If you’re single but curious to get into swinging, or if your partner doesn’t want to swing but gave you the green light to try it, you might be more than curious to know if you can swing on your own. Simply put, you technically can. In reality, though, things are more complicated.
Single women interested in swinging will be pleased to know that all swinging communities will gladly welcome them. It doesn’t matter what type of sex you like (straight or bisexual); as long as you’re eager on joining horny couples for hot threesomes, you’re all set. In fact, single ladies are so desired in these communities that you’ll even get a fancy nickname. You’ll be called a unicorn.
Undoubtedly, swinging on your own as a woman comes with a bunch of advantages. You’ll get a lot of attention and will be invited at all the events hosted by your swinging club. However, there are a few things you should weigh in before joining.
The first thing you should consider before joining a swinging site or your local club is why you want to join this lifestyle without a partner. Maybe you just want to have as much fun as possible, and in this case, swinging on your own can be extremely rewarding. Swinging on your own can also be rewarding if you’re in a relationship, but your partner doesn’t want to swing. Just make sure you talk openly about it and have your partner’s permission before embarking in this adventure.
If you consider this lifestyle because you just ended a relationship and believe that having sex with other couples will help you get over it easier, joining a swinging club could be a bad idea. Although swingers treat their unicorn ladies very well, you’ll still be surrounded by couples who are there for sex only. Swingers don’t get emotionally involved with other swingers. You won’t receive the emotional support you might be seeking and seeing all those happy couples enjoying themselves could make you feel worse about your broken relationship. Not to mention swinging is not always easy and you will need to do a bit of work screening couples to make sure you meet with couples that are good matches for you and not just trying to use you as their sex toy.
Single men interested in the lifestyle don’t enjoy the same privileges as women do. You won’t get any special unicorn title and some swinging communities won’t want you at all. There is simply a much higher supply of single men wanting to be swingers than there is a demand for an extra single guy.
Many ignorant single men think swinging is just about sex and the swinging women are nymphomaniacs willing to play with any guy. Unfortunately these ignorant idiots give all the good single swinging men a bad name.
To get inside the swinging lifestyle, single men are going to have to work hard. Here are some options to help your chances:
- Check out Adult Friend Finder. This is one of the best options for single men because it puts you in front of swinging couples and regular horny singles. Make sure you upgrade to a paid account to distinguish yourself from the countless other single men. $20 a month is a bargain to meet other people that share the sexy swinging lifestyle attitude.
- Create a profile on the popular swinging site for your area and try to find a swinging couple for a threesome. Look up the profiles that are interested in threesomes. Make sure to upgrade to a paid profile to show you are serious and not a trouble maker trying to collect nude pictures.
- Find your own unicorn. Set up a profile on the vanilla dating sites that are non-monogamous friendly like OK Cupid and honestly share your perspective and preferences. There are many single ladies looking to date a man who is honest and secure enough to handle the swinging lifestyle.
Most swingers are interested in playing with other couples only. A small part considers threesomes, and even a smaller number of swingers is interested in MMF interaction. Many swinger couples get into the lifestyle because the lady in the couple wants to explore her bisexual side – so there might be no room for you into their private room.
Hooking up with single ladies in the vanilla world is much easier than it is to finding a connection as a single men in the swinging world. Don’t be surprised if you have more success in finding casual partners on regular dating sites than among swingers.
Swinging Successfully on Your Own
Whether you’re a man or a woman, there are a few rules to follow if you want your swinging experience to be successful.
First of all, understand that the concern of all swinging couples is the well being of their partner. Their primary relationship is all that matters to them, so don’t expect to get into swinging to find emotional connections.
Keep an open mind, have fun, and accept the fact that you might never see the couple again regardless of how hot your encounter was.
Also, play by the rule. Each couple might have their own, but they will all share their limits with you. Don’t push things, or they might push you away.
Ultimately, don’t get into swinging if you are hoping to find a partner. Most swingers already have a partner, and the few single swingers might not be interested in a relationship at all. Be respectful & understanding towards others. Swinging on your own is different but can definitely be just as fun as swinging as a couple.