a misunderstanding and people feeling violated and calling the police or their lawyers.
Don’t make it too complicated. Swingers enjoy dressing to the theme so make sure you keep it achievable. Going too crazy with the theme can result in no one participating. A 16th century Russian Tsar party theme is original but probably too difficult for most people.
Too few costume options. If you can’t think of at least five different options for men & another five for women, you might want to rethink the theme unless you want everyone to look almost identical. Swingers usually prefer the ability to be unique & special in their sexy costumes.
Degrading women or men. At first glance, a naughty schoolgirl party can sound hot but easily slip back into unsexy misogyny. Better to keep it more generalized as a “Naughty School Night.”
Be aware that if guests are bothered, they might not speak up to avoid drama. Steering away from problematic themes will open up your parties to more sexy people and keep the focus on naughty fun instead of headaches.
Wicked Guide to Hosting Sex Parties
- Start Hosting Your Own Sex Parties
- Where to Host Sex Parties?
- Navigating Your Invite List
- Changing Vanilla Spaces Into Sexy Ones
- Design Tips For Sex Party Spaces
- Crafting Your Sex Party Rules
- Top Pitfalls of Accepting Cash
- How To Feed Your Guests
- Choosing The Best Party Theme
- Games for Entertaining Swingers
- Tips From Veteran Sex Party Hosts
We hope you enjoyed reading this hosting guide! Remember, there is no single right way to host a great sex party. Be smart and adapt these things to fit your party & preferences best.