Many people wonder are there are any black people in the swinging lifestyle. That is a simple answer – there are plenty of black couples and sexy singles in the swinging world. So what’s it like for black swingers? That is a much more complicated answer. We wish we could say that we live in a perfect color blind society but we all know that is just not reality. Here is a rundown of the more common questions related to our black swinger friends.
How to find black swingers?
Swingers are a reflection of the local population. If your local area has many African Americans, then expect to see many of them at the local swinger club. If you live in Wisconsin, then expect to find many hockey fans eating bratwurst. The local swinger parties are attended by the swingers that live in your local neighborhood (or at least within driving distance) so expect roughly the same demographics including the same cultural and minority groups.
Since the swinger clubs and parties reflect the local population and most cities don’t have a majority of black people, a black person is usually in the minority at lifestyle parties. Depending on the local area, you might be the only black people at a swinger event. It might not always feel comfortable being different and standing out in a crowd (especially if you are shy or an introverted swinger) but thankfully the swinging community is friendly and welcoming to all new people.
If you are trying to specifically connect with black swingers, there are some online groups on the swinger dating websites that you can join. These groups are helpful to connect with other local swingers. There are also some travel groups that cater to African American swingers. They will arrange hotel takeover parties for African American swingers (but all are welcome) because sometimes its nice to not be the only black person in a crowd.
Your best bet is to join the swinger dating site that is most popular for your local area and then look through the profiles for couples that you find attractive. It doesn’t really help to join a site if it doesn’t have many people in your local area.
Are there racist issues in the swinging lifestyle?
The swinging world is just like the real world. Usually there aren’t any racist issues but just like the real world it is not 100% sunshine and lollipops. Some swingers do mention or hint on their online swinger dating profile that they only want to meet couples of the same race. It is not common but it happens.
On the flip side, there are other couples that have turned brown skin into a fetish and actively seek it out. Be careful with those people. It might sound fun being in demand for the color of your skin but some of those people only see the color of your skin and not you as a person. They are more interested in the role play fantasy going on in their head and don’t value you as a person. These people aren’t interested in you as a sexy person. You are more like a sex toy in their role play fantasy. Thankfully, this is also not very common.
Most of the time with most swingers, the color of your skin doesn’t matter in the swinging lifestyle unless you have fallen asleep naked on the beach without using any sunscreen.
What about interracial swinging?
The vast majority of swingers pay much more attention to personalities and sexy smiles than skin color. Interracial swinging is very common among swingers that find a mutual attraction. Good sex is good sex regardless of the skin color involved.
There are a few small things to keep in mind. White swingers are usually inexperienced with how to touch or should we say not touch a black lady’s hair style. They don’t understand how common wigs and weaves are in the black community and aren’t always gentle with these sometimes fragile hair pieces. Non-black swingers can be ignorant about how the dangers of getting a black lady’s hair wet and the swinging lifestyle does like to spend a good bit of time in pools & hot tubs.
Another issue is the myth of black men all having giant equipment. The penis size myth still lives on with many people. The world will probably never run out of ignorant people. Don’t be surprised if you encounter people that think this myth is true especially if they are new to swinging. Some inexperienced couples may feel intimidated with a black couple because they don’t think they can compete with their sexual prowess. Thankfully this ignorance is short lived in the swinging lifestyle as people quickly become familiar with different cultures and people. Veteran swingers know that sexiness is a state of mind which is why interracial swinging is common.
Black Swinger Decoder List
The lifestyle has its own swinging vocabulary. You probably are already familiar with these many of these terms but just in case here are some related terms you might come across as a black swinger…
- BBC
- Big black cock. Like we said the myth lives on, despite scientific research showing we are all about the same.
- Bull
- This relates to the cuckolding fetish which can overlap with swinging but is a separate thing. A bull is the dominant male in a cuckold situation. The bull will have sex with the woman while the other man aka the cuckold does not actively participate. Not usually specific to skin color but the myth of black men having extra large equipment still lives on, so best to be aware.
- Queen of Spades
- Refers to white women with a strong sexual preference for black men. These ladies often wear a spade shape tattoo with a Q inside of the spade. Less common in the swinging space and more common with cuckolding couples.
- SBF
- Single black female. All single ladies in the swinging lifestyle are also called unicorns.
- SBM
- Single black male.
- SWF
- Single white female. All single ladies in the swinging lifestyle are also called unicorns.
- SWM
- Single white male.
- Vanilla
- Refers to non-swinging world, has nothing to do with skin color