Do you know what type of sex party you are throwing, where it will be & how many are coming? Ok, then let’s talk about converting that vanilla space into shape for a sex party.
We’re sure you have a lovely house but it’s probably a vanilla house for family living. We want to transform it so it functions better during your naughty party & creates a sexy atmosphere for your guests. Let’s get to work!
First, let’s take a step back & talk about ensuring privacy for this naughty soiree. We want to ensure all the windows will be covered (including any windows on your front door). If someone is walking their dog past your house or hears noise & goes snooping, we don’t want them to see anything. Sheer curtains won’t be good enough. You will have plenty of naked people walking around inside your house. Make sure outsiders won’t see anything, including nude silhouettes.
While dealing with the exterior, consider placing an innocent-looking decoration outside of your house (sports flag, balloons, lawn chair, etc.) to help new guests locate your place & know they are knocking on the right door.
Now that we have the basics of ensuring privacy let’s start thinking about how we will sex up the mood in your different spaces (socializing spaces vs. play spaces).
The first thing is to remember that clean is sexy. No one likes to get naked in a dirty place. If you don’t have the time, hire someone to clean your home. Make sure the bathroom, kitchen & play areas are all nice & clean.
Supercharge your bathroom. Your bathroom(s) will be extra busy helping people in different stages of the party. A vanilla house party would suggest placing an extra roll or two of toilet paper. Maybe also add extra hand soap & clear out your prescriptions. That’s all good, but a sex party needs more. There will be plenty of sex, which brings up extra considerations.
To help the kissing, leave out mouthwash with disposable cups on the countertop as well as toothpicks.
Placing bowls of individually wrapped mints around all the rooms also helps.
A basket of feminine supplies, pain relievers, gas medicine, and band-aids is also helpful.
Don’t forget to have a noticeable wastebasket in the bathroom. Don’t leave a wastebasket in a pullout drawer that guests won’t know about. Make it obvious for them to find.
Clean up the tub area and place extra soap there because some people might need to shower after a long sex session. Have plenty of clean hand & wash towels, as well as a clearly labeled basket for dirty towels in plain sight. A house party can go through many, many bath towels as swingers will use them for clean-up between each play round. Make it easy for your guests to find supplies and clean up after themselves.
Pick up the bathroom rug and pack it away to save it from dirty footprints or worse. Look up at the bathroom ceiling and air vents, close the door and look around to make certain places you don’t usually notice are clean.
You might want to leave out a can of air freshener to help guests refreshen it. If you are going to light a candle in the bathroom (remember candles & air fresheners don’t mix well), make sure there is something underneath it to prevent it from burning anything. It might be many hours before you can check on your bathroom.
If you have a DIY bar area, you have plenty of options. You might want to keep it separate from the food area if you expect a large group.
This enables you to split the food line from the drink line, making them both move faster.
Let’s talk mixers and garnishes.
You don’t have to go crazy. Cover the basics (cola, diet cola, ginger ale, orange juice, cranberry juice). If you want to go fancy, you can make homemade simple syrups (a hunk of sugar dissolved into hot water then chilled) & flavor it by adding lemon juice or grated ginger into the hot water.
Better to stock your bar area with small cans/bottles of mixers. They make less mess if accidentally knocked over. Also, it will speed up the serving process because people won’t have to wait for a single bottle.
Best to stock the bar with plastic cups, even for wine. This way, you don’t have to worry about anyone stepping on a broken wine glass or having to deal with a big pile of glasses to clean the next day.
Some lemon & lime slices are also lovely for your guests making their drinks. Maraschino cherries can help jump-start some naughty flirting.
You can never have enough ice or water at a swinger party. Make sure you have enough to keep your guests’ beer chilled, and other ice will be needed for mixing into drinks & the third pile of ice for when either of those other piles melts down.
Even if it’s a DIY party, you might want to prepare a round of fun drinks for everyone to share. Err on the side of making the drinks too weak.
Swinger parties are more about sex & less about getting drunk. It could be something like Jello shots or blowjob shots (Baileys & Kahlua, then topped with whip cream & you can’t use your hands). You could also serve drinks in test tubes and then let guests drink them out of a lady’s cleavage. Be careful here. Not every female attendee might be comfortable with all the men at that party getting that close to her cleavage, so make sure all the ladies are paired up with men they like.
If you are supplying the alcohol for the party, a general rule of thumb is two drinks per guest for the first hour & one drink per hour after that. Better to go heavier with the beer & wine instead of liquor which can be too easy for nervous people to indulge too much accidentally. If you are buying beer, pay attention to the ABV. We want to skip the stronger beers.
If you see someone drinking too much, don’t be afraid of offering them a water bottle. That will subtly help slow down their alcohol intake. Sloppy drunks rarely lead to good sex.
To slow down drinking & improve the sexy fun, we like to provide a variety of non-alcoholic drinks.
This increases the odds of appealing to guests to go easy on the booze. Some non-alcoholic options are Arnold Palmer ice tea, fruit water infusions, lemon basil mojito mocktail, watermelon slushies, freshly squeezed lemonade, cranberry spritzers, orangeade, well you get the idea.
To speed up the serving of the drinks, consider making some pitchers of cocktails in advance. You can make sangria, mojito, or cosmopolitan in advance. Just remember it is safer to err on making the drinks a little weaker than usual.
To enjoy your party, consider hiring a bartender. They can truly be invaluable and provide you with an extra set of eyes to spot trouble & hands to empty the trash cans. If you have a bartender, make sure your bartender will have easy access to extra ice & supplies. You don’t want them to walk too far, leaving the bar unattended or having them distracted with scenes in the play areas. Also, make sure to ask the bartender if they will be comfortable with the party. Many bartenders will not feel comfortable, so make sure to ask when you hire them.
The reality is that accidents happen at sex parties. When you have people drinking, things can spill or be broken. If you open up your house to a large party with people you don’t personally know, someone might even take home a souvenir from your home.
Maybe they were too embarrassed to admit they broke it, or they were too drunk to realize it fell into their bag.
Sadly, things tend to go missing after a big house party.
To minimize these headaches, grab a box for each room and then fill it with all the irreplaceable things. Then put those boxes away in a part of your house that will be locked up. Swingers aren’t kleptomaniacs, but when people are drinking or desperately looking for an unoccupied play space, they might try to enter rooms; they shouldn’t be going inside. Locks can prevent those mistakes and keep people within the areas they should be.
If you don’t have locks, you could tape streamers across the doorway or hang a drape to hide it, making it crystal clear it shouldn’t be entered.
Since you will be stripping out of your clothes (this is a sex party), probably wise also to lock up your wallets & fancy jewelry before the party starts. This way, you don’t have to remember where you emptied your pockets the next day.
After you take away those critical items, it is vital to add in party helpers. Add wastebaskets all around. You want them anywhere people are eating & you’ll be grateful to have them in the play areas for the used condoms. The more wastebaskets, the less mess there will be to clean up after the party.
Prepare some spill kits. In a bucket, place a roll of paper towels, maybe a bottle of club soda or carpet cleaner in case red wine spills on the carpet, maybe add a garment stain remover in case someone spills on their clothes, & anything else that will help you.
If you have a large party with the play areas being used multiple times by different people, you might want to put spare sheets in each playroom and a laundry basket for the dirty used sheets. You can pack away the flat sheets, which will only be in the way of the sexy fun. We only needed fitted sheets for the play beds.
A waterproof protector would also be brilliant for all the play beds. Having extra fitted sheets nearby helps. You can put the spare sheets in a basket with a sign asking people to put on clean sheets after they use the bed and have a clearly labeled laundry basket for them to place the dirty sheets. If you don’t have extra sheets, you can buy cheap ones on clearance or at a thrift store. Don’t worry about the quality since you aren’t sleeping on them.
Wicked Guide to Hosting Sex Parties
- Start Hosting Your Own Sex Parties
- Where to Host Sex Parties?
- Navigating Your Invite List
- Changing Vanilla Spaces Into Sexy Ones
- Design Tips For Sex Party Spaces
- Crafting Your Sex Party Rules
- Top Pitfalls of Accepting Cash
- How To Feed Your Guests
- Choosing The Best Party Theme
- Games for Entertaining Swingers
- Tips From Veteran Sex Party Hosts
We hope you enjoyed reading this hosting guide! Remember, there is no single right way to host a great sex party. Be smart and adapt these things to fit your party & preferences best.